BabyGirl Posted February 16, 2003 Share Posted February 16, 2003 [color=deeppink]I've never really wanted to add to the depressing threads in the Lounge, but I feel as though I really need to today. My 12 year old brother passed away suddenly last night, and I'm feeling really helpless. I'm in California for college, and my family is back in Michigan. I'm going home soon, but I still feel like there's nothing I can do but sit here and cry :( I've never had to deal with the loss of someone close to me, and I loved my brother more than anything. He taught me a lot about life, he LOVED life, he was selfless and so many people loved him. He touched a lot of lives, and I think that tons of people will be affected by his passing. I still love him soooo much, but I'm still feeling a bit helpless being 3,000 miles away from my family. I guess I just need some words of support or advice or anything =\[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Queen Asuka Posted February 16, 2003 Share Posted February 16, 2003 [color=hotpink][size=1]I'm really sorry to hear about your loss, and I'm sorry that I can't relate. I hope that you know that you're family does love you and that they understand that you are far away. I'm so glad to hear that you loved your brother so much and that you do have a close family. You're so lucky to have that when so many others don't. Keep your chin up and just know that he is in a better place. So what exactly did he pass away from?[/color][/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GinnyLyn Posted February 17, 2003 Share Posted February 17, 2003 [color=royal blue]I'm in shock. It just...it just doesn't seem right...I... *whispers* oh golly *offers a hug to Jenna*[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RicoTranzrig Posted February 17, 2003 Share Posted February 17, 2003 [COLOR=darkblue]I'm so sorry to hear about your little brother. You talked about him a lot a while back 'cause he had special needs and you took care of him and loved him like crazy. Somehow, a lot of that rubbed on me and helped me understand more what it's like to have real patience and understanding. If I could, I'd give you a warm hug too. I'm not sure what kind of advice to give you...just be yourself. Whatever you're feeling, express it and don't hold it back. You have the right to do anything you need to for a loved one.[/COLOR] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ninjaman Posted February 17, 2003 Share Posted February 17, 2003 Oh, I'm so sorry about your brother. Wish I had some big advice, but go ahead and let out your emotions. Oh yeah and one more thing. *hugs BabyGirl* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valen Posted February 17, 2003 Share Posted February 17, 2003 I'm so sorry to hear that, Jenna. If there's anything I can do, please let me know. We're all here for you, so if you want to say anything, please do. Let it all out... you'll feel a bit better. *hugs Jenna* Wish I could be of more help... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Deedlit Posted February 17, 2003 Share Posted February 17, 2003 [color=009966]I'm sorry to hear that, BG. :( I've never lost anyone who was close to me, so I don't think that I can be much of a help. I just wish that you'll feel better soon. [/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kinetic Posted February 17, 2003 Share Posted February 17, 2003 [color=darkblue] I'm sorry to hear about your loss. I, myself, have never lost someone that I was especially close with. I can't relate, but I hope you can get through this. There's nothing really to say, but I'm sorry. [/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Anakin Solo Posted February 17, 2003 Share Posted February 17, 2003 Death is not fun. I know just what you are going through, for I went through the same thing. Just let out your feelings to those who love you, and who you love. Yeah....that is about all I can think of to say, wish I could say more. :( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DeathKnight Posted February 17, 2003 Share Posted February 17, 2003 [color=crimson]****. Jenna, i'm so sorry. We're all here for you. Words cant express emotions well, but i'm sure he is somewhere that Men only dream and write poems about.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Meier_Link Posted February 17, 2003 Share Posted February 17, 2003 how old are u? i understand how someone would feel in yur case, but it seems he was living with u? maybe? who's fault was it that he died? where was his parents at? don't think about how u feel, think about what u could have done, or should have, do u want me to be more clear? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Zeh Posted February 17, 2003 Share Posted February 17, 2003 [COLOR=003399]Ouch. Poor Jeh-nah. Sometimes emotional pain is worse than physical pain... emotional pain never goes away... I remember awhile back, you wrote a poem about your brother, it was a really nice one. You should post it in here, in memory of him... if you still have it. *gives Jeh-nah a hug* [/COLOR] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Juu Posted February 17, 2003 Share Posted February 17, 2003 [color=ff00cc] [size=1]Oh gosh. ><; I'm really, really sorry that happened, Jenna. ><; It must be really, really tough losing someone so close... How did he pass away? Was he sick? *hugs ya* I'm sorry.. ><;[/color] [/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sara Posted February 17, 2003 Share Posted February 17, 2003 [size=1]Oh my gosh, Jenna--I'm so sorry. I know how fiercely protective of him you were. I remember seeing how much you loved him, and you always seemed like the perfect big sister. I've said it before, and I will say it now: You are a beautiful strong person, and your brother was incredibly blessed to have you in his life. I know you made his world a better place, just as he did yours. If I could, I'd fly over to Cali and give you a hug. If you ever want to talk, I will listen. Love and prayers.[/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chaos Posted February 17, 2003 Share Posted February 17, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Meier_Link [/i] [B]how old are u? i understand how someone would feel in yur case, but it seems he was living with u? maybe? who's fault was it that he died? where was his parents at? don't think about how u feel, think about what u could have done, or should have, do u want me to be more clear? [/B][/QUOTE] Somehow I doubt those barrages of...'questions'...could offer anyone any type of condolances. :demon: Jenna, I really must say I'm sorry. I..I'm not too good at what to say when **** like this happens. Just remember the good times, and that you went away to college, because that's what you do in life. You move on from one thing to the next. And that's what your brother did. From what I remember, he had some problems [unless that was another sibling], and often needed a lot of help. Well, he won't have to live that anymore. By all means, you'll miss him. But he's better off. Words for comforting escape me at this moment, so I leave you with the simple thought of paradise. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BabyGirl Posted February 17, 2003 Author Share Posted February 17, 2003 [color=deeppink]Thanks to everyone for the support :) I guess that my brother had a bad cold the past few days, and since his immune system wasn't as strong as it could be, it took him a long time to get over sicknesses. My parents said that sometime during the night he just stopped breathing =\. I just can't imagine being the one who went to go wake him up and find it...I'm dealing with it pretty well with the support of my boyfriend, but I'm afraid that my parents aren't doing well at all. It's not right for him to have died so young. Meier_Link- I'm 18 and going to college in California. My brother was under the extremely loving care of my parents in Michigan; nothing could have been done to prevent what happened, it just [i]happened[/i].[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
black cat Posted February 17, 2003 Share Posted February 17, 2003 im so sorry to hear about your brother.:( my advice is when you get home try to comfort your family as much as you can. i hope you feel better soon Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amibasuki Posted February 17, 2003 Share Posted February 17, 2003 [FONT=arial]I'm terribly sorry that happened to your brother. wish there was something I could do. like other people mentioned, he's in a better place now, and he's probably doing great. only advice I can give is to stay close to the people you care about. hope all goes well for you.[/FONT] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mitch Posted February 17, 2003 Share Posted February 17, 2003 [color=red] I know nothing of the feelings you are experiencing, but I know it must be very hard. Just remember that all things do happen for reasons. Even as how pointless and how much of a loss of a great person it is, there's a reason. Albeit God, or whomever. There's a reason. I'm here to talk to you if you want it. Although I've never talked to you, I'm always happy to help someone that's down. So I really don't know what to say. I'm very sorry. You most likely don't deserve such a dire thing, nor did your brother. Just remember your brother for who he is was and everything you possibly can take from the way he's effected you and made you a more whole person. I'm sure you won't forget him ever. Just keep him with you always, look to his memory and strive for everything. Nothing lasts forever, the breeze sways on. You'll certainly get over his death, but once you do--don't forget him. So I hope you'll be OK, I hope your brother didn't die without something to leave behind, and I hope you'll get out of this all a stronger and more remembering person.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Hikaru Ichijyo Posted February 17, 2003 Share Posted February 17, 2003 :( Sigh....Jenna I'm deeply truly sorry to hear of this loss. I know your brother was a very intricate part of your life and you loved him very much, I don't even understand why these things happen to the wrong people but perhaps your brother now is in a better place...where he won't go through as much troubles as he did. It's never very easy to lose someone you care about, everyone goes through it and it is indeed painful. I wish there was something I could do to alleviate this but the only thing I can offer is my morale support for you and if you ever need to talk about it or let it all out you know where to contact me, I'm more then willing to listen and try to help you in your time of grieve. Heck even use me as an emotional punching bag if it makes you feel better. ;) I'm sorry to hear this just wish I could do something more to help, Jenna.:( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Transtic Nerve Posted February 17, 2003 Share Posted February 17, 2003 Oh... my god.... I'm really sorry Jenna. You know that you nad I have talked about Eric on more than one occation. I am sadened by this and I care for you and I cared for him. I do know how much you loved him. I could not imagine what you are going through right now. Be good, be safe. God bless you and Eric. He is with peace now. Where he can roam freely and be one with himself. You will see him again. PS: remember that time you gave me a pic of him and I did a few artistic renditions of it. I have one below for you. He is so cute too :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest cloricus Posted February 17, 2003 Share Posted February 17, 2003 My Condolences. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lady Macaiodh Posted February 17, 2003 Share Posted February 17, 2003 [color=darkblue]When I read your post, my jaw just dropped. I'd do anything to be giving you a hug right now! I knew about your brother but I had no idea something like this could happen. You are such a loving sister, I'm sure he was very happy & is watching over you right now, wrapping his little arms around you, making sure you'll be okay. I can imagine him running & playing with the other children, laughing, in a place where there is no illness. I hope you'll do the same. That's just what he would want you to do. I won't lie to you -- some moments will be unbearable, even years later. I'm almost tearing up as I write this thinking of the one I lost. But other times will fill you with joy as you remember him & what a wonderful gift he was (and still is) in your life. Things will pop into your head that you never realized meant so much. You'll gain a greater perspective into who he truly was than you ever would have before. Like I said, I hope you'll focus on these things. You need to grieve his death, but don't forget to celebrate his life. :)[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Roxie Faye Posted February 17, 2003 Share Posted February 17, 2003 I offer my condolences, Jenna. I don?t know you that well, but if you ever need someone to talk to, I?m always here, and I mean that. Words that try to make sense of death mean nothing when faced by it, so I am not going to say anything, but you have my condolences. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Meier_Link Posted February 17, 2003 Share Posted February 17, 2003 Madre, I believe you have a problem with me now, since u gave me that childish little angry face. I know what I'm talkin about so worry about the topic and off me please. As I learned from these posts, this has happened before? where he stops breathing? When was the last time u had a doctor check up with him? You live in California, I believe. Some babies are born with a tumor in their throat, the tumor grows as the child grows older. In my hometown Dowtown Sacramento, there is a hospital that treats this tumor. But then again that might not be the case, maybe yur brother has a different problem, and I understand you couldn't have done anything at that time, but a child's birth disease is the parent's fault. No offense to yur parents Anyway, you talk about how yur brother told u many stuff in life, this is a fascinating story, it reminds me of Anime movies instantly. HAHA, I remembered how happy I was when my grampa died, he can't boss me around no more, and I have less people in the family to use money on. Do u understand? One more thing, everyone here is offering some help by replying to yur topic. I'm sure it makes u feel better that so many people care for u. Don't u feel special? Medra or Madre? calm down, I'm not trying to be anyone's enemy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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