SuperMuffin Posted January 20, 2003 Share Posted January 20, 2003 [color=orange]Hey Peoples! I was just wondering how many of you are insecure and wonder if you'll ever be asked out. I know its a bit stupid but sometimes I wonder if people look at your personality or your looks. I'm not the thinnest or prettiest girl and I know it but I really hope that guys look at more than just looks. I know I seem paranoid but sometimes I feel that some people are only nice to me because I get good marks. Some people I know are nice to me because I am never fake or someone I'm not like my closest friends and my team mates. I just can't seem to figure out why some people would never consider me as a friend. I've made all the sport teams I've tried out for so I don't think that's an issue but is it something i do? Is it something I wear? Or is it just because of my looks and my reputation as the "smart girl". Why is it so difficult for me to find a guy who likes me back. Maybe its because I'm not too outgoing and the guy I like hangs out with different people than me. I am working on being less shy and more outgoing though. Omg so sorry to bore you with my problems but are there any people out there that feel the same? I know I'm nice and all but.... Oh well. Thanx for listening![/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rhys Mayiessen Posted January 20, 2003 Share Posted January 20, 2003 [color=navy]I'm sure a lot of people like you SuperMuffin! It might just be becuase those people are jerks or they don't see you in that light. I have been asked out once but then again I didn't even know it was a date. That has been the only time and I have liked other guys since then. Maybe it just wasn't meant to be...maybe you were meant to be just friends...[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kent Posted January 20, 2003 Share Posted January 20, 2003 Well I can say for sure that there are people like you because Ive met plenty of girls just like you. I am your guy counter part for the most part. I would only suggest to you that you live your life with who you really are in mind and never stray from that. I never got girls and then one day I snapped. I started letting everyone see what a geek I was... before a year had gone by I had the best girl friend a guy could ask for. (truth is, she could have done much better) So just remember that there are guys out there that feel similar to you and those guys are the ones to keep your eyes on. Not the jerky popular fellas, cause those guys care about all the stuff you dont want them to worry about. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tursi Posted January 20, 2003 Share Posted January 20, 2003 i don't worry about it. i've never been asked out, and sometimes i think about what they look at to. but then i say to my self, they'll reilize it one day. a few people i know think that it's crazy that no ones asked me out, they say i'm fuuny, nice, caring, can light up a room when i walk in it, out going and such. one person said i was cute. i know this sounded really lame but it's what i think. if you get yourself worked up about, you'll never be able to be your self around them, that's another thing thati've reilized.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SuperMuffin Posted January 20, 2003 Author Share Posted January 20, 2003 [color=orange]Hey thanx but the guy I do like is popular but he's also really nice in a funny and stupid way! He sits beside me so we talk a lot (our teacher is clueless). Hes very nice to me and tells me how his weekend was and stuff. I also saw him at the movies on Friday. He actually said hi in front of all his friends and wen me and my friend saw him at the snack place. He's really quite nice to me and he doesnt know I like him or anything but I know he won't ask me out. And yes I am always a "wat you see is wat you get" kinda girl....At least i think I am![/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PiroMunkie Posted January 20, 2003 Share Posted January 20, 2003 [color=indigo][size=1]Eh, I have never really had a problem with insecurity about much of anything. I mean, the main time people usually start worrying about this stuff - high school - I was given quite a bit of security. It was not long into my freshman year and I was asked out by a sophomore. o-O I do not know about you, but that is quite unprecendented in these parts, lol. Especially considering my low social status. But yes, gokents' advice is definitely what to shoot for. Look for someone more like you. Or, if you are tired of looking, just open yourself up. Make yourself known to everyone else, and wait to see if anyone comes.[/color][/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SuperMuffin Posted January 20, 2003 Author Share Posted January 20, 2003 [color=orange] Well I would just like to defend myself by saying that I can't really help that I like him sooooooo much. Don't worry I'm not crazy or anything I just can't seem to EVER not like him. He's so cute and funny and stupid in a good way and outgoing! I know I should like someone more like me but I can't! Thanx anyway![/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wrist cutter Posted January 20, 2003 Share Posted January 20, 2003 I believe the statistic is something like... 1 out of every ten zillion high school romances end up in marriage. And then 1% of those marriages don't end up in divorce. So I wouldn't worry about it so much. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ryan Posted January 20, 2003 Share Posted January 20, 2003 [size=1][color=orange][font=century gothic] I haven't gotten asked out. I'm a guy. It is the guys who ask out the girls. Yes I have asked out girls before and I don't care about their popularty. The thing that counts is how they are as a person. I am currently single as we speak and I like it that way.:)[/size][/color][/font] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Juu Posted January 20, 2003 Share Posted January 20, 2003 [color=deeppink] [size=1]No one should ever judge you by your looks. I'm sure alot of people like you for who you are, and see through your outside appearance. ^_^ I've been asked out by some of the rudest guys in school. I'm in middle school, but I really believe relationships should revolve around peoples' personalities. Not their appearance. ^_-[/color] [/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
liamc2 Posted January 20, 2003 Share Posted January 20, 2003 There isn't really any point in basing a relationship on looks... I mean...imagine spending a lifetime with someone who's looks with only fade and all your conversations are based upon are 'how attractive am I? Rate me on a scale from one to ten!' It doesn't seem very interesting to me. Bah. What would I know? *wanders off into his own little neat corner of oblivion* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kinetic Posted January 20, 2003 Share Posted January 20, 2003 [color=darkblue] Don't worry, you'll find someone who likes you. I know two girls who like me but one is insane and the other left school. I don't really care, I'm considered "the freak" but I like it that way. All I can say is don't give up hope, someone will come :) [/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hyper Posted January 20, 2003 Share Posted January 20, 2003 Heh. I know a bunch Kinetic. Some were comlete freakazoids. As Kinetic said, You'll fins someone who likes you. I didn't think so at first, nor did I care. I was a nerd. I still AM! But then everyonce in awhile things surprise you. Just keep your head up. Like they did with me. (Twice actually) There's a perosn out there for everyone. The time will come. Soon. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tursi Posted January 20, 2003 Share Posted January 20, 2003 freaks are the coolest kind of people, you never know what to expect, and that's what makes them fun to be around....but thats what i think, plus i think everyone i go to school with is a freak, and most of them take that as a compliment(sp? i can't spell for beans. ~_~;;;) i know i'm a freak and a band geek. i'm a female tuba player and proud of it! ^_^* and that's what makes me diffrent, and i guess thats what makes some guys intimanated by me, becuase i'm hyper and i lose my temper easily and i'm getting off subject so i'll stop now. ^_^;;; Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hiei Jagashi Posted January 20, 2003 Share Posted January 20, 2003 I totally agree with you! I'm sure lots of people feel that way... ^_^; NE wayz, bye! -Hiei Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SaiyanPrincessX Posted January 20, 2003 Share Posted January 20, 2003 I'm alot like you. I'm shy in school most of the time, and around new people. I like certain guys at my school, but I wouldn't go out with them because I don't like their personality, there nothing like me at all. I have alot of guy friends online and at school for the things I like. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spike speigel Posted January 20, 2003 Share Posted January 20, 2003 I've never been asked out either (I'm only in 7th grade, though). I agree with everyone else: eventually everyone will find the right person. I'm sure of it. I'm one of the non-popular kids in my school, and I'm happy about that. I'd rather have good friends and be myself then be friends with the jerks who are popular. Plus, if I was popular I would have to act cool and dress like all the cool kids just to fit in. I wouldn't be able to be myself. I'd have to act the way the popular kids tell me to, that would just suck. Hope I helped. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EMU Posted January 20, 2003 Share Posted January 20, 2003 hey, maybe he likes you too. I mean, he could be just too embarassed to ask you out. (because of fear of rejection, not that he's embarassed about you!) I don't want to get your hopes up, but that may be the case. Guys can be afraid at times ya know. I know I get nervous before I ask out a girl! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spikey Posted January 20, 2003 Share Posted January 20, 2003 I've been asked out many times, just it's that no one then stays with me. Nobody askes me out anymore, just because of what I like. I don't kno, but that shouldn't get you down, I'm sure you'll find that special someone someday. Just keep looking! -Greg Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sere Tuscumbia Posted January 20, 2003 Share Posted January 20, 2003 Insecure? Me? Nah. ^_~ But hey SM, you now get to join the dateless wonders group! ^_^ *shrugs* I don't worry about the whole "going out" deal. Meeting someone really isn't in my plans, and, with the profession I'm planning on going into (Psychology), the person I did meet would probably end up killing me in my sleep because they got so annoyed with me. Yeah, I'm insecure, but I don't care about it much. I'm a real pain to live with anyway. ^_~ --Sere Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nats Posted January 20, 2003 Share Posted January 20, 2003 I feel that way 2! Im also shy + Im not sure about u but when Im always trying 2 be nice I feel like Im being walked over Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Queen Asuka Posted January 20, 2003 Share Posted January 20, 2003 [color=hotpink][size=1]Now that I think about it, I'm always the one that approached that guy...and now I feel bad. I can not even recall a time when a guy approached me and told me he liked me (except for the psychopathic freshman who is my stalker... >.<). I guess I'm just not the type of girl that guys are attracted to until it's too late. *sighs* Well, I have my Ryan, and that's all that matters. Hey, guess what! I approached him! >.>;;[/color][/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vegeta rocker Posted January 20, 2003 Share Posted January 20, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by gokents [/i] [B]\So just remember that there are guys out there that feel similar to you and those guys are the ones to keep your eyes on. Not the jerky popular fellas, cause those guys care about all the stuff you dont want them to worry about. [/B][/QUOTE] heehee i don't even get any of the geeky ones. Truth is, i dwell so deep into anime and video games i just try to forget how messed up guys can be. want to know what bites? I've liked one guy for my whole high school career and he's my best friend so i have to se him all the time and know i can't have him. As for being judged by my looks, i am not that pretty. What does that have to do with it? Well i have been asked out a few times but, only by people that i would never get along with. I would love a geek! I want somene to play video games with and discuss anime. Someone who would take me to see the latest unchick flick movie. Someone to get kicked out of waldenbooks with, for reading comics too long. But it would just be nice to have someone to cry with over the nadesico movie. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rhys Mayiessen Posted January 20, 2003 Share Posted January 20, 2003 [color=navy]Oh right SuperMuffin! I forgot that you were talking about that guy. Well maybe he does like you then. Its not like he totally despises you and won't even talk to you. Try to find out some subtle hints that maybe lead to if he likes you...but don't feel discoraged there are many more people in the world...[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SuperMuffin Posted January 20, 2003 Author Share Posted January 20, 2003 [color=orange]Wow thanx guys! It's really great to have a place to discuss your problems without anyone judging you! Ya I'm pretty sure he doesn't like me....oh well. And yes he is popular but as I said before, he's really nice and funny and friendly! I know it sounds stupid but I really would like to go out with him. Yeah I know...dream on! I can always hope *sigh*. Ah well Thanx for your advice...and Rhys Mayiessen, (you know me the best) Thanx for your support![/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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