Jedah Posted February 15, 2003 Share Posted February 15, 2003 Friday, February 14th. Valentines Day. There's a girl who goes to my high school. We flirt constantly, and I think i've fallen in love with her. I've never told her anything that serious or even that I have feelings for her...besides subliminal messages of course. Anyway, yesterday is Valentine's Day. After school is out, I call her. Me and my friends are having a party at his house, so I invite her. She tells me that she made plans with her friends already to have an "Anti-Valentines Day get together". So, I even go so far as to tell her that I have a "Surprise that would change her view of Valentines Day." Yet...that effort was in vain. She decided to hang out with two of her friends to have an anti valentines day thing, AFTER I said I had a surprise for her. So....the red and white roses I bought her are now calmly resting in my friend's trash can....as is my heart. My question is....why? Why would you do something like that? I dont understand it....I want to die. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Transtic Nerve Posted February 15, 2003 Share Posted February 15, 2003 Maybe because she already made plans with her friends. If I made plans with my friends, that comes before all others. I don't care if Gackt himself walked up to me and asked me on a date... well... I suppose that'd be a total different story, but the point is that if I already had plans with my friends, I would stick with them. Either that or she just is so anti-valentines say that she didn't want roses because that would pretty much defeat the purpose of being anti-valentines day now wouldn't it? And yeah, take the roses to her now. Or you should have taken them to her then really. There's all sorts of things you could do, this isn't the end of the world. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sui Generis Posted February 15, 2003 Share Posted February 15, 2003 She wasn't trying to hurt you directly. I would've had an Anti-Valentines day party as well if I wasn't sick. Don't take it that she doesn't like you. Also I know this sounds weird but are the roses ruined? If they arn't take them over to her! Say something like: "I guess you couldn't come, and I know its not Valentines day but here is the suprise I was talking about"... and give her the roses. She probably just thought you were trying to get her to come, not that you ment anything romantic by it. But thats just a guess. My regards! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jedah Posted February 15, 2003 Author Share Posted February 15, 2003 Hmm....but you dont think that would seem a little desperate?...oh well, i think I'll give her the roses anyway..thanks Lalaith Ril. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sui Generis Posted February 15, 2003 Share Posted February 15, 2003 Hey man no problem....I mean atleast she'll think its cute! Good luck man! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heaven's Cloud Posted February 15, 2003 Share Posted February 15, 2003 [color=indigo]That is what I like to call a "rookie mistake". Let us review where you went wrong. First off, instead of telling her that "Surprise that would change her view of Valentines Day", you should have said, "well, why don't you and your friends join us and we'll have an anti-celebration together". Your next mistake was throwing the flowers away...roses are expensive. You should have given them to her later and said something like, "I know you celebrated an anti-valentines day, but I think that every girl should get roses on Valentine's Day." If that would have made you uncomfortable, you could have given them to a random girl at your friends party and said "Here, take these roses, every pretty girl needs flowers today and the person that they were meant for isn't here" (boy, that would be great introduction, gotta remember that one). But enough of your mistakes, this is how you rectify the situation. Ask her out again, and make sure it is just you and her, not you and her and friends. If she accepts, take her somewhere nice and ask her how her valentines day went, apoligizing that you gave her such short notice about your friends party. Then have a good time and be yourself. Good luck.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jedah Posted February 15, 2003 Author Share Posted February 15, 2003 Thanks a lot Cloud. Appreciate the advice greatly.....yeah it was pretty stupid to throw away the roses. I simply did it out of anger I suppose... thanks again Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Meier_Link Posted February 16, 2003 Share Posted February 16, 2003 yo cloud, good thinkin, anyway, I had to go to school on Valentines day, damn. And one more thing, maybe u freaked her out by trying to invite her, and one more thing, you said u threw away the roses, and then u say you'll give her the roses anyway? man that's unbelievable stuff Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frankie Posted February 16, 2003 Share Posted February 16, 2003 Hey.... ill put a girls point of view in here... ill throw in my stupidity for the hay of it ------- I HATE valentiens day... if i had friends... i would be out anti valentines day partying it out all night..... but seeing how i lack friends.. i cant... i jsut sit at home and grummble to myself BUt if some guy were to actualy give me something... i would love it... i just dont like the valentines day thing If ....my b/f;) gave me roses... i would love it.. no matter what day it was... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Juu Posted February 16, 2003 Share Posted February 16, 2003 [color=ff00cc] [size=1]Aww... I don't see why someone would do that... Sorry that happened. I'm sure she never ment it in a personal way. I'm sure she was really touched when she recieved those flowers though. Maybe she was just a little shy to show it. ^_^ I personally [i]love[/i] Valentine's Day. It's my favorite holiday. ^^[/color] [/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lady Macaiodh Posted February 16, 2003 Share Posted February 16, 2003 [color=darkblue]::reads thread:: lol, you silly, silly men. I have never heard of a girl giving a negative reaction after receiving roses. It's just too flattering. You're on the right track, Jedah, now you've just gotta follow through. Good luck![/color]:2women: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tasrai Posted February 16, 2003 Share Posted February 16, 2003 [COLOR=green]I personally would love it, if a guy gave me roses, even though I was at a anti-valentines party myself. I know to most boys and men it takes alot of gut to give a girl you like something. I would be very flattered, and I 'm pretty sure she would too.[/COLOR] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Meier_Link Posted February 17, 2003 Share Posted February 17, 2003 actually no, raiye, it doesn't take a lot of guts to give a girl a rose, especially when she flirts with u all the time, like in the case, jedah says she flirt with him constantly Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fall Posted February 17, 2003 Share Posted February 17, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Meier_Link [/i] [B]actually no, raiye, it doesn't take a lot of guts to give a girl a rose, especially when she flirts with u all the time[/B][/QUOTE]o.0 Yeah? Doesn't seem to be like that for me...actually if that's the case I'm more nervous than normal. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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