Na'dou Posted February 17, 2003 Share Posted February 17, 2003 Have you even had the feeling that there was something about you that just plain scare people? Or you feel as if people can't except you for who you are? I do. It always seems like I'm ignored being myself around others (mainly because I'm my own generation) and even my family. It just seems as if I don't fit in and they know it, so they try to get me to do things (like dancing) which is really something I just will not do. I just don't like the dances that they want me to do, and my dances are so different it's like they're weird. I know I'm not a very exciting person (and plenty here may know), but would it hurt just to except me for who I am? I except everyone else, so why don't they do the same? Sorry for being a pest... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lady Macaiodh Posted February 17, 2003 Share Posted February 17, 2003 [color=darkblue]Yeah, I've pretty much always been the black sheep... of everything. You just have to put up with it while you're growing up. I don't really much care anymore, though. One day you'll realize that you don't have to fit a particular mold to please other people & that it doesn't matter what they think. There are plenty of people out there who are more open-minded, you just have to find them. They will come to be like a second family to you. Another thing -- your family might think you're just in a "phase" & are trying to discourage what they consider unusual behavior. But as you get older, they will learn to accept who you really are, because right now they probably have no idea.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Hikaru Ichijyo Posted February 17, 2003 Share Posted February 17, 2003 Hmm that happens to everyone at one point in their life or another eventually one day you'll find people that accept you for who you are. Just look hard enough they might even be around now. Whatever you do though don't try to live up to "society's" standards or what they think is the only right way, you'll only kill your self esteem and confidence that way. And to answer your question no it wouldn't hurt for people to except other people for the way they are sadly though part of life is running around encounter people that don't understand you get us to it. :( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Na'dou Posted February 17, 2003 Author Share Posted February 17, 2003 Yeah, I guess that's true...i'll learn eventually, but until then, how do I start a good conversation? I usually have nothing to talk about so it's hard. Maybe I should quit looking at everything being as hard huh? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GinnyLyn Posted February 17, 2003 Share Posted February 17, 2003 [color=royal blue]I have the same problem as you. I just can't seem to initiate a conversation with most people, just my few closest comrades. And for me, it is a barrier that keeps me from getting to know others and have them know me better. [/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Na'dou Posted February 17, 2003 Author Share Posted February 17, 2003 Yay! Someone in my shoes! I'm sure eventually, we'll both learn...Hmm, the qualities of a good conversation are: 1.intelligence 2.a talent of some kind 3.a good voice 4.a good looking voice 5.and a neat looking pair of shoes.... Okay, that was a bad joke....I can easily get the gutts enough to say hi to others on the net (I usually know them), but when it comes to meeting someone face to face I'm a little shy about doing that which reminds me... In elementary school, that was usually the reason no one knew me for who I was. That's why the other kids usually got to the new students first and told them I had a disease (which I didn't it's a skin rash called eczema). That usually caused me to end up alone and having people call me "fish scales"....But I won't go there.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
black cat 2 Posted February 18, 2003 Share Posted February 18, 2003 i take walks sometimes and alot of site see-ers come down my road. i was walking once and a car stop where i was and they rolled down thier window so i started to walk slowly forward and getting ready to run if they got out of the car. i wasn't far from the car and i heard a kid say "mommy whos that scary man"?(just so you know im a girl) the older woman(the mom of the kid) said "it's not a man i think. well they sure are scary". i was so offended i ran home crying. big wup i was wearing a hat that covered one of my eyes and a black shairt and black pants. if people thimk thats scary them i'm scary every day Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Braidless Baka Posted February 18, 2003 Share Posted February 18, 2003 You say you can't start conversations hmm? Well my problem is the reverse, believe it or not there are people around who have a curse of starting them so often that nobody pays attention anymore. I can't even be thoughtful properly, since people think I'm depressed (and I did go through a depressed streak lately, so all the more worry). So, my advice is to not worry about it. There is always someone who thinks like you do, and if there's not then you could always convert someone. ^_^ Yeah, so, just don't worry about it, and don't change for anyone. Be yourself, and if people can't accept that then they either aren't worth the trouble or they will learn in time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PiroMunkie Posted February 18, 2003 Share Posted February 18, 2003 [color=indigo][size=1]You remind me a lot of myself, lol. There are plenty of things about me that scare people. Just the fact that I have nooses tied at the end of the drawstrings on my hooded sweatshirts freaks some people out. The fact that I sometimes wear a noose as a tie freaks some people out. I wear a two choke chains and a padlock around my neck; while the way they are put together makes it so I cannot be strangled that normal way of a choke chain, if someone were to yank on it or it would get caught on something, it would not break. That scares my dad. I read Johnny the Homicidal Maniac; that scares my mom. This is all just scratching the surface. Do I make a good impression upon the typical person when they see me? Pfft, no. Am I going to change myself just to do so? Never. If people cannot accept you for you that is their own problem, not yours. You were probably better off not knowing them anyway. I am sure there are other people out there who are not as close-minded as most people are, one just has to find them. As for starting conversations, I do not do much of that either. I really have nothing to ever talk about, and I do not really enjoy people. So unless someone tries to talk to me, I really do not do much talking. I do not get much of that either. So I do not think I can be of too much help there. :whoops:[/color][/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sara Posted February 18, 2003 Share Posted February 18, 2003 [size=1]Piro, that is extraordinarily intriguing... It scares my friends when I am perky and giddy. They give me sugar at parties and laugh at me. o0[/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heaven's Cloud Posted February 18, 2003 Share Posted February 18, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Sara [/i] [B][size=1]Piro, that is extraordinarily intriguing... It scares my friends when I am perky and giddy. They give me sugar at parties and laugh at me. o0[/size] [/B][/QUOTE] [color=indigo]Just the idea of seeing Sara perky and giddy scares me, a cynical and hyperactive persona all wrapped into one is not a pretty site. I wouldn't worry about being the black sheep of the family, I live a perfectly productive life and I am outcast by everyone that I know, including myself.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Na'dou Posted February 19, 2003 Author Share Posted February 19, 2003 This is all true, and I think some of the others are starting to understand me ( a bit) so they're more friendly and giving more complements...I just noticed it today when everybody wanted to read a poem I wrote titled "Ballad of the Warriors" Some wanted the short version, and some wanted the long version.....I wonder if they like me, or it's just my poem they like....It doesn't matter I guess, either way I feel better.... When I scare people, it's usually when I'm hyper and I'm silly. I'll say anything and everything. I get weird looks sometimes, but I'm usually not noticed unless I'm being loud....Surprising to me, no one can hear me when I talk... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
black cat Posted February 19, 2003 Share Posted February 19, 2003 some people in my school make fun of what i like. on the bus today they were talking about jlo's new song. i was talking to my friends and some little kids heard me. they asked me what anime was. i was just about to answer when the most snobby girl in the school (who usually steels my stuff) turned to them and said" it's nothing except little cartoons who run around killing people" i told the kids what anime really was and they liked my definition better. now those kids are trying to join the anime club that us so called "anime geeks" put together.(by that i'm using what the snobby people use to define us) other people try to say they like anime but have no idea what it is. and some people just say they watch the movies to sound "cool" i just ask them what japanesse animation movie they've seen and they usually say "omg japanesse animation? none." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DuoMax Posted February 19, 2003 Share Posted February 19, 2003 I feel for you. People at my school have no idea what anime, manga,or Dungeons and Dragons are, but they make fun of them! I think people just mock what they can't comprehend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Na'dou Posted February 22, 2003 Author Share Posted February 22, 2003 Well, if you're in middle school (and my Basic Skills teach. said it today) kids will say anything just to be saying it.......I hate it when they talk about something, and they have no idea what it's about! That makes me so mad I feel I'd want to :cussing: .... Hey, did you hear about that fire in that nightclub? That sounds horrible, and one of the band members is still missing. I hope they find him or have found him...Where did it happen though?...And do you think they should have done Pyro talents in a flammable building?... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charles Posted February 22, 2003 Share Posted February 22, 2003 Eh, let's try to keep this thread on track. O.o;; As for the topic at hand, it sounds to me like your friends really like you. They're just making an effort to expose you to activities that they enjoy. It might not hurt to try to spend time with them and checking out their interests. But, at the same time, if you really don't want to go out dancing, for instance, they should respect that. It's always important for friends to feel comfortable with one another and accept one another for who they are. It's not right for them to try to change you into something you're not. I'm pretty normal. I don't think there's anything about me that freaks people out. It would be a little cool if there was. If I feel awkward around people, it's because I know I don't really stand out in a crowd. In classes where creativity is involved my "unique" projects usually turn some heads though. They even give false impressions. When it comes to the internet, perhaps my online escapades frighten or freak people out--but anyone that knows me, knows that I'm not [i]that bad[/i]. I think. lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Na'dou Posted February 22, 2003 Author Share Posted February 22, 2003 That's nice to hear that people accept you........you sound sorta like me in a way... and I was on topic (this is really an open conversation thread cuz I hate making threads everytime I have something different to talk about). I found something that I would like to try talking about, if that's okay...if not, I'll forget about it and go back to my first topic....I thought everyone was done with that issue so I went on to another one. I hope I'm not being rude!.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charles Posted February 22, 2003 Share Posted February 22, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Na'dou [/i] [B]That's nice to hear that people accept you........you sound sorta like me in a way... and I was on topic (this is really an open conversation thread cuz I hate making threads everytime I have something different to talk about). I found something that I would like to try talking about, if that's okay...if not, I'll forget about it and go back to my first topic....I thought everyone was done with that issue so I went on to another one. I hope I'm not being rude!.... [/B][/QUOTE] You're not being rude. It's just that you [i]are[/i] going off topic. The thread is dealing with acceptance issues. If you want to start a thread dealing with the nightclub incident, feel free to. But if you start dedicating single threads to a wide variety of issues, they will become cluttered. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Na'dou Posted February 22, 2003 Author Share Posted February 22, 2003 Oh, okay then...Sorry to be a bother then. I usually don't like doing threads that way because some people might get tired of you doing threads everytime something pops into your thread....Then again, I'm not in here that often.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Roxie Faye Posted February 23, 2003 Share Posted February 23, 2003 [color=#9933ff]Eh. When I was younger, around ten, eleven, I was always so shy when I visied any of my mom's friends (we're all sort of like family). All I could do was laugh nervously and I looked like an idiot. V_V I eventually grew out of that into the chatty person that I am. The only way I know how to remotely try and help someone who is shy about saying hello to others is that, put it in perspective. They aren't going to hit you if you say hello, they aren't going to kill you on the spot if you say hello, the worst thing they can do is [i]not[/i] say hello. Is that so bad? It's most likely that theyr'e a little shy, too, but once you say hello first, they'll probably start talking to you and, hey you might even find a new friend. If you get stuck on a conversation, talk about something you like. Ask them if they're interested in anime. And if they don't know what it is, explain it to them. You'de be surprised how many people know what Anime is these days. The first day of school, there was a new girl who was asking our coping teacher if she was in the right room (which she was, because we had coping together), and so I stopped to look at her schedule, and I affirmed that she was in the correct room. She chose the seat behind me, and I asked her if she liked Anime. She said she did, and while we aren't best friends, we're fairly friendly. :)[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harry Posted February 23, 2003 Share Posted February 23, 2003 No problem here, everyone loves me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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