I Didn't Know her too well, but..

[Genkai]

Hmm.... I know there's been a lot of depressing threads recently, and here's another, I'm not gonna spare you.

Yesterday(Dec. 1), a girl in the grade above me died from a prolonged illness.She had a lot of friends, and I don't think a lot of people knew she was this sick. On Wednesday she was in a stable condition, but a sudden relapse or something led her to her death.

I really didn't know her that well, but she was on the Diving team with me, and we were partners in Synchro Diving sometimes. She was really nice, smart, and popular.

Had anyone suddenly died from something you really didn't know about, and, whether you knew them well or were only an aquaintance, did it really shock you?

[RicoTranzrig]

[COLOR=darkblue]My friend ever since the 3rd grade died January of 2001...I knew him well enough to call a brother, very nice and outgoing...followed his example a lot when I was feeling low. We don't exactly know how he died, but he crashed his car coming home from bible study. I never expected it...I was waiting for him to lend me FF9 but it never came to that. I still miss him, but I know he's in a better place.

Sorry, man...a death of someone you know is tough...even if you don't know 'em that well.[/COLOR]

[Spikey]

This was awhile ago, but my cousin died. I was almost ready to go to be, when my aunt calls my mom and tells her the news. Then she comes in the living room and tells me. I cried for about 3 minutes, she also said that we were going to her funiral. Well we went to pay her respect, and I am young so it was my 2 time going to a funeral. But they actually showed the body. It freaked me out a little, but she was very pretty.

She died because when she was born, she was sick. After about 16 years it got pretty bad. Then at about 23 it got so bad, she had to take drugs, special drugs. Then she got addicted, and I guess you know the rest...

[GinnyLyn]

[color=crimson]At Chili's, the resturaunt (sp) where I work, I get regulars. People who I know by face and name and what they ordered.

Well, a few weeks ago, I found out I lost one of my favorite ones--Robert. Sweet man, prolly in his 50s, but very healthy--he seemed like a 30something guy with white hair. He always had something nice to say and it was always great to have him by each week.

So you can imagine my shock when I heard from his wife that he passed away suddenly one night. I was stunned, sad...all those emotions. It just...I mean...*looks around*...I still sorta hurt from it, to be honest with ya. (Thanks for making this thread.) [/color]

[KittyLynn]

I hope all of you guys feel better, I have never lost a person but I have lost animals...I think they hurt just as much..But I feel for you guys and I hope life has better things in store for you..

[Solo Tremaine]

I started fencing about seven years ago, under the tuition of the famous Brian Pittman (whom you've probably never heard of). His classes weren't the best at first, a little boring to tell you the truth, but he would always try his best to make them interesting. He was always friendly and nice and smiley, even if he was a little frustrated (he had to take a two-hour journey to get to us).

Anyway, at around Easter this year (at least, I think it was easter), he was away for a week. We thought it was a cold, but then he was away for the next three weeks too. He must have been in his late 60's, I think. But anyway, the news came on the fourth week that he'd passed away. It was cancer. It came as a shock, needless to say. I'd never been that close to him, but he was just always someone who was there. When they go, you start to think about wh's going next and who'll be there for you in the end.

A few weeks later, I had the strangest dream. This sounds horrendously corny, but it is true. I was in my garden and he suddenly appeared behind me, in his funny cream jumper and blue tracksuit bottoms, saying hello and everything. He was sort of transparent. Anyway, he told me that I'd be okay and that I shouldn't worry about things. He said I could do anything I put my mind to. It was very strange, and I've never believed in ghosts before. It was probably just my mind playing silly games, but it made me feel better about things. I miss him, from time to time, when we're fencing and warming up. I wish I'd had the chance to have gotten to know him better. But there isn't much I can do about it now. He's at peace, and that's all anyone could ask for, really.

[Red]

[b]A couple of years ago I heard that my cousin had died in Africa after being shot in the head by a [i]student[/i] he was teaching.

He travelled the world, and he was born in Kenya (pretty cool, since he was Irish by blood), and mostly lived in South Africa.

In certain parts of Africa there are virtually no laws against guns. This kid my cousin was teaching misheard that my cousin was talking to the headmaster about him, but he was talking about another boy. The student shot him shortly after I believe.

He was a man who had everything to live for... although I hadn't seen him for a while he was by far my favourite relative because he always had exciting stories to tell.

The student faced no charges and I'm not sure if he wasn't even suspended from the school.[/b]

[GinnyLyn]

[color=crimson]Damn. That is just wrong, Elite. *shakes head in sadness*[/color]

[Guest Hikaru Ichijyo]

:( Just when you think the depression threads were stopping....well my condolences go out to your aquiantances family and to you Genkai. Even though you didn't know the person that well it's hard to adjust to the fact that they won't be around again.

Sorry...:(

[Guest Imsirion]

Well, theres been a few deaths in my family (like great uncles and aunts) but what really got me was when my grandpa died. Few years back, he had a heart attack while driving and actually went off-road on to a dock. Went half way down it untill he hit one of those poles. I dont worry about myself dying but I cant stand to think of any more of my family dying.:(

[Juu]

[color=deeppink] [size=1]One of the girls at my old school I knew got hit by a car two weeks ago. I didn't know her that well, but my best friend really, really liked hanging out with her. She was like her other best friend, and I personally liked her alot too. She was really cheerful, and always cheered my friends and me up, even if she was upset.

Well... she's in the hospital, and my friend hasn't called to give me an update for a week. I really hope she's okay.

And I'm really sorry about what happened to you guys. It must be really hard losing someone so close...[/color] [/size]

[Kent]

Something very close to this happend to me.

I had a buddy that was only semi close to me. Fact is that I didnt like him.

But this fella, named spencer perkins, got shot in the face and spent the last week of his life in a coma.

He was shot because he tried to keep unwanted guest out of a party.
Some "gangstas" roled up and shot him point blank.

This all left me with mixed feelings.

In one way I hated spenc because he gave a good friend of mine herpes, but at the same time, I knew he was a normal white trash boy.

Either way, a punk ( I woulnt mention race to avoid racist stereotypes) shot and killed him.

The guy got sentenced to 1 year in prison and 10 on probation.

I've hated alot about the way things are since then.

but no matter what, I always try and have faith in justice.

Although it doesnt exist. cough. o.j. simpson. cough.

sorry, I know that was off, but I had to vent.

[Red]

[b]That's a sad thing indeed to hear Gokents.

I have never really lost someone very close to me at an age where I fully understand what is going on. What I mean is I didn't really understand what was happening when I heard my cousin was shot, I couldn't understand why my mum was always crying.

I see killing as something I cannot comprehend fully. Taking someones life away from them is the most terrible form of theft. That person is being robbed of their very existence.. I always find it hard to hear kids who have been killed.. as they had their whole life ahead of them.[/b]

[Solo Tremaine]

I agree with you, Elite. The people who do it seem to have no idea of the consequences that their actions would bring. Once you've killed someone, like you said, you've robbed them of existence. And not only that, but you've robbed those around them of a relative, close friend and even more. You lose faith in a just world and are never really the same. It's the most selfish act there is. Do the ends really justify the means, either? Why kill someone if all you want to do is get past, or just because someone tells you to? What do you stand to gain out of it?

I think the effects are worse on those left behind- the departed aren't aware that they can't feel happiness any more, but those that were close to them do. It also causes great feeings of regret- 'I should have treated them better', or 'I should have made a greater effort to have known you better', which can last a very long time.

My best friend of years ago's father died of prostate cancer, and that really devastated him. he was the sort of person who'd exaggerate or make things up for attention, and I didn't believe him when he first told me. He was never really the same afterwards- I lost contact with him and he became more involved with finding friends of more material value, he stopped going to church and he lost faith in almost everything. I see him every now and then, and I still can't help seeing a slight look of loss in him. He's doing okay, though. Things do pass, eventually. I'm sorry to hear about your losses, everyone. But don't give up. Just because their life is over doesn't mean yours has to be too. I'm sure they wouldn't wish that on you, so neither should you wish it on yourself. Live for their sake.

[Spikey]

[COLOR=darkblue]Man, all of you, that's just sad.

I just heard that someone in my mom's school, where she worked. She also knew this person. I also knew him. It was very said for me. It's also very sad that you'll never get to see that person again, as long as your on the earth. He/she will never get a sencond chance at life.[/color]

[Delian]

The father of a close friend died around Christmas time from a stroke 2 yrs ago. That was extremely bad. He seemed like such a good man, always welcoming and willing to have a conversation whenever I was around at their place. Their place felt really empty afterwards. The anniversary of his death is coming up soon. Not a very good time for my friend's family.

[Genkai]

Hmm.. wow..

Juu: Let's cross our fingers she's okay.
Elite:0_0 that's wrong. Well, South Africa...
Solo Tremaine: Hmm.. I fence too, you KNEW BRIAN PITTMAN?!? Anyway, my fencing coach almost dies about every year. She takes off for Chemo(sp?) therapy every year for a bit.. She's realy nice, funny..*sigh*
GinnyLyn: Hmm.. that must have been weird, just a person you just found gone one day.. Our homeroom tehers told us about it, so it wasnt as if we walked around and saw people crying and asked them what was going on or anything, all of us confused.. But you mustve been pretty weirdeed out.
Calumon_lover: Animals hurt, but I'm hurting WAY more than when my dlosest pets have died, and I barely knew the girl.

To the rest of you: I'm orry about everything. Hmm.

.. Sorry about contributing to the depression thread trend, but...

[nezzyjean]

:bawl: My favorite uncle died. I cried all day when I heard. My dad didn't want to tell my sister and I, because he lost sleep, because it was his older brother, so he told us the following day. When we went to his funeral, they showed the body, and I could'nt beleive that he died, it looked like he would just get up right out of the coffin, and I convinced myself that this would happen, I cried through out the whole funeral, and every night for the rest of that summer.:bawl: I am sooo sorry to all of you other peeps who lost someone.

[DarkMagician]

On October 4th, 2002, I lost 2 of my cousins in a car accident..there bodies were torn in half...9 and 7 years old. Then a few weeks later, I lose another cousin in another accident....and then....in less than a month, a girl I grew up with named Carley, gets hit by a car...she too was killed...Now both my parents are very sick...and I have no idea what's going to happen...it's really scarey. But I am sorry to everyone who has lost their loved ones and friends, I know how it feels..

[Bing]

[size=1][color=darkblue] A lot of kids my age were strongly effected when a girl from a school in our area went missing. A lot of my friends knew here, and most people had heard of her. She was really popular, and we coudln't understand how somebody could be so horrible, so evil to take her away from our community. She was announced dead a few months back ,and she had been missing for a long time. Her body was found in the woods somewhere, and they are no where near finding the killer. It's a tragedy, and everyone I know has been effected in some way.[/color][/size]

[Tommy Vercetti]

well i haven't really told anyone this story as it was quite depressing and it happened when i was about 8. My mum has an old friend who lives in Southampton and she used to visit them regularly and she used to bring me along as her friend had children who i got along really well with. One of the children was called mark and he was a year younger than me and i got on really well with him we were like brothers. He was holding his 7th birthday party and i was invited, it was a bouncy castle one and when i arrived we started to mess around and jump about and i jumped off to get something to eat, i then came back on and we started to play fight and he jumped at me and i held him to stop him from falling and then all of a sudden he had a heart attack and a spastic fit in my arms i was really scared and called for his mum she came running over and then another parent called the ambulance, i watched in shock as he died right in front of me i was so upset that i just ran off and burst into tears i couldnt get over it for several weeks. I know how it feels to lose someone really close to you or someone you really care for but you can also feel upset for someone you arent very familiar with but you know something about them.

[muetank]

i hate this freekin gang stuff. half the people im my high school are in a wana be gang (at least thats what i call it) i thik its just a bunch of bull. people are starting to kill people for stupid reasions now. take gokents story for example. that is a stupid reasion for a person to kill another person. i all ways thought it was hard for a human being to hurt another human being but aparently i was wrong. its becoming to easy for a person to kill some one. have we realy become a socity of hate filled cold blooded killers.

[Gabe]

When I was about three years old, I can't exactly remember because I was so young, my dad died of a Heroin Overdose at a New Years Eve Party. I only found out how he really died, because for years my mum told me he died from 'smoking' but I understand why.

Also about 5 weeks ago my Great Grandma died from cancer. It wasnt really to bad because I didn't know her, because you lived about 3000km away. My mum was really depressed though because Grandma helped us out when we used to live near her.

[SaiyanPrincessX]

This is a sad thread... :(

My grandpa died when I was 11(by cancer), it was sad. I knew exactly what was going on. I remember at the funeral my dad was crying, which triggered my mum too, not heavily or anything but noticeble. A year or two later my great grandpa died(yes he out lived his son). He also died from cancer. It was wierd, he had always been so loveing and genorous, and active. He was very healthy for his age too. He drove himself, nobody needed to help him. He was 92.

When I was about 9 the women next door died. I remember coming home from wherever my mum had taken us and my dad comes over to my mum and tells her. We were all shocked, nothing was wrong with her, she was perfectly healthy and was only in her early 40s. My parents said that the cops had inspected it or something and said that her face was all blue too. The sadest part is that her son was only about 16 or 17. My parents always thought he was a good kid, he would often come over and watch us bringing his little cousin Matthew (who was a trouble maker)when my parents when somewhere. His uncle lived with him and his mum though but he was diffinetly not the best 'parent' material.

Last year a week before September 11 a girl at my school died. Her and her dad were on a motor cycle and a 17 year old year old girl accidentally hit them. They flew off the bike. I think the father died immedietly but the girl lived for a day I belive. It was really sad. She was in my grade too, her name was Gina.

I had alot of sad things happen last year. That summer a boy who would have gone to my school was killed by his father. As my teacher said, his father 'lost it' and killed the whole family then himself.

I had alot to say. O.O

[James]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by genkai [/i]
[B]

Had anyone suddenly died from something you really didn't know about, and, whether you knew them well or were only an aquaintance, did it really shock you? [/B][/QUOTE]

[color=#507AAC]Yep. An old friend of mine. He was a couple of years younger and ended up going to a different school. My parents at one point rented a house that his parents owned.

Because of that, they used to visit often. His little sister was a good friend of my little sister, as well.

One day at school I heard that he'd been suddenly killed. He had gotten out of his dad's car to post a letter in a mailbox across the street somewhere...and a drunk driver had mounted the curb and hit him...and then driven off.

His last words to his dad were "Dad, it hurts so much...". :(

His funeral was so sad...there were [i]so[/i] many people. Lots of teachers and students from both schools...it was a sad day. And I've never forgotten how tragic it was.[/color]