[quote name='Nerdsy' timestamp='1300519484' post='705790']Oh wow. Best of luck man.[/quote]
[font="Calibri"]Thanks. =)
I feel I should probably clarify my intent with that post, besides the casual-shocker sort of thing that lovely out-of-left-field major decision announcements tend to carry. I don't believe life-changing events are necessarily always out of a person's individual control. I do know it's tough to accept and adapt to changes you don't have any choice in, especially when they don't seem to be good in any immediate way. Probably the simplest example would be just moving, whether it's across town or to another state, or to the opposite side of the country, or to a completely different nation. (Props to you, [color="DarkRed"]Korey[/color], for taking that head-on.) Stuff like that you may not look forward to, or even want at all, so yeah, I'd say it'd be difficult to want to pursue.
But then again, you never know what's down the road until you get there, and three years later when you look back, that's [i]that[/i] much more experience you have now that you didn't have starting out, and once you notice what's happened since the change, you might suddenly realise that you have gained an intangible something in the process that you wouldn't ever want to give up.
And then there's changes that you try to make for yourself, like a person tired of living in the slums their whole life and wanting to better themselves and rise up out of that, or like my decision to join the Navy (which honestly is because I feel I need a swift kick in the pants to get my life back in the gear it by rights should have been all along). These changes are ones you [i]want[/i], so obviously you know they're there, and you've accepted you need them, and you're actively pursing them because you believe you need them. You still don't always know whether they're going to be good or bad for you, but I think you're pretty sure you wouldn't try to go after them if you didn't think they'd help.
As for life-changing events that alter things for the worse.....I dunno. I'm not entirely certain I can agree to such a pessimistic thought. I mean, the best changes can be poisoned by a doggedly negative outlook, and so it holds that the worst things that can happen to someone can be turned into something better if that person chooses to keep their head about them. And I suppose I'm sort of biased as a Christian, since "...we know God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to his purpose."[sup]*[/sup] Doesn't necessarily say everything will always be sunshine and rainbows, but it [i]does[/i] mean that even the ugliest portions of our lives will have an end and will be useful for something, even if it's just helping someone else who ends up going through a similar set of trials.
In short, I guess, if the changes were so slow that I didn't notice them as they were working on me, I don't guess the other two questions would apply. But as long as I knew something was happening, and regardless of whether or not I liked it, I hope I'd have the maturity to know which ones to try and pursue, which ones to struggle with and bear until they passed, and which ones to avoid.
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[sup][size="1"]*[/size][/sup][size="1"]Romans 8:28 (NAS)[/size]
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