i just don't know

[vegeta rocker]

Well, i have read a lot of personal threads here in my time. I think that I have a built a trust here that i have come to rely on. So I bring this to you.....

One day I came in from drama practice and i was hungry. It was about 6:00 and i hadn't eaten since about 11:00. I said I was hungry and if mom had made any thing to eat. mom made a big scene (no doubt showing off in front of her loser boyfriend) and screamed why should she be responsible for me. I got angry and said well i was sorry that i began to expect dinner after 17 years. mom freaked and when her boyfriend left she sat me at the kitchen table. mom then said that i was just showing off in front of her boyfriend and asked if i wanted him for myself. (gross)
Anyway, mom left in her van. mom returned later with a bag of Mcdonalds. I was confused. mom then pulled out 4 burgers and 4 fries and a coke..............
I will spare you all the details, but i spent the night crying and puking and choking. The only reason i took it is because i love her and i have never touched her. But i am the one she focuses her anger on because my sister tells my grandmother if mom touches her(my sister). But i am not like that.

I have only blown up at her(mom) once and i felt terrible. But what is bothering me the most is the look in her eyes when ahe was doing this to me. It wasn't sadness or anger. It was joy. Pure Joy. I am not sure what to do, since sometimes she(mom) is perfect then she pulls off something like this. So I ask you, should i just put up with it? Or should i tell someone?

There the edits should make it easier.

[Phantom]

i am not even sure what she did to you....but i think she stuffed food into your mouth....an excessive amount of food.... well whatever it was...if you find that it is abusive in any way...you do waht you need to protect yourself.. thats the know all end all in situations liek this.....VR... just...make sure your safe girl...okie?

[Mitch]

[color=red] I don't even know who the pronouns you are using are. Please go more in-depth and make it easily understood, then I shall give you advice.[/color]

[Guest cloricus]

Well you are stuck, most people steer clear of family things so talking to people would be hard unless you have some one you know you can talk to and will understand and will act in the way you want.
The best advise though, is to stand up for your self at all costs.
Other people?s welfare is not as important as your own, you may thing that is very brutal but it's life.
Of course if you believe you can put up with the situation I think you should, you have a few options, explore them before jumping to one.
Some more detail would help in advise to.

And if you would like some info on help topic and help rooms on this sort of thing feel free to PM me and I'll send you the appropriate links.

[Pressure]

[color=purple]I was confused all the way up until 'But i am the one she focuses her anger on me because my sister tells my grandmother if my mom touches her,'. You never identified who 'she' was. Anyways, you should talk to your grandmother or school counsoler about it. Someone you trust. I know I sound very cliche, but I'm serious. Domestic violence happens once every two seconds in America, with odds like that, you are not alone.

Is your mother bipolar by chance? You could research it and see if she fits the common traits.[/color]

[Guest cloricus]

Bipolar, my favourite disorder to watch.
Common traits are very faulty, some one can not have any of the things on those lists and still be bipolar. (Very rare though.)

[Mitch]

[color=red] After I read it more closely, I think I get the drift of what you're saying, VR. So, she made you eat a whole bunch of food as to...punish you? My god, your mom must be pretty damn crazy then. I'd certainly let it be a reason to be mad at her. As severe a punishment only for stating something? I think she was totally wrong in her judgement.[/color]

[Justin]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Mitch [/i]
[B][color=red] After I read it more closely, I think I get the drift of what you're saying, VR. So, she made you eat a whole bunch of food as to...punish you? My god, your mom must be pretty damn crazy then. I'd certainly let it be a reason to be mad at her. As severe a punishment only for stating something? I think she was totally wrong in her judgement.[/color] [/B][/QUOTE]

Try to be more understanding in a situation such as this one. It helps, I promise.

Anyway, I can see why you wouldn't want to hurt your mother in any way. But the fact remains, if she [i]forces[/i] you to eat [i]that[/i] much food and yells at you because you're hungry, she's not being a very good mother. You need to talk with a counselor or, possibly, your grandmother. Your sister isn't saying that she doesn't love your mother by protecting herself.

Bottom line: Talk to someone who can help fix things.

-Justin

[amibasuki]

[FONT=arial]I agree. speak with a counselor, or someone who can do something to try to help the situation. you didn't deserve that in the least, and no parent should have pulled a stunt like that anyway, whatever their reasoning was. [/FONT]

[Tima]

That was totally wrong...your mom is ****ing crazy, i would definately go to someone else for some help

[vegeta rocker]

Thanks a lot to anyone who offered their advice. I honestly have brought up the bipolar thing with others. Since she does have a lot of stress on her and she is a single parent it isn't totally out of the question.

[Mitch]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Justin [/i]
[B]Try to be more understanding in a situation such as this one. It helps, I promise.

-Justin [/B][/QUOTE]
[color=red] I am understanding, Justin. I believe you had no right to say that, [i]you don't even know me[/i]. It's kind of presumptions to say something like that. I just was unclear as to [i]exactly[/i] what happend. Geez, so bite me and call me frank.[/color]

[Valen]

Ok, From what I get out of this, your mom is afraid of appearing as a soft person in front of her boyfriend. Happens all the time because she's insecure about the way she's raising you now that she has a boyfriend, but sometimes it does go to far without her realizing it. That's when you step in. Tell her how you feel about what she's doing, let her know what she is doing. It isn't just about her and her boyfriend. It's about you too. Don't ever let her make you feel bad or out of place. Stand up for yourself. I know it's not much advice, but good luck. I hope things work out better around the house...

-Valen