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There has been a lot of controversy lately in my general area about this subject, so decided to ask the OB goers on their opinion.

What do you feel about people in a relationship with ages years apart from the other? Are you for/against it? Do you not care anyway? what do you think a maximum age difference would be? I'd really like your input.
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In my opinion it's an incremental thing..

I wouldn't agree with a 7 year age difference when the younger person is 13, actually I wouldn't even agree with a 4/5 year difference there, but if they were 20 or over I wouldn't see it as a problem.

My reason for that is that between the ages of 12-18 there's a huge difference in maturity between the two extremes. After that, there's not much of an increase in maturity.. you just kind of learn more.

So yeah. I'm more against huge differences in matturity, than huge age differences.
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[color=royal blue]For myself, I try not to be with anyone that is 5 years max, either way. Too young makes me feel antiquated, too old makes me feel like an immature baby.

My parents have a 20 year age difference between them and it works. Go figure. One of my managers is about to marry his girlfriend, who is 16 years his senior. Another one has a girlfriend who is just about to turn of age--and he's 8 years older than her (ok, that one bothers me a little, and him being a GM and all...*shudders*).

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[font=trebuchet ms][color=darkblue]Age doesn't matter, as long as you respect the person you're with. If you are 21, and love someone who's 16, you're fine by me, as long as you don't take advantage of her and respect her innocence and youth.

The close-minded notion that people have against age difference is sickening and unhealthy. People shouldn't judge a relationship based on age difference, but based on whether or not the two people involved love each other and respect each other. I know a couple with a girl who's 29 and a guy who's 16, and they're probably more in love than any couple I've ever known, and they're as happy as ever.[/color][/font]
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I think its based on what the ages of the subjects are.

When your under 18, just like dues machina said, there is a major difference between just the littlest bit of years.

But if your over 18, there is no problem going a bit further apart.

Once your 21 its time, in my opinion to stick with people 18 and over atleast. Im 21 now and the last girl I dated was 23 turned 24 during the time we were dating.

But before that I was with a girl that was only a year younger than me.

Although, when I was younger, I barely went out with any girls because I didnt like the idea of being 17 or 18 and dating a girl 3 years younger. They were just too immature.

Now, if I was approached by an 18 year old girl (3 year difference between her and I) I would have no problem with dating her.

Its a thing of circumstances.

Ages of subjects in this thread would help an awful lot.
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In opinion my age does matter, depending on the difference. I've gone out with girls a couple years younger than me, and one a few years older than me.

A few months back I there was a girl that was about 5 years younger than me who wanted to go out. While I think if we were closer in age I'd go out with her... The age difference was too much. People seperated by that many years (especially people in our age group, maybe if we were both in our later 20s I wouldn't care), are at totally different points in their lives... and while she might have been very mature (and she was, all things considered), there were some things that just would not have worked.

I suppose a lot of it depends on the personalities and maturity levels of those involved. But honestly... What is the first thing you'd think when you see an older person with a substantially younger person? I'd bet it isn't something good.
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Like one of my friends said, (in the same topic, differnet place) age is just a number, but depending on who you are, what you want, and how you act, it may matter greatly. Maturity seems to be a big deal, esspecially with people who are 17-18 dating 14-15 year olds. My parents are 4 years apart, my mom met my dad when she was 17 or 16 or something like that. She was married at 18 and they have been together ever since. Thats a case where it worked out, many times it doesn't. They are lucky. My boyfriend is 2 and a half year younger than I am. He is 17, I'm almost 20. My ex was 3 years younger, but he was more mature than any 16 year old I knew. He grew up in England and you seem to mature faster there it seems, well most of the time. lol I've seen some of you crazy English lol. Anyway, yeah. It really depends. If you're 14, I don't believe you need to be dating a 30 year old... and so on and so on.
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[color=#507AAC]I generally think that if you're under 20 or so, the age difference is much more of a problem. It's true that teenagers in general aren't developed enough to really choose a life partner generally, especially if that person is significantly older.

But if you are say 21...and your partner is 30 or 35...I don't really see a problem there.

Really, once you're an adult, you can decide what's best for you. If you fall in love with someone who is 50 for example, then that shouldn't matter if you both are in love and have plenty in common.[/color]
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I agree with most of you. ^_^ Teens shouldn't go out with men/women in their 20s, I mean unless you are close to age. After 20 its doesn't really bother me, except a 20 year old with someone 30 years or so older. It just seems to strange. Though they may really have alot in common and love each other so thats really what counts.

My parents are 6 years apart. My mum married at 20, my dad was 26. So yeah..
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[SIZE=1]I don't really think it matters, but when a guy that's like 50 marries a 20 year old, there's a problem. So I guess as long as your night like 25 to 30 years apart, it's okay.

My parents are only 6 years apart. So there doing good![/size]
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[color=indigo][FONT=courier]What do you feel about people in a relationship with ages years apart from the other? Are you for/against it? Do you not care anyway? what do you think a maximum age difference would be? I'd really like your input.[/FONT] [/color]

[font=arial][color=darkblue] in response to the questions above... i would say that age shouldn't be at the extremes. but like in high school and such, it should be within 1-2 years. like 16-18, 14-16, and of the sort. once you are older than 21, i think more than 5-6 years apart is still kinda wrong, but tolerable. i mean, that is a total personal opinion... cuz like i know some one who is 20 dating a guy who is like 15 years older than her... well yeah.. that's just SICK! but hey that's my opinion.[/font][/color]
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I have no problem with age diffrences... I have a habit of liking people older that me, because I find that others my age are usualy immature and worry too much about social status... *Sigh* My parents, however, have problems with me bringing home people in their 20's... They stopped caring now, because I've proved that I don't give a damn what they think... And my dad is disowning me anyways for dying my hair black... *Sweatdrop* My mom is about 27 years older than my step father and I don't complain about that... o.O"
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I was talking to a guy the other day and he was saying he was engaged to be married, I asked when and he said when his g/f turns 18. I asked how old he was, he said 28. (Eg he'll be 30 when she's 18)

Not sure what I think about this, so far when I've heard about it I've made my mind up on a case-by-case basis.
This case it seemed to work, the guy was a good guy though I haven't talked to his g/f.

So meh, what you going to do, tell people they can?t have relationships like that.
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Although age differences isn't a big issue for me, I wouldn't really date a guy who's more than 3 years younger than me, considering the age that i'm at now. However, I wouldn't mind dating someone who was like 10 years older than me or something. It all just depends on the person really...their personality and character
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[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Arikel [/i]
[B]There has been a lot of controversy lately in my general area about this subject, so decided to ask the OB goers on their opinion.

What do you feel about people in a relationship with ages years apart from the other? Are you for/against it? Do you not care anyway? what do you think a maximum age difference would be? I'd really like your input. [/B][/QUOTE]

[i]Thinks about a convo he had with TN a while ago.[/i]

Well like he said, its not really age that matters.

What really matters is maturity.

I don't think society should be able to tell you who and who not to love. I mean we're all friends here and our ages range from 10-30....Why should age stop us?
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[color=ff00cc] [size=1]I think the age difference matters until about... 18-20. I'd have to agree with Lalaith, I guess age wouldn't matter as long as you really loved that person.

Although.

A 20-year old getting married to a 90-year old wouldn't really make too much sense. o_o;[/color] [/size]
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juu is right our young little minds think yuck they are like four!

but as we age we mature and think of things in another perspective.and while we are maturing they are maturing and suddenly they aren't just little kids.they are cute.

the human mind is such a unpredctabl instrument of emotions.but one of the strongest is love.

and love is all that matters

as you can se in my banner.
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[color=ff00cc] [size=1]Hmm... I guess what I ment was, like in the Revolutionary War... The two women who were married to guys who served in the Revolutionary War, the girls were about sixteen, and the men were like, eighty...

ack >>; *dodges tomatoes*[/color] [/size]
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