love lives are confusing...

[Dark Wish]

[COLOR=purple]Argh! I'm putting all my faith on things turning out ok but I need to talk to someone about this cause I just feel like I'm going to burst inside! I did write a huge mail explaining everything but it looked so silly and long winded that I deleted it and this is my new draft..which I hope will make more sence to people.

I'm stuck in some kind of love triangle and so far there is no way out of it! Things are fine right now but I've been in a position before at the start of this year which was similar and things turned out real bad..though I admit they could have been alot worse..but I don't want to think about that.

Me ->
Love's my boyfriend Daz..fancied him 4 years..been dating going on 17months now..never had a big fall out (or one that we didn't make up again 5 mins after)..spend alot of time together..trust each other as much as is humanly possible..want to be with forever (however impractical that may be).
Fancies my girlfriend Hayley..been going out almost a week..known each other since we were little and always got on..trust more than most other female friends..really enjoy her company and antics..doubt there is much of a furture for us but I want to enjoy being with her as long as I can.

Hayley ->
Fancies me..was the one who suggested we go out..knows how much me and Daz mean to each other and doesn't want to get in our way cause she knows she'll lose both of our friendships.
Also fancies Daz..and if he wasn't going out with me admits she would have probably tried her luck with him.
Exta info..she is 'seeing' a guy called Paul at the moment..she does see Daz sometimes when I'm not there (never planned and other trusted mates there).

Daz ->
Love's me..blah blah blah..same as I feel for him.
Also fancies Hayley..wouldn't make a move on her while I'm around but might have done if he was single..says he thinks it's kool having a girlfriend (me) with a girlfriend (Hayley)..would still be friends with Hayley if I broke up with her..has only known her for about a month..admitted himself to me he fancied her when I asked.

Dammit this post is getting long again! Basically I can trust them both to behave but I'm nervous that things might get out of hand...
Group activities have been suggested and laughed off (for now at least :(*worries someone might mean it someday*) but when it all boils down to it I don't want to be with Hayley when I'm old and grey..I want Daz. If I dumped her now I would have no reason other than my own paranoia and I would drive myself crazy over thinking how long we would have lasted and how much fun we could have had. Yet part of me, tells me, that it would feel much better if I only had to worry about keeping Daz from any girl, instead of trying to keep two partners happy, balanced and to a degree...apart.

I'm just soooooo confused and now I've taken so long explaining it all I hope somebody would be kind enough to leave me a few suggestions so I have some idea of what to do if we all meet up (as previously arranged) this friday.
Thank you everyone who read this for your time..and to some of you out there..please keep an open mind and don't judge or criticise me for my sexuality (though I doubt any of you would :))[/COLOR]

[Matt.D]

[color=rainbow] Tell them ur feelings and work out a solution with them.[/color]

[Transtic Nerve]

Well uhh.... yes.... uhh yeah.... you know, I'm not confused at all. I understand the whole situation, however I cannot come up with a reasonable solution.... for there probably is none.

However I will post my OPINION on what I think you should do.

I will not go out with two people. I am a guy and I love my boyfriend, but never in any circumstance would I start going out with a girl. I find that to be cheating, to me. It may be different for you.

Love triangles almost never work. Stats show that, I've heard stories... now occationally they do but one or the other gets too jealous, things happen, this or that, bam boom, it's all gone too hell and back...

I don't want you to hurt yourself... I suggest staying with Daz. Haley has her own partner. Now he's involved too whether he wanted to or not and he might get upset and this and that and yeah... it'll go to hell and back....

Just tell her what you feel. If she truely loves you and is your friend, she'll understand. Then you'll be happier. You'll all be happier. At least thats how I precieve it to be.

But again, this is just my opinion. Not saying you should follow it or not, just do what your heart tells you to do and that will always be the right decision.

[Biida]

Well, I think you should stay with Daz, and talk to Hayley and Daz about how you feel, and hopefully they will understand. But I don't know s*** about relationship advice. So in the future, if I post love advice. Please. Don't take me seriously. :D

[Ice Dragon v2]

i have a love life thats going pretty sweet
me n my girl did have problems in the past, but we talked about it n now we are a very happy couple

[iggy]

dude thats a very wrong point

[Jeff]

i don't get it..first minute you talk about her and next about him..wtf..maybe i read it wrong?

ahh..anyways, i didn't read it all..because i got confused..but..wait. i have no solution. it's really up to you to who you should go out with.

[Dark Wish]

[COLOR=purple]Ok...thanx to everyone who posted back. I've been thinking about it again and I think I will try to explain to Hayley that she might lose this Paul guy cause I'm making him jealous (he's admitted I am) and that I don't want to jeperdise the friendship us three have (me, her and Daz). Like I've said before in the past..but forgot about..if things are meant to turn out a certain way then they will and anything you do inbetween is just a time filler and you should enjoy it while you can. I even admit to myself that I love Daz too much to give much attention to anyone else..and I didn't mean for things to turn out like this..so I'm going to stop it before things get out of hand. The only problem I have now is knowing that they fancy each other..I mean I can trust them both as much as is humanly possible..but I'm a very paraniod person and you guys must know what it's like to have a friend fancy your partner....
Fingers crossed and hoping for the best for this and for everyone else here...
Take care guys... [/COLOR]

[Biida]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Dark Wish [/i]
[B][COLOR=purple]Ok...thanx to everyone who posted back. I've been thinking about it again and I think I will try to explain to Hayley that she might lose this Paul guy cause I'm making him jealous (he's admitted I am) and that I don't want to jeperdise the friendship us three have (me, her and Daz). Like I've said before in the past..but forgot about..if things are meant to turn out a certain way then they will and anything you do inbetween is just a time filler and you should enjoy it while you can. I even admit to myself that I love Daz too much to give much attention to anyone else..and I didn't mean for things to turn out like this..so I'm going to stop it before things get out of hand. The only problem I have now is knowing that they fancy each other..I mean I can trust them both as much as is humanly possible..but I'm a very paraniod person and you guys must know what it's like to have a friend fancy your partner....
Fingers crossed and hoping for the best for this and for everyone else here...
Take care guys... [/COLOR] [/B][/QUOTE]

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