Friends

[Celia]

[color=0099FF] [size=1]Do you think one of your friend(s) would be talking about you and pretending to be your friend? Once they are with you, they talk about somebody else. And when they are with other people, they talk about you?

I don't think there would be anyone that talks about me because I usually hangs around my close friends...
But I don't know if people really do talk about me or not...I really don't know?[/color] [/size]

[Juu]

[color=deeppink] [size=1]Sometimes, I do think a few of my friends talk about me...
First of all, I see people who are linked to groups I've hanged out with before pointing and looking at me. (Celia.. you know who @_@; )

I've actually caught people talking about me before too. She was talking about me during the summer, and how she thought I was just hanging out with someone because he was popular. That really, really made me mad. Now we're friends though. The guy she thought I was just pretending to be a friend of is still my friend too. One of my best friends, in fact.[/color] [/size]

[TheShinje]

I've noticed that in my old class last year, This group of "individuals" would talk about someboydy really nasty stuff, and the daggers come out. When the person is in the room, they trying to be all goody goody with him.:rolleyes:

It is really pathetic, and if you're there to witness the callousness of it all, you would agree. Gutless spineless, jellyfish, is all that comes to mind. heh

at least I speak my mind, i don't care.

[Celia]

[color=0099FF] [size=1]I hate people that uses another name when they are talking about somebody. That I hate the most and it make me mad too! It's already bad enough to talk about people and they are talking about he/she infront of their face and using a different name. [/color] [/size]

[Rain]

[size=1]I've caught friends talking about me before. It wasn't too pleasant, heh ^_^. We'd been best friends for about 4 years. Should have seen this girl's face when she found out I was standing next to her and had heard what she'd said. It's quite funny when I think about it. That was 2 years ago. I've got new friends now. It did teach me a lesson though. Not to rely so much on one friend. Now I have two or three groups of friends that I hang around with. But I'm a bit paranoid. I have doubts about this group of girls I sometimes hang around. They're nice enough to me, but they ***** about other people when I'm around, so who knows what they're saying about me. Oh well. They're not close friends or anything, so it wouldn't bother me too much.[/size]

[Celia]

[color=0099FF] [size=1]I sometimes wonder if people are talking about me when I am not with them.And it sometimes bothers me because I think too much about it and it made me think negative and make me believe that they are.[/color] [/size]

[Kent]

Are you doing the pot?

This sounds like paranoia to me.

Of course you can forget that cause pot dont cause paranoia, cops hunting you for non violent crimes causes paranoia.

Sorry,

My point is, try trusting in your friends.

But also trust your insticts.

If they are really your friends they will not talk about you.

If you dont really know them, you may wanna try being careful about your feelings.

I hope things work out, and good luck.

[James]

[color=#507AAC]Most of my actual "friends" don't seem to talk about me in that way.

But I [i]am[/i] aware of people on the Internet who show a nice face when they talk to me and then proceed to verbally bash me behind my back. But I'm secure in the knowledge that they are in the wrong and that I am simply doing the best I can.

At one stage or another I think we probably all experience this. It really depends what is being said; you know, if it's really venomous or if it's not really of a very serious nature.[/color]

[Juu]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by gokents [/i]
[B]My point is, try trusting in your friends.[/B][/QUOTE]

[color=deeppink] [size=1]She never said she didn't trust them. = \
She even said she doesn't think her friends would talk about her behind her back...[/color] [/size]

[Delian]

I've had this experience I guess...probably back in college cause I quite popular with a lot of people until I became selective of who I hung out with...some girls got a little jealous cause I was also mates with the guys aswell, and proceeded to say those little snide remarks as I walked by....But I didn't give a damn what they thought or said about me or to who even...I believe in myself and I can never be bothered by the pettiness of insignificant people.

[Desbreko]

[color=indigo]Well, I don't care whether or not people talk about me behind my back, because there's nothing to say about me except good things. (Yes, this is one of those times that an inflated ego actually helps, lol). :toothy:

Okay, but seriously, you really shouldn't worry about this sort of thing, I think. I mean, so what if someone is talking about you behind your back? It's that person that's doing wrong, not you, and if someone else is worth having as a friend, they're not going to listen to gossip. That's the way I look at it.

So yeah, I really don't care if people are talking about me behind my back, and I don't really care to go out and find those people, if there are any. It's just not worth my time and effort, even to think about.[/color]

[Spikey]

[COLOR=red]I know for a fact that people talk about me with my back turned. Mostly none of my friends, but I know other people that aren't my friends do. I can trust my friends.

The only time when I did here a friend talk around my back was when they were very made at me. I don't remember exactly what they did, but they were pretty mad. This has only happened to me once, with my friends. But my non-friends talk about me behind my back a lot![/color]

[Charles]

There isn't much anyone can say behind my back. I'm not particularly scandalous or anything. I trust the people I know in my personal life and know that they aren't gossip queens.

I find that it's typically acquaintances that talk about people behind their backs. It's kind of understandable because such people only have a fleeting knowledge of who we are. If someone I consider a friend isn't satisfied with who I am, and doesn't approach me with the issues personally, I won't be considering the "Judas" to be a friend of mine much longer.

If people do talk about me behind my back, it would probably be on the internet. I've experienced that before. It doesn't bother me much though. People can talk, lol. It's what they do.

[Carren Heart]

If i've learned anything its that one only really has two o/r three true friends out there!

[Transtic Nerve]

The only people I really consider friends are people I've known for a fairly long time. (like a year or more) Which means I don't have many "friends"... i have a few people online which I continue to talk to and know personally for well over a year, it's be almost 3 years soon I've known some of them. And I've got my best friend, his girlfriend, my other good friend and his girlfriend and my boyfriend who are the closest to me. I have like... 2 or 3 good friends that I don't see on a regular basis. I trust those people with my life. No one else. I've learned I can't trust anyone untill I know absolutely I can.

[Genkai]

Yeah, a ton of people do that. I'm "friends" with about everyone in my grade, but I'm sure at least o few of them don't consider me a friend, or don't like me.

My [b]closest[/b] friends probably don't though.. I trust them a lot.. Plus they don't talk about anyone else behind their backs in my presence, they're not that kind of people.

I guess it really hurts when you walk in on someone you thought liked you or you trusted talking trash about you.... *shrugs*

[BigCajones]

Yeah I've been told of people who talk behind my back, but I'm sure we've all done it sometime in are life. Not being spiteful, but if someone has angered me, that's what will get me started. If they have angered me I won't be classing them as friends at the time.

Then you get the annoying hard, cool boys at school that always manage to find something to take the **** out of anyone. Usually along the lines of something about my parents (not-true irrevelant stuff mostly), but when something is true and personal that's when it hits you hard especially from a close mate.

People I class as a close friend I have to be able to trust them and hope to God they won't blab out any secrets I may of told them. When they let it slip out or tell other friends when I have told them straight not to say a word that annoys me just as much as a mate bitching about me.

I suppose no one's perfect, but hardknuts are the ones that need a life! They aggrovate me and torment others, but really most of them are plain stupid, so at the end of the day I can remember I have 'real' friends that will stick by me, plus I will do something with my education and money rather than spending it on drugs and so on. :)

[B]1.[/B] Yes it does embarrass people when you find out they've been talking about you. *laughs at them*
[B]2.[/B] It's true you can't have too many close mates or it gets a little out hand, but it's always good to stay mates and hang out.
[B]3.[/B] I hate it when people talk about you on the internet, that's really pathetic, I mean why can't they say it to your face! :mad:
[B]4.[/B] A close mate I class as - reliable, I can trust them, try and see them alot (not always the case), have same interests and someone who can make me laugh. Most of my good friends like that are on OB if we fall out we will be friends by the end of the week! :demon:

[Rhys Mayiessen]

[color=navy]I don't think my friends talk about me behind my back...but probably some of the people I don't like...Oh well its not like I care about the opinion of people that I don't hang out with.[/color]

[Celia]

[color=0099FF] [size=1]I don't think I only trust people that I know for a long time.
If I trust them,I don't care how long I've know them.[/color] [/size]

[Dan L]

Back in college (the British "college", i.e. equivalent of everyone else's last two years of high school), I was in a big group of about 20-ish (at least 5 of us would be gathered somewhere at any one time in college hours), but there was two people.. let's call them "Craig and Al" (that's their real names.. it's more convenient than making two up), and whenever anyone wasn't with the group, they would be the subject of discussion.

The thing is, nobody ever suspected, except for me and a guy named Mike, that Craig and Al were talking about [i]them[/i] aswell, when they were away.. and neither me or Mike really got on with Craig or Al..

I wouldn't worry too much though.. these guys were absolute weasels who'd talk about everyone rather than one specific person, so it's a different thing altogether.

[Duo Maxwell]

I wouldn't put it past them, I'm not always sitting with one certain group of aquantences (lack of better word, I don't consider anyone at school friends), and I know I've made the odd comment about someone or a group of people.
There's this one girl at school that is very two-faced, but she has her moments. I'm usually to busy to take notic of anyone anyway

[Lady Asphyxia]

[color=darkred]Yes. Although, the people who would are more aquaintances, than friends. There is one girl who used to be counted as a friend who would have. However, I trust my friends. If they talk about me, chances are, I was being a ***** that day.[/color]

[Marron347]

geez...i hate it when people take things like this way too seriously. i mean who cares if somebody talks about you behind your back. if they are your friends, who cares. just 'cause they insult you of talk about you doesn't mean they don't love you. like once one of my friends called me a b**** to my face and you know what i did? I laughed and she laughed and we were still cool. i just don't see what the big deal is.

[Lady Macaiodh]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Celia [/i]
[B][color=0099FF] [size=1]Do you think one of your friend(s) would be talking about you and pretending to be your friend? Once they are with you, they talk about somebody else. And when they are with other people, they talk about you?[/color] [/size] [/B][/QUOTE]

[COLOR=darkblue]oh, yeah, definitely. even really close friends sometimes talk about each other, like if they're mad & need to vent. but you're talking about gossip, right? well, you can definitely count on that. it's human nature, i think. there are some people who resist that sort of pettiness, but others just have no self control.

& of course, there's the whole "user" issue, where people pretend to like someone in order to gain something from them... popularity, for example.

why worry about it, though? you can't really know for sure what people are thinking or saying about you, so don't let it bother you. many times, it's not even based on truth anyway.

my advice is to choose your friends wisely. time will tell who the true ones are. i used to have tons of friends, but i decided to limit my circle to those i could really trust. quality, not quantity, in my opinion.[/COLOR]

[Manic Webb]

Back in high school I felt like a lot of people were talking about me. I'm actually a little bit paranoid. I sometimes wonder if I did something right or wrong and if someone talks about me as soon as I leave the room.

Personally, I believe in telling someone your problem with them to [i]their face[/i]. If I'm gonna talk behind someone's back, it's safe to say that I'm going to eventually tell them to their face (if I haven't already).