[quote name='Sangome' date='21 August 2010 - 12:32 PM' timestamp='1282419123' post='699704']
[color="#9932cc"][font="Microsoft Sans Serif"]Well, CaNz, I agree with your sentiment to an extent...however, I don't think she should be barred from "NEVER ASKING FOR HELP ABOUT FRIENDS EVER".
Don't get me wrong, though -- I agree that she[?] probably should have taken this somewhere more confidential, like in a private conversation with friends [whether the friends know this friend can be optional, since seeking advice outside of your normal group of peers can help sometimes]. Like White, I've been on the receiving end of the festering negative feelings, too [kinda going through it right now, actually...], and it sucks. [/font][/color]
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yeah, i was wrong to have put that feeling out there (i really didn't intend to)
really i was just trying to give my opinion on the matter which was that these arnt really honest questions and are merly more badmouthing, which was 100% of the first part of the post.
if she really was a friend at all, she might say i have a friend i am not getting along with, she does "things" (instead of listing them all, an obviously uncalled for and petty move) and then list the questions.
though when i saw the questions i was even more frustrated because most of them were more badmouthing.
[quote name='sakazaki' date='21 August 2010 - 07:43 AM' timestamp='1282401791' post='699686'][color="#2f4f4f"][size="2"][font="Tahoma"]
My question is...
1) Does being the only child in the family might actually cause her to act that way?
2) How should we talk to her nicely about asking her to change or something like that? Like, how should we start and how to go on from there?
3) I know ignoring won't work, but we're pretty attached too, so, is there a way for us to avoid her or something?
4) Do you think that being seriously pissed while explaining to her, like yelling and maybe getting a little physical after a few days of explaining to her in a nice manner will work?[/font][/size][/color]
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1) a slightly offensive to some, steriotype aimed at abusing a family issue she may or may not have had. what kind of answer can you give to that? she obviously just wanted another dig.
2)the only real question, however it puts the blame entirly on her friend, this one is not that bad aand i appologise for making it seem like no one could answer it.
3)i dont see how you could even mention his without being cruel. this is just another dig, as if saying she deserves to be ignored.
4)violence? really? this is just a pathetic attept to gain a justification for more cruelty, luckly everyone here knows better than to encorage that. there is always a better way to treat someone who thinks of you as a friend. (and that better way could be explained two questions earlier)
i only answered the second question, and in my opinion that was end it by any method as quickly as possible, because this friendship is not making her happy, and it is cruel to the friend.