Emptiness is killing me....

[Talon]

[color=teal]Today, I had a revelation: I am a failure. My father gave me a lecture about exactly how stupid I am because I failed to do the dishes, laundry, vacuuming, and room-cleaning wrong. Then, I received a lecture from my uncle about life over the phone because of my "authority" issue. On top of all of this, I got another lecture from my dad, who had to redo all of my chores even though he has pneumonia. A few days ago, I had an argument with the closest friend I have over the phone. My grades have been dropping. I took an eye screening on Friday and got news that my eyesight is way below par for a teenager, and I might need glasses or laser surgery. And the icing on the cake is that Jaimie, my girlfriend, left me. Now, I ask....what do I do? I'm not known for giving up on anything, so what do I do? Turn away from tradition and give up? Keep going, hoping I can live through this storm? Or just stand still, keeping things as bad as they are, not improving, but not getting worse? Or do I end it all.......what do I do?[/color]

[Harry]

I don't see a problem here. You got dumped, get over it. You have bad eye sight, what's so horrible about that? You screwed up on chores, do better next time. You and a friend have a fight, that's normal too. There is no storm, just you blowing things way out of proportion for pretty much no reason.

[Guest Imsirion]

You'll be fine, dont worry. Everyone encounters hard time, but it all passes. Your NOT a failure. Forgetting chores and getting all kinds of lectures is something that just happens. GF problems, forget her, move on, its nothing to dwell on . All these things are just little bumps, keep going and everything will be ok.

[Kaede-san]

[color=darkblue][size=1]I got a small non rhyming poem for you that my cousin says when he gets dumped:

Boy Gets Girl...............
Boy Loses Girls.................
Boy Has No Problem With That
Boy Moves On.................
Boy Finds New Girl..........
Boy Is Happy! ^__^

Listen.............I expect you to listen! when your dumped forget it! parents are a hassle mine is at least your dad is trying to help....and your chores.........screw em! screw 'em all! your girl is just a ***** so ignore her *** and find another there are plenty who would love to go out with you I bet and finaly ignore your pops and uncle they're just tryin' to help.Besides I bet they're just steamed off! just give 'em time then talk to 'em tell 'em how you feel! your grades...........I got bad grades so.........sorry no help there I am an under achiever myself! so forget the past and live it up 'cause you only live once my friend!

-Excuse me 4 my language on your girlfriend.......^__^;
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-Kairi C

[Lady Asphyxia]

[color=darkred]Cheer up. Everyone has had these revelations, and believe it or not, no one is a failure. Sure, you mightn't be as great as you want to be, but everyone will have at least something going for them. For you, there's your writing. Gotta say it's good.[/color]

[Ultima Legacy]

Well, you got dumped and got lectured 3 times. So what? It's not as bad as it sounds, really, I know. You see, it happens every day. Take me for example, I have bad days a whole lot! So cheer up, you'll be fine. Get on with life!

I think I sound like a page out of a self help booklet:bluesweat

[Chaos]

Normally, I wouldn't get involved in such a topic since I can easily get *****-smacked from either side, but I feel like inputting my say in this.

It's not so bad, you're life. It could be worse. You could be like all physically and mentally deformed and whatnot, so you have something looking up for you.

I can't see past two feet of my face without lines and textures getting horrbily misconfigured. 'Bad' eyesight isn't really a curse. Remember those specs I had? Got some compliments here and there from a few people because of those. Pick you out some nice sytlish ones, or get contacts.

Jaimie dumped you, eh? Big deal man. If things were so rough for you, then maybe she wasn't "that special someone" that you were looking for. Plus, with all of the controvercy of the inter-relationships that that whole group has, I wouldn't be surprised.

Your dad yells at you. So does every father in the world to their own children. Get over it. Or better yet, don't do it at all to make a statement, like I do with my mom. She yells at me once, I don't do anything for her for a week. Learn to play them.

Best of luck. You know where the hammer's at.

[Deedlit]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Etarah's Maverick [/i]
[B][color=teal]Today, I had a revelation: I am a failure. My father gave me a lecture about exactly how stupid I am because I failed to do the dishes, laundry, vacuuming, and room-cleaning wrong. Then, I received a lecture from my uncle about life over the phone because of my "authority" issue. On top of all of this, I got another lecture from my dad, who had to redo all of my chores even though he has pneumonia. A few days ago, I had an argument with the closest friend I have over the phone. My grades have been dropping. I took an eye screening on Friday and got news that my eyesight is way below par for a teenager, and I might need glasses or laser surgery. And the icing on the cake is that Jaimie, my girlfriend, left me. Now, I ask....what do I do? I'm not known for giving up on anything, so what do I do? Turn away from tradition and give up? Keep going, hoping I can live through this storm? Or just stand still, keeping things as bad as they are, not improving, but not getting worse? Or do I end it all.......what do I do?[/color] [/B][/QUOTE]

[color=009966]Cheer up, John. There's no way possible that you're a failure, unless you keep thinking that you are. That's the only time you really fail.

If you did the chores wrong, don't worry about it. It was probably an accident. ^_-

As for lectures, every parent has to give them out sooner or later. It's like a second job for them. They're just trying to help. ^_-

The reason why your grades are dropping is because you're preoccupied with other things. Just get your head out of the gloom and keep going. ;)

John, if you think that being a failure means having bad eyes, that must make me a failure ten times over. :drunk: You can't help having bad eyes, so it's not your fault.

It's not really my business to ask about your love situation, but just keep going.

All in all, I think you know what my answer is: Keep going, and don't forget that you have us here at OtakuBoards. ^_-[/color]

[Guest Anakin Solo]

-You do the chores wrong.....big deal, not big enough to get worked up over.
-You get yelled at by your dad, big deal again, everyong family gets into fights, unless this is an everyday thing, it isn't [i]that[/i] big of a deal.
-Bad eyesite-who the heck cares. It isn't a thing to get all worked up over, it is only glasses, and if you don't like those you can get contacts or thar laser surgery. No need to be mad about that.
-Fight with friend-things like that always happen no matter how close you are with a friend
-Girlfriend dumps you-You will get over it. You are only in what 9th? 10th grade? There are LOTS more girls out there for you to date or whatever, in my mind, a relationship this early in life doesn't mean all that ones later in life will turn out to be.

None of this stuff should lead you to "end" it.

[Guest Hikaru Ichijyo]

First off your not a failure, in life your going to encounter many obstacles, tribulations, and issues until the day you die. Each one will need to be taken in stride and eventually things will get better. Remember every cloud has a silver lining, and what does not kill us makes us a stronger more experienced person.

Learn from these problems, and grow as a person. They will get better just think positive.

[Kent]

I feel for you...

I know how it is to have that nagging dad that always manages to tell you just how unhappy they are with you.

I want to say, they do care... and your not a bad person or a failure.

You need to stick this out, but try and take things a little bit slower. All of the stuff your talking about can create major stress and when that gets to you things only get worse.

I hope you can get through this and remember to listen to all the supportive voices in this that have replied... just dont let the harsher voices get to you.

[Lady Macaiodh]

[color=darkblue]It sounds like you had one of those days where everything goes wrong.

It's funny... I remember this diary I had once, when I was around 15 or so. One entry described the horrid details of the worst few days ever. Then the next entry described the beautiful details of the best few days ever (up to that point). It was like two different people talking.

I'm sure you feel like crap & the stuff you described does suck, but you'll have your good & bad days. I'm sure it will be better soon.[/color]:)

[JCBaggee]

[color=red]Grr...more depression!

Perk up! Things are gonna get better, and you've got your whole life ahead of you, so don't let things get to you now.

You're not a failure until you give up.

--Chris[/color]

[James]

[color=#808080]I tend to agree with Medra. You're not going through anything that other teens don't.

My eyesight is bad, too. It was a shock when I first found out, but really, it's totally irrelevant. Wearing glasses or contacts becomes as normal as brushing your teeth. And you'll be thankful that they give you the opportunity to see properly.

And yes, parents always have some beef. Some are worse than others. We're only getting your side of the story though. Your dad might have some justification for getting you to "straighten up".

As for your girlfriend...you're young. You will definitely find someone else -- someone who will appreciate you and love you for who you are. It [i]can[/i] be hard, but it does get better.

The key is to be true to yourself and to try your best. Nobody can ask for more than that.[/color]

[Talon]

[color=teal]My dad....he just hates me. I mean it. He uses my younger siblings against me, he hits me for the smallest things, and as for my chores, they were done perfectly. My dad just dropped the dishes in vinegar and chicken grease as an excuse. But thanks. At least I know people HERE care about me. Thanks, guys...[/color]

[The Harlequin]

[font=gothic][color=crimson]Personally, I'm surprised how many people here just say "It's not so bad", when obviously it is. The thing is, it's not how bad it is, it's how it affects people, which makes it bad. So to speak.

I know exactly what you mean. My grades are ****, I can't bring myself to study, Raven and I fight constantly, but still love each other at least, my father is a godforsaken control freak to the nth degree, and I'm going deaf in one ear.

I feel for you man. Everything is pressure these days. Everything. [/font][/color]

[black cat]

im goin through the same thing. right now i fell the only people who care are the people i don't know. face everyone gets trough it. my cousin lost her brother,her bf, and losing her dad to brain tumors that are nonoporital. i lost my best friend(my grandpa:he was the only one who undrestood me)im depressed to but im learning to get over it. so should you and everyone else with problems.

[amibasuki]

[FONT=arial]if your grades aren't up to snuff, then try working harder at them. I pretty much coasted last year when it came to school, and I ended up getting F's in two subjects. this year, grades aren't [i]nearly[/i] as bad because I'm putting in more effort to make sure my grades don't suck like they did last year. if you're already putting in effort, try putting in a little more. do whatever you can to get it clicking (as long as it's not destructive, that is :cross: ). same w/ your chores. and I'm sure that with a little work you could right your relationship with your friend. dunno about the girlfriend. BUT, if you think your girlfriend was somethin' else, just remember that there's about a thousand other girls out there who are just as great (if not better) than she is. you're not missin' out on too much. overall, remember it's the bad things in life that make the good things seem all the better. in other words, your bad days will make all the good ones seem even...well, all the better! just keep pluggin' along, if you work at it things'll be set right in due time.[/FONT]