Marron347 Posted March 8, 2003 Share Posted March 8, 2003 i have a hard decision to make and i was wondering if anyone could help me out. there is this boarding school i really want to go to and its only about 100 miles away from where i live, but my friends don't want me to go because they are afaid we will grow apart. now, normally, i would have no touble making this decision and stay with my friends in an instant because my friends are very important to me, but going to this school is my lifelong dream and i never thought i would have this opportunity because it is really expensive to go there and i am poor.also, i don't think it would be that big of a deal because i would be calling every day and coming to visit every other weekend. i told them this, but they still don't want me to go. so you see my predicament. can you guys give me some of your opinions 'cause i am really in a jam. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Manic Webb Posted March 8, 2003 Share Posted March 8, 2003 The sad part about your situation is that it's going to be nearly impossible to have your cake and eat it. Either way, you're missing out on something. If you stay home and don't enroll in that school, you'll be missing out on the opportunity of a lifetime. You'll never know if you would've really liked the school and you'll never know where that school could've taken you in life. On the other hand, you'll get to stay with you're friends, who are obviously very important to you. You can still have a successful future and you can keep your friends. On the [i]other[/i] other hand, if you do go to the school, you'll be losing some very close friends. Sure, you'll come visit every other weekend [i]at first[/i], but then you'll find yourself staying there a little bit longer until you realise that you're barely visiting your old home anymore. You'll have to make new friends and your old friends will make new friends. But on the [i]other [b]other[/b][/i] other hand, you can't pass up everything this school has to offer. This new school can send you places in life that other schools can't. This is the opportunity of a lifetime, for goodness' sake! Besides, you can make new friends [i]easily[/i]. And you can still see your old friends occasionally. I can only help you weigh the pros and cons. Me deciding for you wouldn't really be helping, in my opinion. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DeathKnight Posted March 8, 2003 Share Posted March 8, 2003 [color=crimson]I say go to the school. You can always forge new friendships, and old ones will eventually die out. You only get a few chances at really makeing a dream into a reality.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wrist cutter Posted March 8, 2003 Share Posted March 8, 2003 Screw your friends. They'll live without you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yu Law Posted March 8, 2003 Share Posted March 8, 2003 hey if they're true friends whe you come back from school you'll start right were you left off. Oh yeah and true friends would want you to do whats right for you...meaning.....EDUCATION!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harry Posted March 8, 2003 Share Posted March 8, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Marron347 [/i] [B]i have a hard decision to make and i was wondering if anyone could help me out. there is this boarding school i really want to go to and its only about 100 miles away from where i live, but my friends don't want me to go because they are afaid we will grow apart. now, normally, i would have no touble making this decision and stay with my friends in an instant because my friends are very important to me, but going to this school is my lifelong dream and i never thought i would have this opportunity because it is really expensive to go there and i am poor.also, i don't think it would be that big of a deal because i would be calling every day and coming to visit every other weekend. i told them this, but they still don't want me to go. so you see my predicament. can you guys give me some of your opinions 'cause i am really in a jam. [/B][/QUOTE] Go to the school, it's not like you'll stay with these friends all your life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
future girl Posted March 8, 2003 Share Posted March 8, 2003 go to the school, if they really care for you they'll understand that this is an opportunity in a lifetime, and something that could improve your situation tremendously and they'll be happy for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marron347 Posted March 8, 2003 Author Share Posted March 8, 2003 actually, i do plan on staying as close as i can to my friends for the rest of my life. i dont do well with losing friends...bad memories. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harry Posted March 8, 2003 Share Posted March 8, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Marron347 [/i] [B]actually, i do plan on staying as close as i can to my friends for the rest of my life. [/B][/QUOTE] It's not going to happen. You MIGHT keep one friend, maybe. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Semjaza Posted March 8, 2003 Share Posted March 8, 2003 Everyone is not [i]you[/i] Harry. If you can't keep friends then fine, but I have many friends that I've had since I was a child. It's not impossible lol. Anyway, there is such a thing as communication. Why can't you just keep in touch with these people? Sure, it won't save everything, but it's an option. That said, you should be more concerned with your future, and if the boarding school is an option that will help that be realized... Well then do it. Like everyone said, you'll make new friends. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lady Asphyxia Posted March 8, 2003 Share Posted March 8, 2003 [color=darkred]Go to the darned school. Yes, there is always a possibility of losing your friends, but there's a greater possibility of losing your dreams if you don't. And then you'll grow to dislike your friends because they held you back. And you'll lose them anyway.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fall Posted March 8, 2003 Share Posted March 8, 2003 If you're so close to your friends that you don't feel comfortable going to the school, stay home. Chances are if you're that close now, they could turn out to be the best friends you'll ever have. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lady Macaiodh Posted March 8, 2003 Share Posted March 8, 2003 [color=darkblue]What are you waiting for? Go! Go! If they're your true friends, they won't just drop you, for godssakes. My best friend Jessica was sent to a boarding school because of bad behavior for a year and a half. It was the type of school where she couldn't visit, write letters, or have any correspondence whatsoever with the outside world. So I didn't speak to her or hear from her once that whole time. But I never forgot or stopped loving her. We're closer now than ever (I was 18 when she got sent away and now I'm 23). Besides, you have a huge opportunity here. Have you checked the place out? Is there a set amount of time you have to stay once you get there, or can you leave if you absolutely hate it? I mean, you've got to at least try it. Once you get older, there will be huge gaps of time where you don't see a certain friend or two, I guarantee. And what if you grow apart from your friends even if you don't go? Then you'd really hate yourself. If you don't go... I'm gonna smack you on the head. I'll do it, too, just ask anybody around here. ;)[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KittyLynn Posted March 8, 2003 Share Posted March 8, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Harry [/i] [B]It's not going to happen. You MIGHT keep one friend, maybe. [/B][/QUOTE] Well, I can see that with you. But if you try you can.My step father kept close contact with all his friends that he met in grade 2! Its possible...but only if you have the heart to do it. You have a great opportunity here and I think your friends will be happy for you. Hope you don't forget to inform us. Are you going to stop posting? I hope not. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harry Posted March 8, 2003 Share Posted March 8, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Semjaza Azazel [/i] [B]Everyone is not [i]you[/i] Harry. [/B][/QUOTE] Do you actually know how many people keep friends from high school? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
James Posted March 8, 2003 Share Posted March 8, 2003 [color=#808080]I think you should go. You can always write to your friends...or use the phone or email. And you're not going to be living at the school [i]forever[/i]. You'll come home. And when you do, your friends will be waiting. ^_^[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ravenstorture Posted March 8, 2003 Share Posted March 8, 2003 There is a friend of mine who I don't like very much, she has recently moved down to Newcastle and her father still lives up here in Toowoomba. He has been told that it would be rather easy for him to move to Cambodia or Nepal and teach english there, meaning the certificate needed is basically in his lap anyway. He's not a very happy person and he would really love to go and teach overseas, if only just for a year or so. He called his daughter and told her about it. She said she would rather him stay here. As it is, she only sees him once a year anyway, as she lives so far away. If you're thinking that she's a heinous *****, then consider your friends. I don't even know you and I'm excited that this opportunity has arose in your life. What will your 'friends' say if you tell them that a very large internet community considers them rather selfish? Because from what I have heard, I certainly have reason to. One hundred miles is not very far anyway, at least, it's not in Australia. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest cloricus Posted March 8, 2003 Share Posted March 8, 2003 I have one real friend. He is 700km's away. I had the choice of going to a really crap school and being around friends or go to one that might equal to me having a good education. I chose education, and I think it was one of my better dessicions. Though that doesn't mean I'm not back there as often as a can. (Tilt train makes the trip about 4 hours. :D) You never know what will happen with your friends, but where you go to school will affect your whole life. I really hope you take this advice and go to the school. 100 miles isn't very far. Friends come and good. So always put yourself first in this situation. Eps - 4 POSTS TO GO! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nezzyjean Posted March 8, 2003 Share Posted March 8, 2003 First think...How good are these friends...r they really close...or not, how long have you known them?? Consider your answers and decide from there. But if they are your true friends, they will want you to be happy, and what u want is an education. So go to the school!!! Besides, maybe your friends are saying that they don't want u to leave so that they can express that they will miss you, not that they really don't want you to go, as long as they will see you, they shouldn't be too unhappy. For example, mai friend is moving to Florida, and me and mai friends say that she shouldn't leave, and that we'll kidnap her from her house...we weren't really gonna, but we were only saying that so that we could express that we would miss her, so maybe that is what your friends are trying to do, but if not, Go to the school anyway. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Subversive Posted March 8, 2003 Share Posted March 8, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Harry [/i] [B]Do you actually know how many people keep friends from high school? [/B][/QUOTE] Statistically Harry is right, but its only a statistic not a decision maker. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ninjaman Posted March 8, 2003 Share Posted March 8, 2003 I say go to the school. This most likely a one chance to get to fulfill your lifelong dream. Your education is very important in life and besides, you'll make new friends at the school. And like James said, you could always write or something else to get in contact with your friends. So go to the school and fulfill your lifelong dream. Hoped I help. ^^ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Booboo Posted March 8, 2003 Share Posted March 8, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Harry [/i] [B]Do you actually know how many people keep friends from high school? [/B][/QUOTE] My mom did. My mom and her best friend, from high school, are still best friends though her friend lives in Michigan now. They still visit eachother. But Harry is right, not alot of people do stay friends after highschool. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yu Law Posted March 8, 2003 Share Posted March 8, 2003 but you do have to admit Harry has a point Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marron347 Posted March 9, 2003 Author Share Posted March 9, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Lady Macaiodh [/i] [B][color=darkblue]Besides, you have a huge opportunity here. Have you checked the place out? Is there a set amount of time you have to stay once you get there, or can you leave if you absolutely hate it? [/color] [/B][/QUOTE] i'm going to check it out over spring break. it's a seventh day adventist christian church. i've wanted to go there since i was a little kid. my sister went there so i've been there before, but that was a long time ago. i don't know if there is a set amount of time. i'm going on a scholership and i'm planning to stay there for the full four years if i decide to go. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marron347 Posted March 9, 2003 Author Share Posted March 9, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by keyblade [/i] [B]First think...How good are these friends...r they really close...or not, how long have you known them??[/B][/QUOTE] this is what makes it so hard. most of my friends i have known them for like 7 or 8 years and i don't see them enough as it is. i was really leaning toward going and i thought i had made my decision, but then one of my friends said she would cry if i left, which is a very big thing for her since she is very emotionally unstable. she even tried to commit suicide last year, so i am kinda of worried she might get depressed and do it again Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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