Long Distance Relationship!!!!!

[Hinata]

[COLOR=purple]This is for anyone who has been in relationship... esp. those who've dealt witha long disatnce relationship(LDR). right now I am involved in and LDR and my bf hasn't called me in a month.. I just wrote him and said that he has 2 wks. to call write do something or its over...but I know that no matter what he does I think I should break it off. Do you think its the right thing to do...Cause I don't know what he's doing and I don't wanna think that he's doing wrong. I trust him but I can't handle it any more!!!
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[Dragonz Fyre]

Long distance relationships are hard, I was in one for 2 1/2 years. If I were you I'd break it off, but im not you so...yeah. Anyway, your right, you can't be sure what he's doing but try and talk to him, how far of a distance is it?

[Hinata]

He's on J-ville,FL..and I live in a small town about 200 miles south!!!

So he's not too far away..but then and again...He is!!!

[Lilac oranges]

i was in a LDR for about 6 mnths but because of sercumstances we lost contact and after about 3mnths i stopped trying to get back in contact and when i nice guy asked me out i said yes....then i ran into someone who could give a message to my LDR fella....we got back in touch and i found out that he still wanted to go out with me....so give it some time because the short of this is i'm in great relationship now but i'm missing out on being with my ldr bf, so give it a chance it may just be that your other hasn't had a chance to call or something is stopping him from doing something! :)

[Justin]

I really don't think most people on these boards are mature to handle a long-distance relationship(myself included). But, to each his own.

-Justin

[aka Topaz]

[SIZE=1]hey i can totally compare to the situation, my boyfriend just left yesterday to the marines!!! hes going to bootcamp for 3 months, then hes gone for 4 years. But we are trying to work it out, he got my name tattooed on his left chest [over his heart] and i got his name tattooed, ..well i wont go there, but we committed ourselves, and i think this is a test in life, everything happens for a reason, and maybe this is a way to test our love, either way we both think we will make it in the end, its not like he is gone forever he is still alive. if you guys were meant to be then in the end it will be worth it. Just wait for his letter, you'll know if hes the one or not. Good luck[/SIZE]

[Mitch]

[color=red] A long distance relationship, from what I have seen, rarely works. A relationship is supposed to be you and someone else getting to know eacheother, not worrying what someone's doing or if they even care about you. They just don't work.

The only way I could see a relationship such as the one you have now is if you constantly wrote, talked, whatever every single day.

I'm also with Justin: Most aren't mature enough. And it is highly doubtful any of us here on the boards are.[/color]

[Phantom]

I am involved in a rather grueling long distance relationship that IS working...and quite well. we are stonger than some legally married couples. Look Sweet... there was a time when i lost the net, and the capability to contact her in any way.. a full month.. sure she lost hope...she ...did a couple things with a couple guys...hurt herself beyond repair... ide hope u dont lose it..please...give him the benefit of the doupt... she didnt give me the benefit of the doubt..but she still loved me..Sheiz..just be calm give him a little over a month... the next time you two talk.. if he doesnt seem EXTREMEMY releived to talk to you..than he doesnt love u and you should break it off at all costs..even if it kills you..cuz he dont care bout you..but at least give him the benefit of the doubt..trust me it wont hurt to wait... it is not good to have a heart attack because of it.. i promise it will be ok as long as u can wait... even if you have to break up..at least u know it was for the best.

[Hinata]

Justin and Mitch...although there are many ppl on the boards who coud help out I think I got just enuff ppl to answer me and give me their opinion...and the one that I feel is leaning towards what I'm thinking is by.....*opens envelope* Mystics Knight...I'll try to hold on a little longer and hear his point of view..(when and if he calls) but I also belive that Mitch has a point though...BUT NO MATTER... I'll just let time takes its course!!!!

[Kent]

I'm speaking out of straight up experience.

I had honestly fallen in love. The only time ever, I'm sure because I didn't know until it was just about too late.

My girlfriend and had been seperated by my moving across the country.
I really am devestated now.

I can't go into the specifics because there is no point.

I want to give you advice.

Go ahead and end it, but not because of the reasons people end it when they are close together. Do it because you are far apart.

You have no control over the fact that you can't be with each other, and with that in mind, it's best to let it go and have happiness in your heart.

If you can by some chance get back to each other, that would be great, but other wise, don't try and fool yourselves.

I loved her, but I couldn't let her be held back by the fact that she kept me in mind, yet could never be with me.

If you truly care for him, let him go. Most guys arent even sincere enough to care, but you, your a girl, and girls care.

You have the "emotional I.Q." to let him go because you are a girl.

Let it pass, but do it because you both care and want each other to be happy.

Not because he cant meet a deadline.

although, I really do feel for you.
Im sorry.

[Semjaza]

I had a girlfriend who lived 9 hours away. We were together just shy of 7 months. I really don't recommend long distance to anyone. I don't feel like getting into the details on here though.

[Justin]

I can only imagine how hectic a mature long-distance relationship could be, because I've never had one. I doubt I ever will. It's just not my cup of tea.

But if you think you're mature enough, then I say that you should go for it.

-Justin

[Ravenstorture]

[COLOR=darkgreen][FONT=gothic]Mature enough? Excuse me? What?

Anyway. My love lives twenty minutes away and I see him every day at school and on most sundays and it's still painful when I don't see him. I cannot imagine what it is going to be like when I leave the country for a year, I am not even going to comprehend the pain and suffering I would feel if he lived in another place far, far away.
But I figured this out about love - the highs are higher, the lows are lower, more frequent and stretched out. The highs are so worth it though. I know he loves me. We're not married yet, still at school, rather young, no tattoos or anything like that (yet)... but if he moved away and wasn't "faithful" to me I would be happy! I would enjoy the fact that he was relieving the agony. Love is happiness for itself. His happiness is my happiness is his happiness. I live for nothing else. I would simply be as happy as I could be, and enjoy myself as much s I could, and hope that he would be doing the same. We still wouldn't do anything because the knowledge that we both love each other is bliss enough. It's rather sad I don't know anyone else in this kind of relationship. I would feel empty, though... he is my other half. All the different ways of interpreting the word "relationship"...[/color][/font]