Hyper Posted November 24, 2002 Share Posted November 24, 2002 I have a friend. We used to be best friends. We'd have a lot of fun playing video games and fun stuff. We were really good friends. Now I'm going to a new school. That changed everything. Now we rarely talk or see eachother. I've called him a few times, but its like he doesn't care at all and he doesn't pay to much attention. And now, he always, and i mean [i]always[/i] has another friend over. Almost everyday. And its the same friend. So i can never hang out with him. Or the other friend, who is one of the only other few really good friend I have. Its like he doesn't care. Now it seems like he didn't even think of me as a friend, and that he used me for some other purpose. Like in the summer. He is a video game freak. He always wants to play them. But, his parents gave him a restriction to how much he could do (Only 2 days aweek), except when a friend was over. So naturally he invited me over. Everyday. So now, it feels like we're disconnected, and in fact, we really are. It seems like we're not even friends anymore. What should I do? Is there a way to remain friends? (I mean without all the stuff mentioned above) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JCBaggee Posted November 24, 2002 Share Posted November 24, 2002 [color=red]I just checked your profile to see how old you are, so I could get a better grasp of what you were talking about. Let me just say don't worry. You may feel like he doesn't care about you, but I'm sure he still thinks about you a lot. I've moved around a lot in my life, and I don't talk to any of my old friends as much as I should, but we know we still think about each other. Give it time, and things will work out. Before long, you'll make new friends too, and I'm sure that you'll eventually just have one big group, so long as you don't panic and try to force yourself on anyone. Best of luck. --J.C.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wrist cutter Posted November 24, 2002 Share Posted November 24, 2002 Eh, I've known a guy for about 8 years. Last year, I switched schools, and so since the middle of June I haven't spoken a word to him. It doesn't really bother me much... So I guess what I'm saying is, just move on and don't let this bother you too much. Friends are always going to come and go throughout life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valen Posted November 24, 2002 Share Posted November 24, 2002 You'll have real friends, and those who want to use you to their advantage. Those friends are the kind to lose as soon as you possibly can. It may seem hard to lose a friend, but it's for the best. I've been through times like this too... It's not easy, but once the facts have been revied, I let them stay and moved on... thus what you should do is move on and forget about him... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Narius Posted November 24, 2002 Share Posted November 24, 2002 .....the extant that I can see inside these words is simply this, your obsessive, very very obsessive. Its one friend, even if you have a hard time making other ones eventually you will have another friend......or atleast I hope you will. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
playababygurl79 Posted November 24, 2002 Share Posted November 24, 2002 that's never easy, losing friends is always tough. I know how it feels, I had a best friend who suddenly stopped talkin to me, I still to this day havent gotten over it..but I talked to one of my other friends & it turns out..she stills talks about me, So I'm sure ur friend is thinking of u..You never know, sometimes bad things can turn out good in the end. Best of luck Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hyper Posted November 24, 2002 Author Share Posted November 24, 2002 I have more than one friend, incase that brought up anything. But I think I'll have to listen to what Wrist Cutter said. That sounds a lot like my case, and thats what people are telling me to do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Manic Webb Posted November 24, 2002 Share Posted November 24, 2002 What I don't understand is why you don't make friends with your friend's new friend. (wait... did that make sense?) Get to know this new person your friend is hanging out with (There. That sounds much better.) I don't see why you can't at least try to all hang out together. There shouldn't be a problem unless the two of you (you and the new friend) instantly hate eachother. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boba Fett Posted November 24, 2002 Share Posted November 24, 2002 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by HyperShadow [/i] [B]What should I do? Is there a way to remain friends? (I mean without all the stuff mentioned above) [/B][/QUOTE] [COLOR=green]You should lose this guy. He is using you and isn't someone you want to be friends with. You can try and talk to him about this, to save your friendship, but I doubt it will work.[/COLOR] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ya)\/(I-YuGI Posted November 24, 2002 Share Posted November 24, 2002 i know i feel ur pain.... i "had" a cool friend at school we hang out in lunch and in classroom we never did work we just had fun. the last time i saw him was last friday... he told me cya monday. so monday came and he didnt show up at school,it didnt really suprise me he was absent alot!(like 2 times a week every 2 weeks...lol) so in tueday he didnt show up, but still i wasn't thinking much about it he was usaully absent 2 times at a time. so wednesday came and he didnt show up i started thinking that he was probably sick....so i thought he'll come tomorrow now THURSDAY he didnt show up. AND THAT DAY I GOT THE VERY BAD NEWS! since the teacher knew i hang alot with him in class he told me that my friend had CHECKED OUT OF SCHOOL! i think something "bad" had happened cuz he never said he was leaving the school! i feel sad he was my good old pal and i didnt even get to say goodbye...... :bawl: :bawl: :bawl: :bawl::bawl: :bawl: :bawl: :bawl: :bawl: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest cloricus Posted November 24, 2002 Share Posted November 24, 2002 I've only ever really had one or two friends in my life. One I've had for a while now. (2 or 3 years) We hardly ever seen each other irl (he lives 700kms away) but we are both really in to computers and we are both always on the net and doing stuff, I also "see" him in things like D2. I've had one other friend, we were friends from year 6 to year 7 but after we both left primary school we have talked once or twice, I don?t even know where his it... You should always keep your true friends. -Lord Epssy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spikey Posted November 24, 2002 Share Posted November 24, 2002 If this doesn't work, lose him... What you could do is make him jeulos. Such as invite another friend ove, or that same friend. Act like you don't care fo him. SOmetime he should come crawling back to you, asking, and waiting, to see if you will be his friend. I know, this has happened to me once. But if that doesn't work, as I said before. Lose 'em.:butthead: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Solo Tremaine Posted November 24, 2002 Share Posted November 24, 2002 I wouldn't do that personally. People change. Sometimes it's good, sometimes it's bad. The point is you won't be able to change him. It's always hard to lose a friend, especially someone you saw nearly every day. The only thing you can do is let go. I had a really good friend for a year, and then after the summer holidays, he didn't want to know me. I still see him every now and then, and we'll say 'Hi'. But I found some much better friends after that. Ones who I think will stay for many years yet. So the best thing I can suggest would be not to deliberately try and see him, but if you do, then you do. It's more than likely going to turn into a casual relationship anyway. Trying to keep in contact with him only reinforces his behaviour to try and avoid you. Hope this helps. :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boo Posted November 24, 2002 Share Posted November 24, 2002 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Boba Fett [/i] [B][COLOR=green]You should lose this guy. He is using you and isn't someone you want to be friends with.[/COLOR] [/B][/QUOTE] Ditto Is that guy older than u or sumfin, acting like he can just use you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
::Ex-Soldier:: Posted November 24, 2002 Share Posted November 24, 2002 If he forgets you, then you should do the same. You'll make new friends, and he'll make new friends. But you could try and call him up, and talk about it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hyper Posted November 24, 2002 Author Share Posted November 24, 2002 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Endymion [/i] [B]What I don't understand is why you don't make friends with your friend's new friend. (wait... did that make sense?) Get to know this new person your friend is hanging out with [/B][/QUOTE] He's not a new person. He's my other friend. But I can't always hang out with him when I've got nothing planned, because of he's alway at my other friend's house. To avoid confusion: Friend A - the person I'm talking about Friend B - The other friend who is always at A's house. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Manic Webb Posted November 24, 2002 Share Posted November 24, 2002 I'm not going to pretend I'm still not confused, but I was wondering why the three of you all don't hang out together. I don't know the whole story, so I'm not going to tell you to drop Friend A. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hyper Posted November 25, 2002 Author Share Posted November 25, 2002 Well I can't really invite myself over. And Friend A never really invites me. Neither does Friend B. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ravenstorture Posted November 27, 2002 Share Posted November 27, 2002 [color=darkgreen][font=gothic]My best friend spat in my face and moved to Newcastle last February. Lunafai. I'm still not over it. [/color][/font] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mist Posted November 27, 2002 Share Posted November 27, 2002 [color=crimson][size=1] I hate to sound insensitive and all, but that's life. You must always push forward, and try to remain as strong as you can as you lose friends. I went through a painful move just a month ago, and I cannot say that I'm okay. But hey, you'll be alright. Just keep that head up, okay? ^_^'[/color][/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KittyLynn Posted November 27, 2002 Share Posted November 27, 2002 I know what you mean Hs, My really good friends swtiched schools and I will never see her again. Talk to him and tell him how you fell about this. I personally would never let a friends get out of my grasp and niether should you. But then there is that other side...If he was a true friend, and I'm sure he was. True friends never leave. I'm sure if you talk to him he'll understand. If you ever need to talk, I'm here for you! Luv ya, C-l Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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