My World Has Forsaken Me

[SSJ5 Vegeta]

My g/f and I always had this pact... 5 months into our relationship March 25th (we were both virgins and more in love than i think two people ever could be and commited ourselves to each other FOR LIFE). Then today I'm talking on the phone with my friend Pat, and he's friends with her friend (for confidentially she will be called Mary) anyway "Mary" told me that she already knew we quote on quote "f****" because that's what my g/f said. So I said: "You're lying" She said: "No she told me it happened about 5 months into the relationship." And I knew she was truthful because I kept my pact all this time. Then she goes: "So Josh HOW big is it?" And I go :"What the hell are you talking about?" She goes: "Well I've heard you're... you're... yea... I've heard it's pretty GOOOOD..." End of story... End of relationship... Goodbye all... Thinking of getting drunk now...

[wrist cutter]

Let me get this straight...

You and your girlfriend have sex after five months with each other.

Being the girl she is, she tells her friend.

Her friend teases you about it.

She compliments your size.

You feel offended and forsaken and fall into a pit of despair.

Am I right? Or am I missing something.

[Guest Anakin Solo]

I think they didn't have sex, but his girlfriend went and told people that they did. That is what I get out of it.

[Semjaza]

I agree with Mitth'raw'nuruodo... Especially considering he said March 25th and it's not even March yet.

Eh, **** happens. I hardly think this is something you should get this worked up over.

[Chaos]

A short post, but it will get my point across...

'Girls have peer pressure, too, my friend.'

[JCBaggee]

[color=red]See? That's why you should never marry. Dogs are much easier to deal with, and easier to get rid of too.

Juuuuuuuust kidding folks. ^_^

--Chris[/color]

[Transtic Nerve]

No, I do believe he is refering to exactly what Wrist Cutter said...

They had sex 5 months into the relationship, but the kept a pact saying they wouldn't tell. BUT, she tells her friend. Well this is obviously a breach of trust, which hurts someone in love more than anything in the world. He feels offended and used. And on top of that, this ***** of a woman is teasing him about it. And now all is over and like so many others, he goes to drink his sorrows away.

Just don't do something stupid. I'm sure either a) your telephone ***** was kidding and didn't know about the pact or b) Your girlfriends or ex-girlfriend was confused or mistaken or has some explanation for this. In any case, I do believe there is more to this that you don't know and to blow up and over react would not be any better to you or anyone else.

PS: Size only matters when you're measuring.

[The One]

[color=darkred]Yes, it was a breach of trust. Yes, you are probably very hurt right now. Yes, by all means drown your sorrows in a bottle of whatever you see fit. But it seems to me that you two were, and still are very much in love. She made a mistake. Lots of people make mistakes. If I were you I would attempt to salvage the relationship. Ask for an explanation. If she won't give it to you then maybe then would be the time to think about ending it.

I also agree with Medra, Girls have peer pressure also.

Just don't do something you might regret.[/color]

[SSJ5 Vegeta]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Semjaza Azazel [/i]
[B]I agree with Mitth'raw'nuruodo... Especially considering he said March 25th and it's not even March yet.

Eh, **** happens. I hardly think this is something you should get this worked up over. [/B][/QUOTE]

I was talking about last March 25th, no I don't lie... So f*** anyone who insinuated I did. We've been together ever since last November. We've been together 1 year and 3 months. If you don't know what you're talking about then please don't f***ing make matters worse...

[Harry]

So what? She has a desire to have sex with you so what's the problem? Are you afraid that your dick isn't as big as she wants it and you'll be embarrassed? Girls gossip, if you can't live with it dont ever date again.

[Guest 9Eagle7Dragon]

Men will never understand Women and Women will never understand Men.

End of story. Don't do anything you might regret.

[James]

[color=#808080]SSJ5 Vegeta, first thing's first; knock off the language. Don't use "*" to get past the swearing filter (which you [i]are[/i] doing; the "f" and the "g" should be censored).

Regardless of your personal problems, you need to treat others with a little more respect on this board.

Frankly, I don't think anyone can be blamed for misunderstanding you. Your first post (and your subsequent post) were both quite hard for me to interpret. I can't tell whether you've had sex with your girlfriend and you both agreed not to tell...or you haven't had sex with her and she is saying you have.

I suspect the former, but I don't want to assume anything if it's not true.

In any case, if I were to assume the former...then your girlfriend has certainly breached your trust, especially if you have made an agreement with her. If my partner ever spoke about our sex life to someone else (especially if she was going around talking about really personal specifics), I'd be very hurt and offended. Trust is one of the most important parts of the relationship.

I recommend that you speak to her about this directly. Don't tell us; tell her. Explain your feelings. Too many people get huffy about stuff and go off and sulk...without actually explaining their concerns with their partner. That is what you must do now -- make your position very clear to her.

If she has lied about you and broken the trust that you share, you should make it clear that you won't stand for that. She either has to pull her head in and quit telling personal secrets, or you'll end the relationship.

Ultimately, no choice like this is easy. But sometimes it's necessary to retain your personal dignity. If she's going to lie about you [i]despite[/i] your agreement, then she must not care about you as much as you care for her. It's as simple as that, really.

I hope you can rise above the gossip and deal with her directly. That's the best way to approach the situation.[/color]

[Lady Macaiodh]

[color=darkblue]to some of you that responded, i think the "get over it" advice is a bit insensitive. he's obviously in a lot of pain, whether you think he's over-reacting or not.

but, yeah, i'm not quite clear on what happened either.

if you lost your virginity to her, then i think you should try to save the relationship if you can. the decision to finally have sex for the first time is huge, if you're w/ someone you love. you will never be able to take that back & you will never forget her. think about it... this is the girl you saved yourself for all that time. i looked at your profile, &, being a guy especially (sorry guys), having waited that long for love is very commendable. if i were you, i'd give it another shot. once sex is involved, it isn't the sort of relationship you can throw away over one argument, but rather something worth fighting for. your connection is much deeper now.

what does she have to say about this? at least get her side of it. i told my best friend almost immediately after i lost mine. it's an intimate thing that you want to be able to share w/ your close friend. i understand it was private & you feel betrayed, but this isn't exactly unexpected.

i mean, she kept the secret all this time! for a girl that's... well, pretty good.

hey, if it doesn't work out, be sure to chug some bacardi for me. i hope everything turns out okay, though.[/color]:)

[Semjaza]

I can't know what you're talking about when you're not clear at all, so give me a break. I obviously wasn't the only one who took it that way, but I apologize for it. I wasn't insinuating that you lied. I took it as if her friend was saying you had sex when you actually [i]didn't[/i]. Relax.

Now that I know what actually happened (mostly thanks to other people, because who knows otherwise), I still say the same answer. This happened a year ago, and she told her friend now? Why is that a big deal...?

Everyday I see someone get upset over something so small in a relationship on here. Talk to her about it, don't come on a messageboard and expect amazing advice from people; especially when you're obviously looking for certain repsonses and are going to jump at the other ones.

I honestly just think you are being way too hasty and rash in your decision. I'm not trying to come off as a dick, so sorry if I am... But talk to her and work this out. Throwing a year and half long relationship out the window over [i]this[/i] makes no sense to me. If you are as in love as you say, you'd work through it.

Really, her friend could have just been exaggerating and playing around with you. People do crap like that, irregardless of people's feelings. Somehow I doubt your girlfriend said it in the same way to her.