Guilt about ending a relationship...

[Zidargh]

[SIZE=1][COLOR=darkblue] Well today, I have been feeling incredibly down, but first, here is the story: -
Ive been very confused lately, but the main problem is, is that I feel it was unfair on my girlfriend (Now my ex-girlfriend). So I talked with her about things and I pretty much ended it, she was very upset and so was I, and I felt incredibly guilty in which I still do.
So I was wondering how you people feel once a relationship has been ended. (Remember I'm only 14 so it was a 'crush' relationship).[/COLOR][/SIZE]

[Bing]

[size=1][color=darkblue]Ah, yes, I've spoken to you about this once this evening, and I understand how you feel. It's going to hurt for a bit, so I ought to warn you, but eventually, you'll find somebody else, or you will get back with her, and it will seem like it never happened. If it was all ended because of confusion, just wait until you've cleared your head, then try it again! Hope I've helped you this evening, and what are friends for![/color][/size]

[vegeta rocker]

Feels like your heart has been ripped out thrown in a blender and whipped. And oh yeah sometimes you get depressed.
But if it happens its usually for the best.

[PiroMunkie]

[color=indigo][size=1]Well, I have only really been in two. Both of which had two different feelings at the end.

The first relationship I came out of was when I was fourteen, I did not really care. I was able to just walk away from it like most everything else. The thing that irritated me a little is that she never talked to me again. >> Even though there was that whole cliche "we can still be friends" bit. Personally, if you do not mean it, do not say it. It was not even a bad break up. It was quite a mutual thing. But oh well, life moved on.

The second one I came out of when I was sixteen. This one I was a little more sad that it did come to an end. It took me a few months to really get over it. Again, it was not a bad break up; it was mutual, and we are [i]still[/i] friends.

You just have to wait it out, and give yourself some down time to let everything settle. Do not let yourself really become too interested in another girl until you are sure that you are ready to do so. I am not saying shut yourself off from them. You can keep an eye out, just wait until you are ready to move on again.[/color][/size]

[Harry]

You shouldn't feel this bad if you dumped her. If you do, you shouldn't have dumped her.

[Heaven's Cloud]

[color=indigo]Looking back, if I could have done one thing differently in high school I would have dated a girl named Casey Frost my sophmore year (she wasn't hot then but by the time we were juniors, oh boy!!), but if I could have done something else differently, I would have not worried so much about the relationships that I was in during highschool. You get way to depressed worrying about girls that you can't even get past second base with.

A cruel fact is that you will think about every girl you ever dated (or even liked) once in awhile for the rest of your life. [/color]

[ChibiV]

I don't have a real outside life relationship yet. I have one online relationship, and I ended that relationship already. At first, I felt really guilty, but as the times pass, I feel that I'd made the right decision.

[Semjaza]

Relationships are everyone for themselves when you get down to it. Really, you shouldn't be hung up on anyone if you're the one who dumped them... Of course this isn't possible, because everyone is human and we regret crap we shouldn't even think twice about.

If something isn't working, you end it. Procrastination gets you in the end, especially with relationships. They are a two person thing, and if it's not working for one person, it's not working for anyone. You most likely made the right choice in the end I'd say.

I've only had one relationship I've really felt bad about ending. Mostly because it probably shouldn't have ended, we just couldn't deal with a lot of things at the time. I'm over her, and I got over her specifically rather quickly... The thing that took forever to get over was the loss of all the feelings she gave me honestly.

The other ones I ended because I couldn't take various things anymore. 2 of those turned out just fine, the last one turned out horribly and I basically now have someone that hates me for things that never even actually happened. Funny how people can twist anything to make themselves feel better.