Different?

[Anna]

It all boils down to a person's background and their fundemental character. It all depends on where a person has been brought up and how they were raised, and what kind of person they are today. I have met white guys who have lived and been brought up in "the ghetto" in whom I have nothing in common with. I have also met African-American guys who have had a good upbringing in a rather middle-class society and weren't exposed to a lot of the trials people who live in "the ghetto" have to go through, and I found that I get along much better with these African-American guys than I do the other white guys. I am 'white', and so you see color really doesn't matter. I would choose an African-Amercian or any other ethnicity with good values and strong character over a white guy who was lacking in one of those catagories any day. I think that where you live would definately play a factor in all of this. Right now I'm living in Georgia....... and oh my goodness if I were seen dating a black guy... >< of course I wouldn't give a rip, but you see what I'm saying. However I'm [i]from[/i] Utah, and race isn't an issue *at all* there. There are actually more Asian-Americans that any other ethnic minority I think... but anyway, I suppose living there for quite some time has affected my opinion about all this. I really don't see the big deal with color. Sure, there's some culture attached to that color, but hopefully the two cultures wouldn't be so extreme as to inhibit two people from being together.

[Phantom]

uh...

[quote]Stupid computer nerds[/quote]

I resent that comment! *looks ashamed* ...oh well, You were only kiddin' heh.

[Transtic Nerve]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Mitch [/i]
[B][color=red] You're talking an intimate relationship here, right?

Not of another gender I wouldn't. I'm straight as the river does flow, straight as linear is straight. So not in that case. I've never even dated before, so, I'm open to dating someone of the [i]opposite[/i] sex, though.[/color] [/B][/QUOTE]

I'm talking about dating, whether intimate or not. Depends on your defifinition of intimate. Anyway, I also made it clear I was not refering to straight people dating someone of their same race. I said what I meant when i said "regardless of gender" above in this topic.

[Phantom]

Im straight too but the sex of my lover really doesnt matter....LOVE is the key here and Mitch didnt your common sense kick and and tell you that he was just keeping the doors open to ANYONE with any type of love preference :-D

[Mnemolth]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Sara [/i]
[B][size=1]I've never dated....anyone. So I guess the issue has never come up.[/size] [/B][/QUOTE]

Hmm.....someone's been in the belly of their beast for far too long. Methinks Jonah should get out and get a new perspective. :D

Would I date someone from a different race? Sure! I have nothing against purple people. :D

[Char!]

[color=teal][size=1][b]Or teal people, for that matter.

Nah, I got no problem with this.

But ask the KKK people presently holding a rally outside of our city hall, and they may give a different response. *growls* God, I hate those stupid KKK people...


--Mike
"char,char!"[/b][/color][/size]

[Sara]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Mnemolth [/i]
[B]Hmm.....someone's been in the belly of their beast for far too long. Methinks Jonah should get out and get a new perspective. :D[/B][/QUOTE] [SIZE=1]Begging thy pardon?[/SIZE]

[Mitch]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Mystic's Knight [/i]
[B]Im straight too but the sex of my lover really doesnt matter....LOVE is the key here and Mitch didnt your common sense kick and and tell you that he was just keeping the doors open to ANYONE with any type of love preference :-D [/B][/QUOTE]

[color=red] Well, I take all things rather literally in some cases. It usually tends to matter in what mood I'm in...

But, yeh, I took it rather literally.[/color]

[Mnemolth]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Sara [/i]
[B][SIZE=1]Begging thy pardon?[/SIZE] [/B][/QUOTE]

Its just a remark dudette. Take it as you will. Although personally, I've never found navel flint to be particularly interesting...:D

[Nerdsy]

[COLOR=deeppink]I don't date much, but it would never bother me if they were of a different race. Of course, if they had a different religion then I did, it might get a little uncomfortable. [/COLOR]

[Omar Harris]

I've only been on five dates so far. Two with a girlfriend, or excuse, a girl with whom I had an 8th grader's falsified perception of a relationship, two with a girl I didn't really like and one with a friend whose flirtations are leading the wrong way. My 8th grade girlfriend was white (I'm black) and I'v pursued a bi-racial girl(half-white, half-black), a korean girl, two black girls, and a white girl, and despite having the charm of Cedric the Entertainer, and the looks of Morris Chestnut, ok that's pushing it, pretty decent looks, I've failed.

Anyway, what I'm getting at is that I don't mind or care what color the woman is. Hey, I'm a sci-fi/cartoon/anime/comic book geek, I don't have time or patienc to be picky about who I date. But religious creed is different because of the fact that there are some religions that have stric rules that Idon't think I could adhere to ( i.e Islam) I'm Baptist, which, granted, is the provider of the crazy church services you may ever see, but I couldn't date someone of a religion that had some sort of ideal I couldn't feel comfortable with (for instance the Muslim creed against pork and no relationships outside the religon) If I knew I could stand changing my believe for someone I truly loved then I would do it.

[july]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Transtic Nerve [/i]
[B]This is just a curious topic for me.

I was wondering if anyone here has, is, or would be willing to date someone, regardless of gender, who is outside their race. Or maybe someone who has a different cultural background.

My brother is getting married in 7 months to a Puerto Rican girl, who I have nothing against (she gave birth to my beautiful neice, however not the only reason that I like her), and their values and culture is hugely differnet than mine or my families. It's not a abd thing, for I always love learning about new culture and people, but it's just weird. My brother plans on having like...25 people from our side of the family at his wedding... she plans on having 200... I was like... "say what now?" ::faint::

My boyfriend is from England and that culture is also somewhat different, although not so much. He may not be of a different race, but it's still a different culture and it's still having to deal with something different.

So I was wondering if anyone here has had to deal with a culture shock or if you've dated/dating a person of different race, how does it differ from your own values and culture and how do you deal with it. [/B][/QUOTE]

okay, look, maybe it's because i'm puerto-rican but i don't see anything worth arguing about here. if he has a problem with how many people she invites to a wedding, he should tell her. they have a child together and are planning on sharing the rest of their lives together and they should be honest with each other. culture should have nothing to do with marriage, the only factor in their wedding should be love. personally, i do not care if i have a big wedding or not, as long as i'm not getting married for financial or social issues. at my wedding, if i invite anyone, the only person i'd invite my cousin olivia. but that's off the subject. if it matters so much to you transtic nerve, maybe you should ask her why she's inviting all those people. maybe it's because she needs some sort of psychological approval or something...
i don't know if what i said makes sense to anyone but what i'm trying to say is that it doesn't matter what you are, it matters why you are what you are. and i'd date anyone as long as they appeal to my perverse interests. :tasty:

[Transtic Nerve]

I don't think he does care. I never said he did. And if he did, which he has no reason for, he would tell her. No one has a problem it's just I didn't expect that many people in one tiny church... esspecially the difference between my side and her side... I just said "200 people is alot" and it is... Don't get your panties in a twish because you interpreted what i said wrong.

[july]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Transtic Nerve [/i]
[B]I don't think he does care. I never said he did. And if he did, which he has no reason for, he would tell her. No one has a problem it's just I didn't expect that many people in one tiny church... esspecially the difference between my side and her side... I just said "200 people is alot" and it is... Don't get your panties in a twish because you interpreted what i said wrong. [/B][/QUOTE]

i guess i should feel special that you replied just for me. 200 people is a lot, i agree with you on that, i don't even think there's twenty people i care about enough to invite to anyone's wedding, especially my own, but if that's not the point then why bother mentioning it? (and who said i wear panties?)

[liamc2]

[b]*In reply to the first question*[/b]

I would have nothing against dating someone from another culture/race as you put it, but I would obviously have some grievances if that culture involved eating new boyfriends/husbands after roasting them over a slow flame, then like I said, obviously there would be some grievances on my behalf.

Funny really, I come along to this topic after finishing my English Essay exam this morning on [u]'To Kill A Mockingbird'[/u]*

Further amusement comes from the fact that I chose my essay to be about prejudice and it's roles in the novel...very interesting indeed...


*just to be clear, I'm not that great a fan of [u]TKAM[/u], as a matter of fact I despise it, the 'movie' we were pressured into watching also continued to pronounce my feelings. With books on racial topics and prejudices, I prefer [u]The Color of Water[/u]