Frustrated!

[Cora Jane 2]

[font=arial][size=1]Why are people so confusing? I have a chance to break some news to my ex-boyfriend, that his girl (the one of whom he cheated on me with), is cheating on him.... What should I do? But first here's s little back ground....

Ok big deal... I know that my luck with relationships is never really that good. But why do things have to seem like they are going great, then they fall apart. I guess it seems wrong, that the guy I was dating, decided he would cheat on me, then he lied to me... ok I can get over the whole cheating thing, but when you lie to me that takes it a little too far. Its not that he lied once, but he continued to lie to me.... argh!

I have tons of friends that go to most the schools in the Omaha/Metro/Bellevue area. My ex-boyfriend goes to Omaha North... ok we were dating yeah, he cheated on me with this girl who goes to Omaha Central. So I dumped him, but yeah it's weird to go from talking all the time, to like not talking at all. He has been giving me kind of a cold shoulder type thing one moment, then the next he is all like "I miss you, I'm gonna give you a hug." And I am not really a touchy-feely person. I have a personal space bubble, and you don't invade it, because if you do, I smack you upside your head. Anywho... My ex, and this girl from Central were dating... ok big deal. No but I have friends at Central, and they see her and this jock all over each other at school, and it's ridiculous(sp). But what should I do... do you think I should tell him, or what? Should I take him back? I don't know!!!! argh... Ah well...

I guess yeah, I miss him... that's a given. But yeah, what would you do? I guess I could be really rude and burst his bubble, because he thought he was too good to get caught, and I caught him.... *sigh* he was stupid and he knows that ... but yeah... should I tell him what's up with his new girl? I don't know.... I think I might, but I guess I want to see what others would do first.

Thanks for the help.

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[Vegitto4]

I see your rather torn here. Out of revenge, I would not tell him, however, out of compassion, I would. now, if' he is a pig, or just really stubborn, like most guys. If you tell him, he might go" no she's not, you just want me back so bad your spreading that she is" . Then again, you could sit back, and watch how it all plays out. Or get back at the girl who he cheated on you with, and have him cheat on ehr with you, but that would be tricky. meh, u decide. There are lots of options

[Cora Jane 2]

[font=arial][size=1]I guess one thing that makes it hard, is that I go to a Catholic all girl school. Like most of my friends all go to the local public schools... lol... oh well... lets see what others say.... [/font][/size]

[Semjaza]

I know in a sense you're probably thinking "**** him, he cheated on me... He doesn't deserve to know." At least that would be one of [i]my[/i] thoughts.

At the same time though, you'd be just like him in that sense... And I really doubt you want to be. In that case, I think you're better off just telling him (regardless of your current relationship). I'm pretty sure you will anyway.

If he wants to listen to you, that's another story.

[GinnyLyn]

Keep a watch on both your pride and your emotions. It's a delicate situation--or it will be when it comes to light.

There is that problem of just how much he's going to believe you, which is why I might suggest finding someone the both of you can trust to tell him. Make sure you go with this person, though, else your ex really will think you are spreading rumors.

The third party can also take care of any --what's the word here?....ah...you know...ah!--moderation (playing moderator), in case either you or your ex should get out of hand, emotionally. Plus, they are just good moral support.

At least, that's how I'd do it.

(OoC: I'm still fascinated by your dancing banana, Sem...and that soooo just came out wrong. .:blush:.)

[Queen Asuka]

[color=hotpink][size=1]Well, since you miss him then you obviously have feelings for you. And despite the fact that he cheated on you, I think he may still have feelings for you as well. I think you should tell him, but not in a cocky way, but in a sympathetic way. Offer him someone to talk to, let him know that you care. I don't know, maybe that's just how I am...but it might work. :)[/color][/size]

[boredchick]

I think you should tell him, if he doesn't listen to you then, oh well. I was in a similar situation a couple months ago, I told my ex his new girlfriend was cheating on him, he didn't listen, but that's his problem.

[Cora Jane 2]

[font=arial][size=1]Well I know guys who play girls are dogs, and dogs are no good. The thing is that I guess I know he has feelings for me still which is not making my life any easier. I guess that having the same intrests didn't really help things much.. as in now. Like I am huge in music and drama, as is he, and we did a lot of that type of stuff together, and well yeah, so now when I play guitar, I think of him, and when I hear Nirvana, and some other music I think of him. When drama comes around I think of him... DAMNIT! Why does stuff like this have to be so hard!!![/font][/size]

[Harry]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by ZxFrOgGie13 [/i]
[B][font=arial][size=1]Well I know guys who play girls are dogs, and dogs are no good. [/font][/size] [/B][/QUOTE]
Girls wouldn't be played if they didn't think every single relationship was the big one. Sorry, just felt like saying that. And just leave the guy to figure it out himself, he obviously doesn't care about you if he didn't have the decency to dump you then go out with another girl.

[Red]

[b][color=515050][size=1]That's a very harsh comment Harry. Some people actually think relationships mean something. Heck, maybe they even [i]like[/i] the person that they're going out with. Is that such a big thing to comprehend?

Anyway, if you like him that much you should tell him, you never know what kind of reaction you'll get.[/b][/color][/size]

[Harry]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Elite [/i]
[B][b][color=515050][size=1]That's a very harsh comment Harry. Some people actually think relationships mean something. Heck, maybe they even [i]like[/i] the person that they're going out with. Is that such a big thing to comprehend?[/b][/color][/size] [/B][/QUOTE]
Just because they liked the person doesn't mean they should moan about it day and night for a week. Especially if you're junior highschool or senior highschool.

[James]

[color=#808080]Being cheated on by a partner is no small deal. It hurts; you can't blame people for wanting to express that emotion. It's fair for them to do so.

Don't blame the girl for being cheated on; the guy cheating on her should be up front with her. If he isn't intersted, he should end the relationship [i]before[/i] going out with someoene else. Cheating is dishonest and disrespectful.[/color]

[Harry]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by James [/i]
[B][color=#808080]Don't blame the girl for being cheated on; the guy cheating on her should be up front with her. If he isn't intersted, he should end the relationship [i]before[/i] going out with someoene else. Cheating is dishonest and disrespectful.[/color] [/B][/QUOTE] Yeah but sometimes the girl will freak out either way. Like this one girl I dated stole my license plate from my car and wrote "die harry" all over her shoes with a sharpie. What i'm saying is that they shouldn't grow such a deep bond when there's almost no chance that it will last forever.

[James]

[color=#808080]Well, it depends.

If you are in a relationship, it's reasonable for a deep bond to form. If you cheat on a girl, you really do deserve for her to go nuts on you. lol

But if you just break up with her...well, that's completely different. If you are just breaking up and there is no cheating, then you certainly [i]don't[/i] deserve to be treated in that way.[/color]

[Kent]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by James [/i]
[B][color=#808080]Well, it depends.

If you are in a relationship, it's reasonable for a deep bond to form. If you cheat on a girl, you really do deserve for her to go nuts on you. lol

But if you just break up with her...well, that's completely different. If you are just breaking up and there is no cheating, then you certainly [i]don't[/i] deserve to be treated in that way.[/color] [/B][/QUOTE]

Its also immoral. which I know that you know.

I think the odest thing about cheaters and cheating is...

For reasons of hypothetical example, work with me here.

A guy has a girlfriend, she cheats on him with a random dude.

When the guy finds out that his girl is cheating on him, he gets mad at the other guy and doesn't get nearly as mad with the girl.

All though I can understand the emotions that drive a person to do what I mention above... I just dont see much sense in it.

I think the proper response would be to address the cheater and leave the "dude" out of it.

I want to say Im sorry about your situation and I wish you luck.
I dont really know what to say beyond that.

I also want to mention that cheating is not a thing of circumstance as so many victims would like to think...

"oh I was drunk... blah blah blah"

It a charactor thing, not a situation thing.

I learned from my mom of all people when I was younger that if I get a girlfriend who hasn't broken up with her current boyfriend before she goes out with me... she's gonna get another boyfriend before she breaks up with me.

If you hook up with someone and they are cheating on their "person" to be with you, then they will cheat on you to be with someone else.

Once again... good luck and I wish you the best.

[Lady Macaiodh]

[color=darkblue]I honestly don't know what the problem is. Forget about this guy. If she's cheating on him, then it's just his own actions coming back to him, since he did the same thing to you. Look, you'll have plenty of opportunities to meet a guy who will respect you & never cheat on you in the first place.

If you get back with him, you'll always wonder if he's going to cheat on you again, especially since you go to different schools, making it easier for him to do. Do you really think you can trust him? He already screwed you once... he's a dog, he doesn't deserve you, girl!

You're about to graduate, & high school relationships rarely last. You will meet so many smart, mature, respectable guys (& yeah, jerks, too) & the point is you absolutely do not need him. He doesn't even seem to be capable of a long-term relationship, anyway.

As for telling him about his girl, that's up to you. I guess there would be some fun in springing the news, if only to ask him how [i]he[/i] likes being cheated on. I seriously doubt you'd be telling him for his own good, as a friend or whatever. You have your own agenda in it, whether you admit it to yourself or not. And he's going to realize that eventually. But don't expect anything out of it, & don't even think about taking him back! Like I said, you deserve someone you can really trust who will cherish you like the priceless treasure you are! [/color]

[Kent]

What Lady M has said is just about all that needs to be said.

What goes around comes around.

I think that no matter who you are, you can do better than some cheating bum.

No matter who you are, you can do better, and remember that.

I just wish that I could have put my point across as well as Lady M.

So listen to her, she has given the best advice yet and I suggest you listen.

[Cora Jane 2]

[font=arial][size=1]Thanks for all the response... I know what I am going to do... and I do know that there are other fish in the sea. I guess for me it's hard, because I know it in my head that he's trash, and well in my heart, I still have to convince myself. lol.. ah well... I'm working on it. Thanks guys for your support.
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It takes a moment to fall in love, but it takes a lifetime to forget.[/color]
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[Kent]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by ZxFrOgGie13 [/i]
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It takes a moment to fall in love, but it takes a lifetime to forget.[/color]
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I couldn't have said it better myself and with that in mind, I really do wish you the best, as well as the strength and wisdom that none of us can ever obtain.

Forget luck, this one has got to be all about your dedication to your own happiness.

[Cora Jane 2]

[font=arial][size=1]Thanks Gokents... you are only so right... It won't be luck that pulls me through this.... It [b]will be[/b] my dedication.

Thanks for listening to me complain.... I appreciate it, and the advice you all have given me. Thanks again!!

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[Guest Hikaru Ichijyo]

In all honesty it's not your place to get involved in this matter ZxFrOgGie13 let him find out on his own, since you no longer are with him and it would be rather improper to get into a matter like that, it's more trouble then it would be worth.

[Harry]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by ZxFrOgGie13 [/i]
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It takes a moment to fall in love, but it takes a lifetime to forget.[/color]
~*~Frogger~*~[/font][/size] [/B][/QUOTE]
See, my point was it shouldn't take a life time to forget a stupid high school romance.

[Cora Jane 2]

[font=arial][size=1]Harry there are some people in your life that you will meet, be it a romantic interest, or just some one that impresses you to improve in your life. Maybe a family member, or a teacher. There are many people in my life that I will never forget, unfortunately, my ex is some one who fits into that category. Trust me, if I could forget him, I would? He helped me change for the better, and not give up in music. I am still greatly involved in music and was, but I was having a hard time with a few things?. We talked through things, and well I am still involved with music, even more than I was? I am also continuing with drama. I love to act, and help back stage, and I am doing so in a show currently. Although things go rough, I still press through, also people deal with loss in different forms?. You may not like to talk things out with others, I do? although I don?t like to do so that much, but this topic is harder for me, so I like to hear what others have to say.

For the rest of you, I have decided that I will not tell him? I have also decided that all of my dwelling on this topic is kind of making things a drag for everyone else. I will try to let up on all of that. I know, you don?t want to hear me complain, and I mean not to, but stuff happens and yeah I know you have to move on in life? and this is how I am doing it. I am talking to others about it. If you don?t like it, lump it and ignore this thread? I know that you are all welcome to your opinions and I encourage them. But I do not want this thread to turn into a ?I?m gonna bash your opinion!? or ?I?m gonna tear you down because I can!? thread. I am open to hear what you have to say, and honestly even if I don?t want to hear it, for the most part I know I need to hear it. I will take it in, even if I don?t want to.

Thanks for replying.

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