I'm in some deep doo doo now.

[Darkness]

Man o man, I've really done it this time. On Thursday night (Halloween), My roomate, some other friends, and I went out to a couple of costume parties. Well, these two girls that were with us both had a thing for me. Granted, it doesn't sound too sticky now, but let me introduce the alcohol.

So we're all pretty trashed and dancing, my roomate is with one girl (we'll call her Kay) and I'm with the other (we'll call her Dee). Well, Dee starts making out with me right there. I'm not really feeling it and I stop her making sure the whole time that Kay never saw. (Kay is who I'm more interested in) So, the song changes and my roomate and I switch dance partners. In this case, it's just innocent dancing. The song end and I pull my roomate to the side and ask him what the hell to do. I break down the whole scenario and give my thoughts on the matter. Problem is that some random guy is off to the side eavesdropping on my whole conversation. Later on, he finds an opportunity to talk to Dee, and repeats everything that I said. None of us even know this guy, so I have no idea why he did it. Now I'm screwed.

See, Dee and I messed around some last year, and she ended up being the cause of all my unnecessary drama. I told my roomate how I would rather not have to deal with her another year, and how Kay is only going to be here for a semester and that she is really the one I want. Well random guy made sure to tell his rendition of the story in a less than flattering light. He made me sound horrible, and now both girls are extra pissed at me. I knew that I couldn't have either one of them (they are friends afterall), but I still want they're friendship (which I'm am in a good position to lose). How the hell am I going to get outta this one?

[Genkai]

hmm.. im not sure, but how bout let them be pissed at you? i mean, it'll wear off, send an apology emailseperately to each of them or something. meh, im not much help....

[Darkness]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by genkai [/i]
[B]hmm.. im not sure, but how bout let them be pissed at you? i mean, it'll wear off, send an apology emailseperately to each of them or something. meh, im not much help.... [/B][/QUOTE]

I would let it go, if it weren't for Dee. She's gonna be around as long as I am and she talks to most of my friends. The stuff that I said wasn't very nice, and the random guy made it sound even worse, and Dee is someone that I'll have to deal with. By leaving it alone, I run the risk of her badmouthing me to my other friends as well.

[Phantom]

umm...your ****ED MAN... the first thign i do is beat the hell out of the eavesdropper and find some new girls...simple as that.. if ure that kinda guy... honestly... new crowd.. but than again this is coming form a married man who would never leave the girl i want lol.. i cant help u much

[Darkness]

Oh yeah, believe me, if I see random guy anywhere on campus, I'm backhanding him. Hopefully, he'll swing at me so that I can whoop him and not get in too much trouble. Guys like that are usually sissys, so he'll probably run as soon as he sees me. (If he's smart.)

[BabyGirl]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Mystic's Knight [/i]
[B]umm...your ****ED MAN...[/quote][/b]

[color=deeppink]Nah, he's not ****ed. Darkness, I'd say that you should talk to both girls separately and explain the truth; disproving whatever the snitch told them that made them so mad. They should be reasonable enough to at least listen to what you have to say :)[/color]

[quote][i]Originally posted by Mystic's Knight [/i][b]
but than again this is coming form a married man who would never leave the girl i want lol.. i cant help u much [/B][/QUOTE]

[color=deeppink][Er...how old are you?][/color]

[Darkness]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by BabyGirl [/i]
[B][/b]

[color=deeppink]Nah, he's not ****ed. Darkness, I'd say that you should talk to both girls separately and explain the truth; disproving whatever the snitch told them that made them so mad. They should be reasonable enough to at least listen to what you have to say :)[/color][color=deeppink][/color] [/B][/QUOTE]

I can explain the truth, but thing is; it actually is the truth. All I can hope to do is clarify and soften the blow. Also, I forgot to mention that Dee is really brash and abrasive. It'll take me forever just to calm her down. I haven't known Kay for that long, so I don't know how she'll be. I just know that right now, as we speak, Dee is filling Kay's head up with every possible negative thought that she has (they live next door to each other).

[Phantom]

babygirl.. my profile says im 18...but ok.. ile tell you..

Babygirl im 18...

[Anna]

Hmm........ well then.... sucks to be you! Sorry.

Yeah, just clarify and soften the blow. And definately don't ignore the situation and avoid confrontations. Confront as soon as possible. That's really all I can offer in terms of advice for now.

[Darkness]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Anna [/i]
[B]Hmm........ well then.... sucks to be you! Sorry.

Yeah, just clarify and soften the blow. And definately don't ignore the situation and avoid confrontations. Confront as soon as possible. That's really all I can offer in terms of advice for now. [/B][/QUOTE]

Yeah, it does suck to be me right now. I'll think that I'll IM Dee right now and set up a time I can talk to her on the phone or something. (I'm in a school computer lab now, writing a paper.)

[Lady Asphyxia]

[color=darkred]I suggest you wait for [i]just[/i] a while, to let them calm down. Say, a few days. I know whenever I hear somethng thats less than great or am angry at someone I need a few days to think it over, sort it out, and get over it. Then, say something. I don't know her, and I don't know how'd she'd react, but try to explain to Dee first. Dee is the one you've known longer, and who'd probably be more upset with your insults.

Or, you can acept that you stuffed up, and that they're angry at you and give up on it, then get over it...your choice.

Other than that, I can't help you.[/color]

[Darkness]

Well, here's what I did. I sent Dee an Im last night, like I said I would. I talked to her, clarified the best that I could and apologized. I was a man about it. I let her know that I value her friendship and don't want to lose it. It's all I could do. She is still mad, but I'll give it time to marinate, now that I've said my piece. Hopefully she'll get over it, but alot of girls are pretty fickle, so I haven't the least clue to how it will all turn out.

I did what I had to do, and I'll leave it at that. I still have alot of pent-up agression, but trip or two to the weightbench ought to clear that up. Oh well, I tell you guys when something else happens! (Like if I run into Random Guy)

[Dragon Fou Lu]

fighting this random guy won't exactly help.

sure you'll feel good but he'll want a piece of you next time he sees you.

[Justin]

The best thing you can do is try to talk it out with your friends. I wouldn't advise that you pick a fight with 'old buddy'. Just leave him alone, and he'll get what's coming to him in time.

-Justin

[Darkness]

I talked to Dee, but haven't seen any true benefit yet. I'm not going to sweat over it, as I've done all I can do. As for Random Guy, I just wanted to smack him once, but I was extra angry about it before. I've calmed down now. I'd still ask him what exactly he got out of it, beside knowing that he messed up two friendships. I'm eager to see how he answers. But I don't swing at anyone unless I have a perfectly good reason (although slapping him once would give me a small taste of revenge). I'll let the "goes around comes around" rule take effect for now.

[GotenksSSJ343]

Well if you talked it out with Dee then see might forgive you and tell kay that you ment no harm. And as far as Mr. Random guy let him go were only human we all like this guy ( but what he did was very ignorant and most likley a begging for a smack in the face) we make mistakes.


But in the end I hope it will all turn out good for ya Darkness. :)

[Darkness]

You're right. I haven't talked to Kay yet, because she is a fireball and I thought that letting her calm down would be good. Some time has past now (on thursday it will be a week) so maybe it's time. I don't know her all that good, so I have no idea how well my apology will be received. I'll IM her later.

[Solo Tremaine]

If IMing doesn't work, try and see them in person, or at least try and talk to one of their friends about how they feel. They're the ones who you'll get the most accurate answer out of, most likely, providing you don't find one who stirs things up. Once you've done that, ask them to pass them a message. I wouldn't rely on IM- it's too impersonal and it's easy to hide what you really feel. Maybe try a hand-written note. It's more theraputic to get your feelings really down on paper, and they may be more likely to accept it. But the thing to do is not to go looking for Mr Random Guy as fighting him even with good intentions would you look worse.

Good luck, and remember- no-one can bear a grudge forever. The main reson they may be upset is the shock of hearing it, and it didn't help that this guy pumped things up nastily. Make sure they know how you feel, not how someone else says you feel.

[Darkness]

Thanks for the words of wisdom Solo. I actually talked to Dee on the phone, Sunday night. I just sent Kay an IM a second ago telling her that I apologize and I'm really sorry. Now I'm done. I've done all that I can really do, so now I just have to wait and see how things play out. My only concern is that Dee likes to keep **** going, and will probably fill the other's head until she herself gets over it. She has caused me alot of drama in the past, and I value all of my friendships, but I realized today that if she never spoke to me again, I can't say that I'd be overly upset. I don't like unnecessary drama, and she likes to donate it generously(sp?). But I'd rather have everything work out foe the best, I just know not to let her mess around with me.

[Solo Tremaine]

If you've done all you can do then there isn't really much left to say, then. It may always be something that lingers. Not prominently, but just in the backs of their minds, and it's possible it'll be thrown out in moments of tension. Like you said, you'll just have to wait and see what happens.

I wouldn't advise trying to stop being friends with Dee, but if you think she's going to be trouble then it may be an idea to distance yourself from her for a while to let her fully cool down, and if things persist then just to increase the distance. If needs be talk to her about it, but the best thing to do is to keep your cool and not try and apologise too much- keeping it in their minds only prolongs bad feelings. It was a mistake and they should know that. Being forced into a blazing row won't help anyone to let it pass.

[Tien]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Darkness [/i]
[B]Thanks for the words of wisdom Solo. I actually talked to Dee on the phone, Sunday night. I just sent Kay an IM a second ago telling her that I apologize and I'm really sorry. Now I'm done. I've done all that I can really do, so now I just have to wait and see how things play out. My only concern is that Dee likes to keep **** going, and will probably fill the other's head until she herself gets over it. She has caused me alot of drama in the past, and I value all of my friendships, but I realized today that if she never spoke to me again, I can't say that I'd be overly upset. I don't like unnecessary drama, and she likes to donate it generously(sp?). But I'd rather have everything work out foe the best, I just know not to let her mess around with me. [/B][/QUOTE]


Hm.....I'm guessing Dee and Kay must know random guy cause you wouldn't exactly believe someone you don't even know that he said something horrible about you.

[Darkness]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Tien [/i]
[B]Hm.....I'm guessing Dee and Kay must know random guy cause you wouldn't exactly believe someone you don't even know that he said something horrible about you. [/B][/QUOTE]

No, random guy is a total stranger. What happened is that Dee asked my roomate and him confirmed it. He was covering his own ***, cause he figured that she was trying to see if he would lie. He is one of my best friends, but I have been suspect of him lately. When it comes to anything concerning girls, I know where his loyalties lie, and it's not with me. Gives me an idea for another thread actually......