Phantom Posted November 22, 2002 Share Posted November 22, 2002 Ok, here is the deal?. I live in Canada and my significant other lives in New Orleans. I am weak as hell and cannot fight for the life of me. This is yesterday?s news. That is not the point. All I know is that what I am told is that I will need to learn how to fight to protect my girl once I move down. Ok that?s not new news either, because obviously I knew that. But the fact is that this info is coming to me from someone who doesn?t even really know me. Ok names withdrawn, I want to get a feel for this whole issue. I know I cannot fight, but I know there MAY come a time when I have to fight for her. I don?t believe that will happen, but what the hell is this guy talking about? He is telling me I AM going to have to fight people for her, and that I AM going to either beat them or be beaten up myself. I don?t get it because he lives in New Orleans too, and maybe I should put some credibility onto his words, but in the end, I reallllly don?t want to fight ANYONE at all. What I am wondering is if he is just trying to get me edgy about it?I?m just sick of everyone having to try to put more **** onto my shoulders each day, some one has to try to make my life more stressful just because they can. I tell him that I won?t want to fight anyone, but he tells me that I am just going to wind up dead if I don?t learn to fight. I don?t think that I am going to partake in any type of event that will result in me having to fight for her. Anyway!!!!!! After telling him that if I ever have to get myself beaten on, that I will just move back up to Canada with my girl?and than I won?t have to worry about fighting every where I go. And he tells me that I am just running?and that running gets you no where. I promptly tell him to Off!, and that he doesn?t even know me, he doesn?t even know who the hell I am. And I asked him why he thinks he knows everything. He responded with, ?you keep telling yourself that?, and than something about me always challenging what he says, is why he thinks he is right. This mostly disturbs me because he is a good friend of my gf?s and apparently he likes me. I don?t get it because what he tells me just adds to the anguish of doing all this moving. Tell me, from what I have put forth (which prolly wont concur with his side of it) what should I think? Hell..Am I reallllly in the wrong or is he just being an ***? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Semjaza Posted November 22, 2002 Share Posted November 22, 2002 I don't really understand his motives for wanting to fight you in the first place... Can you explain that at all, or do you not really know? I'm not really clear if it's him wanting to fight you... or if there are other people who want to fight you heh. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phantom Posted November 22, 2002 Author Share Posted November 22, 2002 Oh no... he doesnt want to fight me... he is just adding stress to my every day life by telling me he wants to teach me how to fight once i move down so i can protect her... I mean as if i already have enough ****** stress on my mind right now about just moving gettin a job and supportin her... gosh i dont want him to tell me i will die if i dont fight.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Semjaza Posted November 22, 2002 Share Posted November 22, 2002 Okay... then my next question is: What is it that you are protecting her from exactly? I don't quite understand the motives behind these people that want to fight you... It seems really strange. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phantom Posted November 22, 2002 Author Share Posted November 22, 2002 Thats what i am getting at too!! I have no reason to fight anyone.. i have no reasons to protect her from nothing... i think he is tryin to scare me or somthign but either way i hate it i hate it!! .. you gota understand that i dont know his motives.. i dont know wat he thinks he is achieving by doin this to me but i do know what the produce of wtever he is doin is.. its makin me feel like he thinks he is the know all and end all and that wether i like it or not. he is right.. ... i dont know what his motives are..ask him.. his account on OB is 'Medra' ... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Semjaza Posted November 22, 2002 Share Posted November 22, 2002 It sounds like his motives are to keep you away completely... He knows you don't want to (or can't) fight, so maybe he is hoping that will make you stay away completely. IT almost seems like he wants you out of the girls life.... maybe he likes her himself? I suppose that's one possibility, although a pretty odd one. I dunno man, the whole thing seems really fishy either way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phantom Posted November 22, 2002 Author Share Posted November 22, 2002 i am pretty sure he dont want my danni...they nothign more than friends..but up until now... he has never really attacked my reasons for anything... i dont know wats goin on any more... i just hate all this god damned extra worry Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amphion Posted November 22, 2002 Share Posted November 22, 2002 Well, its true that it could come up, usualy doesnt for most people but their is a slight possibility. And if it does come up, your going to want to be able to protect her. You dont need to know how to fight though, you just need to learn to use different strategies and tactics. For instance: The "SNEAK ATTACK". IF someone starts dissing your girl or messing with her, act like your just gonna take it and leave, then when he is not looking, take a chair, poolstick, trashcan, ect. to the back of his head. The "PHSYCO". I dont really suggest this one but it could work. Go phsyco on the guy and hope that he gets scared. Low probability of success, but may work. The "Nut-Shot". This technique will put any real man down. I dont suggest a real hard shot because that usual gives you a delayed effect were it actually nums them first and then later the pain starts to creep in. Go for a medium powered shot. Foot or hand, which ever you feel most comfortable with. After he is stunned start beating the crap out of him the best you know how. humor aside, these are legitimate techniques. There's other things you could do to even the score but you will just have to think about it and be creative. Im not trying to add stress or anything. Just Be creative, some of the best fighters in the world are not that strong at all, they just use their head. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phantom Posted November 22, 2002 Author Share Posted November 22, 2002 Im starting to think he just doesnt know wtf he is talking about..Honest... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Hikaru Ichijyo Posted November 22, 2002 Share Posted November 22, 2002 :) Ok first off let's all use a theory that's called common sense Mk. Think about this logically you say you don't even know this guy right? Well has it ever occurred to you that he might just be a jealous Ex-Boyfriend putting stuff in your head to give you grief over nothing. It's sad to say this but we live in a world of lies and deceit and when anyone can do something to malitiously hurt you for their own benefit they will do so that's what the "real world" is all about. Another interesting point that I'd like to bring up is that fighting will get you nowhere. So even if this uncredible source has some truth to it, violence or learning to fight will get you nowhere. Don't take this the wrong way but the whole fighting or playing the part of the Knight in Shinning Armor for a girl is dead. Fighting is pointless and should always be avoided at all cost. Now I really don't know much more about your situation. Like have you even spoken to your gf about this guy? I think you may be overreacting about this situation a little too much. :( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vegeta rocker Posted November 22, 2002 Share Posted November 22, 2002 Nobody is worth fighting for (except Vegeta) You can't be expected to learn how to fight before you move back down (unless you're vegeta) You shouldn't let it bother you(unless you're Vegeta and you take everything personal) If it's true you're jacked, if it isn't you're jacked because you stressed out over learning and thinking about it. I say you worry about the problem when you get there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
James Posted November 22, 2002 Share Posted November 22, 2002 [color=royalblue]This is one of the most ridiculous situations I've seen. Why would Medra tell you that you should be prepared to fight? I don't understand. Considering that there seems to be no reason to fight...why even worry about it? I don't know what all these intertwined relationships are, but basically it's simple. If you're going down there to see your girlfriend, then so be it. Nobody has the right to interfere with that situation at all. Of course, I'm saying that without knowing the facts of the situation completely. But based on what was said here, it seems to me that all we are seeing is a lot of hot air. You should just remain focused on your goal I think; seeing your girlfriend. If you love her, then that is what you must be thinking about. If there are any problems when you get there...well, you should cross that bridge when you come to it. I think everyone should be aware of how to defend themselves (because sometimes you might be in danger from someone), but it would be utterly stupid to learn to fight simply to "beat some guy up" or whatever else. I don't know if there is a legitimate reason...if it's intimidation or what. It seems hard to tell, primarily because you yourself don't seem know the motivations behind Medra's comments. So, I don't know. All you can do is continue living your life...and focus on your relationship with your partner.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phantom Posted November 22, 2002 Author Share Posted November 22, 2002 WHO THE HELL KEEPS DELETING MY POSTS!!!!!!!!???????????????????????????????? IM STARTING TO GET SICK OF THIS.... STOP DELETING MY POSTS!.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sui Generis Posted November 22, 2002 Share Posted November 22, 2002 I personally think its a bunch of bull but thats ok. Honestly we have to fight for everything in life. Thats yesterdays new too. But any one with half an ounce of common sense would know that there are more ways that you have to fight besides physically. Don't worry about it at all. I pretty much think its stupid... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mitch Posted November 23, 2002 Share Posted November 23, 2002 [color=red] I don't quite understand why you would need to train to fight, rather even worry about it. If you love her, that is all that will matter. You'll do everything you can...even if it causes hurt, hate, pain, unwant... So, I don't think you should worry. What happens happens. Why it happens, that is for us to find. Just take the problem as it comes, and do what you can.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
James Posted November 23, 2002 Share Posted November 23, 2002 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Mystic's Knight [/i] [B]WHO THE HELL KEEPS DELETING MY POSTS!!!!!!!!???????????????????????????????? IM STARTING TO GET SICK OF THIS.... STOP DELETING MY POSTS!.. [/B][/QUOTE] [color=royalblue]I don't know who is deleting your posts...but I would recommend that you DON'T TYPE IN ALL CAPITALS AND YELL AT EVERYONE!!!!!Z?/??!@!@$@!! Ugh, I feel like such a newbie when I do that. lol :drunk: This is your [b]final[/b] warning, Mystic's. I'm getting sick of this. If this is any indication...then I can see why they were removed in the first place.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lady Asphyxia Posted November 23, 2002 Share Posted November 23, 2002 [color=darkred]MK, it mightn't have been removed in the first place, anyway. Sometimes posts just don't appear for whatever reason. It's happened to me sometimes... As for fighting, I don't know. It would seem that if you need to know how to fight, then you should, but if you don't, a case of 'ignorance is bliss?' Ask your girl. She could probably answer for you...[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phantom Posted November 23, 2002 Author Share Posted November 23, 2002 James, the post that was deleted (or whatever happened to it) was perfectly fine. All I did was thank everyone for giving me some small form of support, whether it be a form of telling me to grow up or telling me to not care so much about what the other guy said. I also said that I love the fact that no matter HOW ridiculous, I can always come here, write my feelings, and get some type of support. ..James, I think LadyA was right, but James, there was nothign wrong with my post. The problem I saw was that it was there one second...than gone the next. Im sorry. Outbursts like that are totaly un called for... And, on a side note... I would like (if those who have grudges with me or somthing that I have done to really irritate you.) all those who have a beef with me to PM me, tell me how the way I act bothers you, and I'll try my best to work something out so that I dont hurt anyone or annoy anyone... Trust me this is one of the worst couple months I've had in a while...And I am sorry, just let me work up some form of an appology. [size=1]James...please dont bann me because I am a nuisance..I'm trying...[/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
James Posted November 23, 2002 Share Posted November 23, 2002 [color=royalblue]Yeah, it was fine in [i]your[/i] judgement. Obviously a Moderator removed it. I didn't see it though -- so I can't judge for myself. But come on...yelling out like that is NOT the way to react! Let's at least [i]try[/i] to be a little mature sometimes. :)[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Char! Posted November 23, 2002 Share Posted November 23, 2002 [b][color=teal][size=1]Well, the way I see it, if he wants to teach you how to fight, then let him. And if you really can't fight, then this is a good opporitunity for you. Well, that's my opinion. So, whatever. --Mike "char,char!"[/b][/color][/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phantom Posted November 23, 2002 Author Share Posted November 23, 2002 Thanks guy.... I dont want to fight, but I am not saying that I dont know how to block punches or evade kicks...I just dont know how to bring myself to hurting anyone. If I did perchance snap, the person would probably die. But thats besides the point....Medra is just saying this because my gf used to have a knack for starting fights...thats why I am sorta happy to know that she sorta stopped...and thanks anyway... Someone can close this.. all this ridiculous mess is resolved...I think I got the picture now :-D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Char! Posted November 23, 2002 Share Posted November 23, 2002 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Mystic's Knight [/i] [B]Someone can close this.. all this ridiculous mess is resolved...I think I got the picture now :-D [/B][/QUOTE] [color=teal][size=1][b]Well, that's good. Just thought I'd sneak in one more post before this thread actually does get closed. ;) --Mike "char,char!"[/b][/color][/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mitch Posted November 24, 2002 Share Posted November 24, 2002 [color=red] Alrighty, closed as ordered...[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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