when personalities clash......

[Marron347]

hey there is this problem i have. i dont know what to do about it and i was hoping somebody could give me some suggestions or tell what you have done in a similar situation.

my two very best friends in the whole world are almost exactly opposite of each other. i can't go anywhere with both of them because i know they will get into a fight or something. its really kind of dumb and i hate being the referee between them. i've told them that but nothing's changed. one of them still always ends up complaining to me about how much the other one annoys them. i wish they'd just suck it up and deal with it.

does anybody know what i could do?

[Fall]

Stuff them. If they want to fight let them. Don't let them ruin your life because of it.

[Lady Macaiodh]

[color=darkblue]are you the only thing they have in common, or were they ever friends before? if they weren't, you'd be best to hang w/ them seperately. if you've already confronted them about it but they still won't quit fighting around you, i don't see what more you can do. sometimes people just don't get along.

as for them complaining to you about each other, you've got to put your foot down--firmly. tell them bluntly you don't want to hear it. don't even let them finish a sentence. that's just BS, that they would put you in the middle, so don't let them.

this same thing has happened to me. take my advice, or you might end up resenting them both. [/color]

[Delian]

I had friends like that a while back. In the end I just lost interest in both of them and a couple of their other friends and did my own thing

Now i'm not saying you should do that, but you should set them both straight...let them know you're not going to put up with their B/S. If they're not willing to make an effort to get along, then they should at least show some courtesy to each other and to you, when the 3 of you are together. You need to let them know that...and if they don't listen, it kinda shows their lack of consideration towards you.

If all else fails just hang with them seperately.:therock:

[Lady Asphyxia]

[color=darkred]Or, you could ignore them both completely until you they confront you about it and you tell them straight out that you're sick of it.

Just a thought.

Anyway, there was this time when my friends wouldn't stop having water fights, and I had to play referee. (Okay, so it wasn't that big a deal, but it got [i]really[/i] annoying) In the end, I got sick of mediating and joined in. One friend got really annoyed and realised what I'd been feeling, and basically stopped the fighting. Perhaps thats a silly analogy, but maybe you should look into [i]showing[/i] them how you feel. Sometimes words aren't enough. [/color]

[L.A. Rod.]

I think you should try to keep letting them know how much their stuff is annoying to you, just so they will keep this in mind. If you let it get too out of proportion, they are going to make you choose sides in something you wanted no part of in the first place. If you have no choice though, just leave it to them and let them butt heads.

[spike speigel]

I've had that problem and still do. I have this one friend who gets into fights with these two other friends I have. One minute he'll be fine and the next minute he'll jump at one of them (not literally). Then after a few minutes of name-calling (and sometimes even some light physical fighting) me and my other friends break thing up and everybody gets on with their lives. Then a few days later it will happen again. It's like a cycle. I hang out with these three guys and my other friends at the same time, never seperatley because, sometimes, they don't fight.

My advice is this. Try and get them to stop fighting and calm down. If you can't do that, I don't know what to do.

[The Harlequin]

[font=gothic][color=crimson]I get that problem all the time. (For those that know me, it's mainly the problem that Storey tends to ...disagree....with most of you on a regular basis. Especially Dave....hehehe. And he really hates Michael. Hell, there are times when he doesn't even get on with Jack.) I think the best way of doing things it simply to find it amusing. There is quite seriously nothing funnier than watching two people who hate each other, or at lest each other's opinions, try to stay in the same room without getting physical. But then...I have a strange sense of humour.[/font][/color]

[Ravenstorture]

[color=darkgreen][font=gothic]When two people who hate eachother try to stay in the same room without getting physical? Isn't that us? Oh no, wait, I never restrain myself from getting physical.

Here's a tip for your problem - your sig. Good theory for this dilemma. Mmm....thunderdome...[/color][/font]

[Guest cloricus]

Well there are two things you can do.
1) Get in a mango war, not pretty. BUT DAMN FUN!
This involves taking sides.
My example is from a few summers ago, I met this guy Richard.
Then I meet j sam (`lil)liz tom chris(Triangle face) and a few others, now they hated rick because as I found out later in the holidays he was a dickhead. Though until I found that out for my self I was just living with them both saying I shouldn't be going around the other.
That?s 2) BTW ignore both of them and live with it, back to 1).
Towards the end of the holiday I started to ignore rick as well becouse I saw what he was like for myself, then he got annoyed when he saw that I was only going around with the others and started a mango war...
It resulted in him and his friends losing and I ended up with the better group and my now best friend tom. :D

And yes I?m not like I am in school when outside, some weird personally thingy there. But I make friends easily out side of school, and keep them. :D (And I don?t argue or act stupid either!)