That Closure I Needed...

[Kent]

Well, this may come across as silly to some here, but others might understand how I feel.

Basically this is about a relationship I was in.

This relationship was "the one" so to speak up to this point in my life.

Sadly it ended a long time ago.

Story goes...

I moved away from my home town, we had been together in a relationship that was serious for a long while at that point and when we had to seperate it tore me up as well as her.

We hung onto the idea of being with each other again one day, but both slowly came to terms with the fact it would never happen.

The most important part in our seperation was the fact that this one relationship was the most important one in both our lives up to that point, and for that reason alone we would always be close friends.

Then one day just recently I got the chance to go to my home town again. She just happend to have drove 2,000 miles from CO. to get into town at the same time as me.

We spent a day together and then on new years eve about an hour during that midnight period.
We had planned to spend just a little more time together before I left. It would be the day before I left we decided.

She never talked to me again. I went home and tried to contact her just as I had while I was in town.

Although I had moved on, so to speak, I still wanted to know her in the long run.

She continued to ignore me for some time, and up until just yesterday, she never said a word.

Then, yesterday, she wrote me an email.

It explain how she was sorry about the way she had been acting. She said she had moved on and I should too. She felt that we couldnt be friends in fear that I would have feelings she didnt. So she said she was sorry for hurting me, and it was finally over.

This oddly was not a problem to me. In fact I had very much moved on, but our "bond" had been so important to me that I had always wanted to remain in some sort of contact, even if it was the most distant of sorts.

My only problem to this point had been her ignoring me. Not contacting me at all and explaining her feelings, no matter what they were.

With this final contact we had, all my troubles ended and I could be happy with where things ended, even if we couldn't be friends.

I love her as the person she is, but more important, she taught me what it really meant to love someone whom is only a friend.

I told her I would never forget her.

And with that, I had the closure I wanted.

Thanks for letting me vent this, and please feel free to comment on what you've read or what you have experienced that may in some way relate to what I have gone through. (Its times like this that I love the boards the most)
thanks again,
-kent

[Mitch]

[color=red] Nothing certainly lasts forever, Kent. At least not in the physical world. But it can live on in memory, and what a sweet way of living forever that is.

That was a pretty touching story to me, and I'm glad you told it.

I'm also glad you left that long relationship on a good note. I've never really had as strong a feeling towards someone as it seems you had with her, but it's something I shall experience in time, I suppose. I can relate, though...[/color]

[Jesus Chicken]

Thats cool to hear. It's always nice to know where you stand with someone. Yeah, but most things don't last forever. Some people would like to think that there is always a chance, but generally that is a denial of reality. It's good to hear you got over her without having to do anything drastic, or stupid. Well done.

[Delian]

It's really great that your relationship ended on good terms. When you share a special bond with someone, even for a little while they leave their mark on your life..Then they go and you move on, knowing that you've gained something from the experience (whatever it may be).