Depression...

[*madEE*]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Lady Macaiodh [/i]
[B][COLOR=darkblue]i hate to say this, but i really don't know what you are all talking about in response to this post. i personally do not see much point to life anymore. if it wasn't for hurting the people that i love, i would have killed myself by now.
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Yes to kill yourself would be a selfish act I think, or so I learned the hard way. To escape all life's problems b/c you see no point in living; nothing to keep you here but to hurt all those you leave behind. Those who were with you all through life and to let them suffer knowing you are gone. I have watched or known about my friends dying, knowing all to well that they had a short life to live. They never got to experience everything in life, but to end my life would be too selfish. Their's was taken never to have the choice like I did. How much they would probably love to take my spot in life, and to make full use of it.

I hope you don't take your life away, I know if you dig deeper there must be more to it then you know. It's not actually asking someone for help, or going to a doctor, but if it gets worse PLEASE seek help with friends. You don't really know me, but I know you have some really great friends on OB that would be willing to give you a hand.

[Lady Macaiodh]

[color=darkblue]i know, but it just seems like it's always one thing after another, endless drama. i feel better today, though, except i'm about to go to this dreaded thanksgiving family reunion. bah. [/color]

[James]

[color=#507AAC][size=1]Well, let's not get into a debate about the damaging effects of suicide on family and friends. We've been there and done that.

I guess I hope that at least for this Thanksgiving weekend...and over Christmas, people who are having problems will feel free to talk to other members.

I know that a simple message board won't do much. But the community here is very strong. Sure, these threads are depressing. But it takes a level of trust to tell the entire community your deepest thoughts and feelings. It's not easy. And I think that at the very least, we need to be understanding of people and what they are going through.

Of course, if anyone has any problems they want to talk about...feel free to IM me any time. Many of you don't talk to me regularly, but you'll find that I'm a pretty approachable person on AIM. :)[/color][/size]

[Makai Kite]

Well... since I'm usually too cheerful to be depressed (never been depressed clinically in my life and moping isn't my thing) and I've never felt that life wasn't worth living because I've learned to love it and everything in the world, and since I would hurt a ton of people if I ever killed myself, I've never really had a problem like this. But I shall give you my teenager-ey advice on the subject...

Think of everything you have to live for. Listen t happy music if you so desire. Watch Comedy Central (it must work, particularly South Park). Talk to your friends about it. Dance to upbeat music to keep your spirits up. Write to let out your emotions. Those are just a few suggestions. Oh, yeah... don't let the little things bother you. Or the big things, either. Eventually, they'll come to pass.

[Juu]

[color=deeppink] [size=1]*sniffles and gives ya a biiiiig hug*
I really hope things get better for you, I don't want my angel getting upset. ^_^[/color] [/size]

[Sui Generis]

I guess seeing as all of you have taken time to respond here I should atleast thank you, and I guess you all have the right to here my story. (Plus the fact someone suggested this and I'm desperate)

Also if you read my story "Memories" you'd understand some of it, well most of it...

Ok I have several things bothering me right now, but I'll just list a few...First and probably the most is...

1) My father: My first father did beat me for a while but stopped. He actually did love me. Or atleast thats what I felt, but when I was 9 he sent me a letter stating I wasn't his real son. So now I don't have a real father. I've tried calling him, and getting in touch with him but everytime I do he hangs up on me, or this lady answeres. Which I'm not stupid, either his wife or girlfriend, but its just really ackward. I hate it. I feel like **** everytime I try to get back to him, or think about it. It makes me feel worthless. If my own dad doesn't even want me, who would?

2) My step father: Ok heres the picture. You have me emotionally scared, crying everyday, and missing my father. My step father waltzes in, promising everything. You know the Knight in Shining Armor ruotine. And so naturally I get alittle happy and he grows on me. Well this was cool for a couple of years. Two to be exact. He was great, did what he promised. I was actually happy again. Then he started beating me. He does it worse than my real dad. Its almost every night now. I actually go to school with make-up on now to cover up my bruises. A guy wearing make up in a catholic school doesn't go far. Well thats another thing. Back to the subject. So he decides anytime something is wrong with his life he makes me feel it. Which leads me to the question. Are all "dads" lying caniving bastards?

3) School: Well I touched on this alittle before. I have hardly any friends due to the fact that I have to wear make-up. THe popular name at school for me is ***. I'm constantly jumped and made fun of like crazy.

4) Friend: Well I've had one friend my whole life. In real life not on the web. He was a great friend, and we got along perfectly. He was actually semi-popular and tried to get me involved in school events. This helped me greatly. I saw him trying and saw that there was hope, and that someone did care. Well he committed suicide not to long ago so now noone cares in my life. If someone like him could commit suicide why couldn't I? He was the only person that cared for me and actually tried to help me, but he's gone. So why shouldn't I?


(There are more minor ones but these are the major ones that affect me everyday...)

[::Ex-Soldier::]

Hm. I've never experienced any of these, but I've seen alot of things happen...

1) If your father isn't your real father...then...let it go. So it sounds hard. It really isn't. If he doesn't want to talk to you, then you don't want to talk to him.

2) If he beats you, then forget about him also. Try to make some friends and sleep at there place too. Do anything you can to get away from him, and when you ready, you can just get your own apartment and forget about it.

3) It's better having few friends that are real friends, than having alot of friends that will leave you behind. Stick with the friends you've got.

4) Suicide is not worth it. He made a wrong choice. Don't go thinking that if he did it, you can do it too. You will always make new friends. Although, losing him, you cannot correct. He's gone, and you have to let it go.

[Spikey]

That's not good.

Try to calm yourself down. Lay down more than anything. If that doesn't work, then just see a docter.

If you can't do that; then just run and scream. Go outside and do it, so you can get all that fear out of you. If that doesn't work, then I have no clue to what to do.

[Juu]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Lalaith Ril [/i]
[B]If someone like him could commit suicide why couldn't I? He was the only person that cared for me and actually tried to help me, but he's gone. So why shouldn't I?[/B][/QUOTE]

[color=deeppink] [size=1]*glares*
I'll tell you why... *continues glaring*
Commiting suicide is a permenant solution to a temporary problem. Just think about it. It doesn't matter what the other kids at your school say, as long as you feel good about yourself. It's your stamina and charisma that's going to make you some new friends. You have to forget about what those people say, and be proud of who you are. And you dads? Just be patiant for six more years, you'll be out of there soon. ^_-

*smiles*

Besides, we luv ya too much here!! ^_^
If something happened to you, I'd be going nuts/crazy about it.
Then, we'd all miss you too. You have people that care aboutcha over here, and besides, you don't want to get out of it that way, do you? You need to talk things over with someone... like your school councelor. If people are saying these things about you, then it's necessary to talk to someone.[/color] [/size]

[Mitch]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Lalaith Ril [/i]
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2) Are all "dads" lying caniving bastards?


4) If someone like him could commit suicide why couldn't I? He was the only person that cared for me and actually tried to help me, but he's gone. So why shouldn't I?


(There are more minor ones but these are the major ones that affect me everyday...) [/B][/QUOTE]

[color=red] I'll tell you the answer to the first question. Of course all Dad's aren't like that. If they were, then, the world would be a rather different place.

Now, the second. Why shouldn't you commit suicide? Well, first off, as I've said millions of times to you by now, it's a stupid solution to a problem which will someday end. I know it must feel like hell having to go through all of these monotonous pains every single day, but, eventually, it has to all end. And taking the easy way, running away, is throwing all of your future away. Your hopes, dreams, everything. I can't emphasize enough how stupid it would be to kill yourself over all of this, no matter how hard it isn't. As Juu said, we all care about you, well, I know I do. Even if I may not know you all that well, I do care. And to kill yourself is the worst way to go. I also wrote a poem about you, it's in my thread, if you haven't already seen it.

I hope that clarifies a few things, if any. And I hope, above all, that you'll heed my words.[/color]

[Shinobi]

Man, that is really sad. In the photo's I have seen of you, you look, happy and also a popular guy. I personally don't get depressed, I dunno, mabey it is because I am constantly surrounded by comedy, and you will never see me go a day without laughing, or making someone laugh. I, well, how can I put this...I feel for you, I mean, people have suggested, just forgetting about your Dad, but it is seriously hard to forget someone that you love and brought you into this world. And your step Dad, well...I dunno what is up with him, turning like that. But I think you should lighten up, just a little bit and try and get a bit of Christmas spirit in you. If you can't do it yourself, well, Hey, I?m sure the whole boards would help ya out in that one. And what ever you do, don?t try and take your life. Come on, it would even effect me, and well I haven?t even met you! Well, that?s all I can think of just now, but if you need any help man, I?m here for ya. Also, this might help, i am not a religious person,but i mighthelp you. If you pray and that, well it can help. Also, if God wanted you to give up life, then eh would kill you, in an accedent or somthing, so it's not your time to go, it's only a rough patch your going through in life. So please, don'y do anything stupid.