Nim Posted March 2, 2003 Share Posted March 2, 2003 My parents are devorced and my mom lives in the USA and my dad in England! this meens i have to travel alot, i am having some really difficult situations. Like not long ago i was living in England and i suddenly desided to move to the USA with my mom, because i really want to. Of course my dad took to this all to badly. He said i should wait, but i didnt. Now he is angry and i dont know what to do. Should i have listend to him? Also things have been going badly between me and him because he got rid of one of my cats who we were planning to get rid of because she is not very happy with our other cat. Anyway my dad promised me that he would tell me before he got rid of her but he didnt, GOD WHAT A PAIN IN THE ***! I really am stuck! what should i do! HELP!:flaming: :devil: :wigout: :naughty: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Juu Posted March 2, 2003 Share Posted March 2, 2003 [color=ff00cc] [size=1]Well, my parents are divorced, and I'm living with my dad in Cali, while my mom lives in Texas... I don't think getting rid of the cat was right, and I would've been really upset too if that happened to me. I don't think he should be upset about you living with your mom, because that was your choice. It's really tough choosing between parents, and he should understand how hard it was for you to decide. Anyways, wish you the best! ^_^[/color] [/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GhostofSalvtore Posted March 2, 2003 Share Posted March 2, 2003 Well my parents are divorced as well and I am the complete opposite of what you are going to because my dad, who lives about an hour away, really could care less if I see him or not, so if I was in your case it would be nice to know that my dad actually wanted me to stay. But still its your choice and your dad shouldn't be mad. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harry Posted March 2, 2003 Share Posted March 2, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Nim [/i] [B] Anyway my dad promised me that he would tell me before he got rid of her but he didnt, GOD WHAT A PAIN IN THE ***! I really am stuck! what should i do! HELP!:flaming: :devil: :wigout: :naughty: [/B][/QUOTE] What does it matter? You abandoned him. Choose one of them and stick with her/him. Jumping inbetween will only make things worse. [quote]But still its your choice and your dad shouldn't be mad.[/quote] It's her choice so she has to live with the consequences (read: getting her dad mad). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lady Macaiodh Posted March 3, 2003 Share Posted March 3, 2003 [color=darkblue]You have to try to understand your dad right now. It's not quite like Harry said, but that's probably the way your dad feels. He feels hurt. You just need to give him time to cope with it, & be sure to let him know over & over that you love him, don't love your mom more, you'd just be happier living in the US & will see him soon. Though I don't think the cat thing should have been mentioned as a factor. Parents do that stuff. Make sure your motives are pure & well thought-out in this decision. You're going to have to get used to that kind of thing, as a teenager. Just wait til they start restricting your dating, clothes, car use, etc. You can't just switch to another parent because you don't like what the other one did. I'm not saying you did that, but make sure a normal fight wasn't the cause of your leaving.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest cloricus Posted March 3, 2003 Share Posted March 3, 2003 I'm living with my dad now for school and my mum is about 700km's away. Though thanks to the tilt train it is only about 3 and a half hours away at an affordable price. So if I ever want to go see her I could. (:)) Though I go there for most of my holidays. (:D) I'd give different advice depending if you where male or female. (Eg which are you. :P ...and how old you are would help.) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Manic Webb Posted March 4, 2003 Share Posted March 4, 2003 My parents divorced when I was 2 years old. I don't remember them ever being together. I live with my mom, but I have to divide my weekends and holidays between the two. At first, my brother and I were only allowed to see my father every other weekend, but when I was about 10 (my brother 16), my mother gave us the option to live with whoever we wanted. My brother chose my dad. I stayed with my mom. Shakey times, shakey times. Divorces are never good for kids, especially when it comes to which parent you're going to live with. You always feel like you're leaving one parent out in the cold and (unless you really don't like one of your parents, which doesn't sound like your case) you hate to leave one behind to be with the other. You've chosen your parent to live with and the 3 of you are all going to have to accept that. Whenever you have a good long opening in your schedule (try a couple of days/weeks), visit the parent you're not with, if possible. That's all the advice I have for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jarjarblinks Posted March 4, 2003 Share Posted March 4, 2003 A lot of people have divorced parent's these days. :confused: I know how you feel. My parent's divorced when I was around 7 and I has a lot of problems with it. My parent's sent me to so many shrinks...anyways. How long have they been divorced? Cause the first two years were horrible for me, but now things are looking up. My dads getting married and I couldn't be happier. I know that it may be hard, but just stick to it. I'm guessing that they both care about you a lot and it's just as hard on them as it is on you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest TLOL_Vash Posted March 4, 2003 Share Posted March 4, 2003 I never really experienced my parent's divorce and my mom and dad never really had to fight over me, mom took me that was that, but i do have advice nonetheless, you need to sit and think run over it in your mind, only you know's what to do, because only you know your parents, if your dad is mad, talk to him a while as long as you can possibly muster and tell him you're sorry for just upping and going without waiting for him, he;ll understand and if he doesn't then he is unnapreciative of you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nim Posted March 5, 2003 Author Share Posted March 5, 2003 ok well i am 13 trurning 14 august 21st and i am female, hope that answers one of your questions, my mom and dad ave been split for a long time.......> um probly since i was four, i cant remember much exept my dad jogging me around on his back, it used to put me to sleep * i am weird * *groans* the cat thing didnt make me leave it just put me on a reall *I HATE DAD AT THE MOMENT* state of mind. I really left because i wanted to be with my mom and my friends here. My dad is a hard person to live with, he has never been the type of person that manages to well with living with somone, he likes things his way and were he puts them. The worst thing is he does the opposite thing to me. Yes, being 13 i like my room to be a private place:flaming: and when i find him desturbing my stuff i get:devil: angry. Also when he comes in to say goodnight he cant go 2 seconds before he moves somthing, eg. puts some socks away.. yuck well thats all hope it answers some questions. :angel: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marron347 Posted March 8, 2003 Share Posted March 8, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Nim [/i] [B]Anyway my dad promised me that he would tell me before he got rid of her but he didnt, GOD WHAT A PAIN IN THE ***! I really am stuck! what should i do! HELP![/B][/QUOTE] i know how you feel. my dad had my dog put to sleep while i was at church and he lied to me about it for months afterward. anyway, your dad shouldn't be mad at you because it was your choice, but if it was me, i would have stayed in england. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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