Break-Ups

[::Ex-Soldier::]

I have noticed that the latest threads are about friends and being stressed. So I decided to make this thread, and I hope it would benefit off people in my situation...

Have any of you shrugged off a relationship, trying to convince yourself that it's not worth it to blow up, or cry or something? And then whenever you think about it, you feel like you need to let it all out? I'v been getting this alot...

I got dumped after 3 months. She told me that she had liked someone else this whole time...and she just never wanted to tell me, because she was scared. Now...at first, I was going to burst. But then I think "It's not worth the trouble" and I try and forget about it, but I can't keep my mind off of it.

Any of you been in this situation? And if so...how'd you fix it up? because I want this feeling to go away.

[Kent]

I can understand this feeling. Its hard to deal with, I know. But the only thing you can do that would be positive, would be to let it out.

After doing that, its time to start with the justifications of why its better for you to move on. Even if you dont really feel it, you need to pretend to believe it.

Just tell yourself whatever nessecary to get away from it, and always do your best to keep occupied.

Most of all, dont kidd yourself, its best to start with moving on whether or not you understand the events that have already taken place.

I'm not saying to ignore the past for good, but for the time being, its not a bad idea.

I hope you can get over this quickly. I know you can get over it. But I am hoping for your sake, its quickly and not like some of the horrible events so many of us experience.

good luck.

[Frankie]

heres my little story

back in 8th grade.. i had 2 calsses with this complete jerk....which i wont name but lets jsut call this guy Fakester....

anywyas i had pe and computer with him.....fakester being a real jerk..was narking on me about this and about that...

i dont play soccer and this one day jsut happned to be the soccer day...and Fakester being a complete jerk...ended up driveing off all his team mates...so the teacher forced me to be on his team...and just to ignore him i jsut stood around...he got angry and....

yelled call me an inapropriate name and juse nodded smiled at him and walked over to a wall and sat down grinning the whole time...by then the teacher could care less so she dident say a thing...and just went on coaching along the 6 teams..

After a couple weeks of being FORCED to sit next to him in computer....he started to be real nice..... confused the heck out of me

well i opened my big mouth and told my sister about the weeks before when he called me that name...my sister flipped...and said that school wasent the right place for me...

the next thing i know im in a high school credit recovery program private school..... i was enjoying it there....and what do you know a couple months later.... he shows up.... he got kicked out of the school i jsut left cause of fightning....later i became semi friends with his little sister....for some reson....then he started acting like he wanted to be friends with me....

heck i even got the jerk to...join the otakuboards...he dident stay long...that goodness

anyways one night over back and forth pming.....he says soemthing which again i wont say

and i reply back in an annoyed jokeing manner.....about soemthing the next pm out of him was the stupid askeing me out part...i thought NOTHING of it

the next day at school he was major nice to me all cause i never answered him....i finaly said yes thinking he wasent that stupid ideotic jerk that he was before...

me i always say .... people can change so i gave the loser a change..

lets say a year later....i finaly woke up out of my concious coma

I had a year long momentary lapse of judjement...i relized that guy was just playing a trickey charecter...a fool i was for not seeing it before...

well i wernt downstairs approched him....said it was like over...DUH...and left like in a heartbeat... i felt good...

of course when he returned my stuff he borrowed...he called me another name i just.....grined at him nodded and replyed with no words

but in my head i thought this

"That i am. Yes..i am.. But at least im not a big headed- little headed if you know what i mean selfish ideotic pig... now get of my dads land or ...the man across the street my attack.... hes quite paranoid about people that are unfamiliar in the area.."

havent talked to him sence

but ill tell ya.....that was stupid on my part to be so blind...

but i learned.....we still go to the same school but...never talk

now hes got this small group of ideots he hangs with who dont even like him...

and he wears the same clothes 24/7... like always... same stupid junior high pe shirt and stupid looking grey army camo pants...real stylish i tell ya


blowing that off was easy

but uh....seeing how i never give advise here...jsut my stupid story


i dont know much of what to say
....im at a loss of words

[Phantom]

[quote]blowing that off was easy[/quote]Heartless I tell you! :)

Anyway, Ex dude....Man, do I ever hate that kinda situation. Its like she took whatever part of your heart that MAY have attached itself to her an cut it right out of your chest.

The only way I can feel that kinda pain is by imagining it happen to me with my respective gf...ALLL my heart is attached to her so lol yeah, I'de emotionaly be a vegetable :)

[::Ex-Soldier::]

Thanks for all the advice. Keep it comin...^_^

[amibasuki]

[FONT=arial]the only advice I can give you is to not let it get to you. if you need to, keep yourself as busy as possible to keep from thinking about it too much, since you're going to be thinking about it a lot anyway. pretty much what all gokents said. I can't really give you any better advice than that, because I'm (kind of) going through the same thing; if I can't help myself, I'm not sure I'd be able to help others...[/FONT]

[Frankie]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Mystic's Knight [/i]
[B]Heartless I tell you! :)

[/B][/QUOTE]



I know i am arent i... well so was he so .... what ever...

[playababygurl79]

ya i feel like that sometimes too, i was with this guy for probably 6 months...after he dumped me, I found out he'd been cheating on me. So basically everything he said to me was a lie, all the 'i love you's' and everything. I couldn't deal and I did wanna break down..I guess that's what ur friends are for because my friends dug me out of it and said it just wasn't worth it. but if she did that to you, then that shows...there's someone better out there for you..whenever I start thinking of him and digging myself back down into that hole, I always say that to myself..theres someone better out there..it helps sometimes..

[::Ex-Soldier::]

Actually, she gave me reason today. She said that I never told her I loved her...blah blah. Im so mean to people, and everything. It makes me feel worse, but I'v sort of forgotten about the whole thing. Atleast I'v tried to.

[Lady Macaiodh]

[COLOR=darkblue]ah, yes.

just do a search of my latest posts & you'll see that i can definitely relate.

i don't know. it eats away at me. i still love him, even after everything. my parents are threatening him w/ this lawsuit so he will sign the seperation papers, & it tears me up w/ guilt.

on the other hand, there are some days that i hate him. i wish i had those days more often.

but that doesn't mean i'll give in & go back to him. i don't want to die [i]that[/i] badly.[/COLOR]

[::Ex-Soldier::]

Yes well, the thing that REALLY ticks me, is that it was looking fine. It happened way too fast. I remember she said she liked me alot, and then I met her an hour later and she was different. And do even admit that she liked someone else...that's the most idiotic thing. I wouldn't do it to anyone unless they really wanted to know. I know she was being honest, but the truth came at me too fast. I would have been better off not knowing.