A Message About Depression...

[JCBaggee]

[color=red]While sitting here, sifting through the hundreds of posts on OB, I have noticed a trend has yet again shown itself. Apparently several of the members are at this time dealing with depression in some way or the other (stress, loss of loved ones, etc.). You may remember I did this last year, and since the case is identical in many ways, I'm going to do this again in hopes of achieving the same results.

I want everyone to know that, despite how bad things seem, there is hope at the other end. Whatever has you down, this will eventually make you stronger. Pain and suffering hurt very much and sometimes seem like they are all you experience, but they exist to teach you about you lives and who you are deep down. Sometimes, you're going to lose people you hold dear, and sometimes you're going to hurt them very badly in the midst of everything that has happened (though not always intentionally...trust me, I speak from experience).

You are all good people deep down, and bad things happen to good people, but I know that something good will eventually come out of everything that has happened to you. Best of luck to all with your problems. I'm here if you ever need to talk.

--Chris[/color]

[Bing]

[size=1][color=darkblue]I agree with everything you are saying Chris. All this depression ends up with something good, and it does get better. All though I don't understand the true discussion meant from this thread, I do recognise how you feel, and being around depressed guys is pretty bad, and makes you depressed yourself. So everyone, cheer up, and look into the future, and start thinking about the good stuff that is going to [b]happen[/b], not the bad stuff that has already [b]happened[/b].[/color][/size]

[JCBaggee]

[color=red]My feeling is, when I'm around people that feel bad, I feel bad because I can't help them, so I do what I can. I also know I did something similar to this last year, and I believed it really helped a lot of the members, so I'm hoping for a similar result.

--Chris[/color]

[black cat 2]

my parents are divorced so i have two names on here black cat and black cat 2. thats a problem i have my parents are divorced and not alot of people i know have divorced parents so they can't help me. it't so cofusing most of the time because they have joint custody of me, my brother and my sister.

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[Yu Yu Hakusho!]

It's strange though, whenever I read or hear about someone being depressed, it seemes to bounce on to me.
It makes me so sad to hear about things like that though, and sometimes I wish people would keep depression to themselves, espically if it's over a BF/GF. If you're younger than 16, in my opinoin, you shouldn't even be worrying about that crap yet. Too much to deal with already, ya know? School and all.
Anyway, I do gripe every now and then so I can't snap at the people that do come and talk about depression. I guess it's something we all can't avoid sometimes and it does help to talk about it.
I know it makes people feel better when they post something about their life/depression and others reply with good comments. That's the point of that person's thread anyway...gripe and get good comments.....><;
Hope I'm making sense here...I have a lot on my mind at the moment.

[JCBaggee]

[color=red]Well, I just want to say I'm really glad to say there are still some happy people here on OB ^_^

As for the rest of ya, we're here to help.

--Chris[/color]

[ChibiV]

It's easier said than done. I'm very depress right now, and possibly can do something stupid at this point.

[Dan L]

I'd just like to encourage people to do their best to be open with people about how you feel, if that's what's getting you down. I know that's what was bothering me until a few weeks ago, and it helped a lot just letting everything off my back. And I don't mean by posting on this web forum. I tried posting in my blog about it, knowing that some people would read it.. but that didn't really help at all. You need to open with people you know in real life, rather than people you only know through a cable in the back of your PC.

Also, the feelings you have can affect your actions significantly, and make you do very stupid things which can be hard to get out of. Even when you get rid of the original problem, the resulting circumstances you put yourself in can easily drag you back into that pit of despair. So once you get rid of what's been bothering you for so long, find something you can hold onto and be strong in, and get your life back in order. It's really not as easy to do as it is to talk about it, but I've only just managed to sort my life out and I can honestly say that despite how easy it is to give up, it really pays off to stick with it and sort everything out. Not only will you have less problems, but a lot of the stress will disappear too and you'll be much happier. I say that from my current situation right now, so this is still fresh in my mind right now.

Find your strength. For me it's God.. for you it may be something else.. but don't kid yourself.. there's a big difference between a place of strength and a place of hiding to get away from problems. One sorts out your problems with persistence, the other doesn't. Find your strength and use it to sort everything out, and you'll be in a much better mood, I guarantee it.

[Imp]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by black cat 2 [/i]
[B]my parents are divorced so i have two names on here black cat and black cat 2. thats a problem i have my parents are divorced and not alot of people i know have divorced parents so they can't help me. it't so cofusing most of the time because they have joint custody of me, my brother and my sister.

i [/B][/QUOTE]

My parents are also divorced!
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Hmmm... *sigh* This may seem weird, but my problem is that I don't have any problems... My life is almost perfect... [i]too[/i] perfect. There's just no challenge in my life; everything's so easy. I don't know why... You think having problems is hard, but what's worse than that is not having any problems at all! Well, actually, I do have some... but they're very minor and easy to deal with...

[ChibiV]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Deus Ex Machina [/i]
[B]
Find your strength. For me it's God.. for you it may be something else.. but don't kid yourself.. there's a big difference between a place of strength and a place of hiding to get away from problems. One sorts out your problems with persistence, the other doesn't. Find your strength and use it to sort everything out, and you'll be in a much better mood, I guarantee it. [/B][/QUOTE]

Before, I used to be a believer, a very strong believer. I'm not as strong right now, due to many things just happenned around. Do you ever do something that you know that's wrong but you still do it?

[JCBaggee]

[color=red]First off, Deus, couldn't have said it better myself.

Second, ChibiV, I believe everyone does that at some point in his or her life. It's just a natural part of human nature.

--Chris[/color]

[ChibiV]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by JCBaggee [/i]
[B][color=red]
Second, ChibiV, I believe everyone does that at some point in his or her life. It's just a natural part of human nature.

--Chris[/color] [/B][/QUOTE]

Yup, I agree. :D

btw, this is just an idea. Can the mod make this thread sticky, so when someone is depress, or have some problem, they can read this and share thoughts instead of open a new thread. :D

[black cat]

i just got news like 2 minutes ago that my grandmother died sudenly. *cries*i didn't want to make a thread with all the depressing things already so i decided i'll talk about it on here.

it may sound like i don't love her but i'm not surprised.

she wasn't doing to good. she had to use an oxygen machine.

i'm just glad she isn't suffering right now.

i wish i could but i can't seem to stop myself from crying. i was like this when my grandpa died.

i miss her so much and i didn't get to see her often.

i wish i could have said goodbye.