Rhys Mayiessen Posted March 23, 2003 Share Posted March 23, 2003 [color=skyblue]I don't mean someone that you have just met I mean a person that has been your friend for a long time. I was just wondering what you would do if you felt as though comunication was strained between you and a friend. Like it takes extra effort just to make the person actually start a conversation with you. What would you say? What kind of conversation would you engage in to try and make things better between the two of you, just as it has been before....Just a thought.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Change Posted March 23, 2003 Share Posted March 23, 2003 How is it going? What's new with you? That's a nice shirt? Say, wa know what....(you finnish it) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Posthumous Posted March 23, 2003 Share Posted March 23, 2003 [color=teal][size=1][b]I tend to say nice things all the time... I never make fun of them on how they look or anything like that...[/b][/size][/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Corey Posted March 23, 2003 Share Posted March 23, 2003 I just be quiet. If the friendship is good, it will mend in time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Zeh Posted March 23, 2003 Share Posted March 23, 2003 [color=003399]Talk about games... That aught to get them talking, or nothing will.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Transtic Nerve Posted March 23, 2003 Share Posted March 23, 2003 Usually I start off with "How's the penis? Good? Thats nice? Oh graduated? A doctor? you don't say." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Justin Posted March 23, 2003 Share Posted March 23, 2003 I usually don't talk much. The best listeners are the best freinds. But that's just me. -Justin Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GinnyLyn Posted March 23, 2003 Share Posted March 23, 2003 I'm pretty quiet myself. I put in a lot of "Bwee"s and "Bwaa"s and "hee hee hee"s into my AIM conversations just as filler, because I don't know what to say. Getting silly is always fun, as long as the other person is in the mood. Which prolly won't work in this sitch, with your strained relationship right now. I'm a good listener. But if I knew the answer to your question, Rhys, I wouldn't be in the mess I'm in. *stares at certain people* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Change Posted March 23, 2003 Share Posted March 23, 2003 I think that AIM is just plain awkward. That is prabably why I have not had it for 4 years... I belive that directness and honesty is the best path, works in most situations for me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mitch Posted March 23, 2003 Share Posted March 23, 2003 [color=red] I always try to say something worthwhile. When someone I talk to is down, I try to cheer them up. Mostly unsucessfully. I sometimes tend to be really silly. But I'm dead serious when conversation goes there. When I can't find something to say, I try to put it into words, but I usually never get anything out. I just end up going nowhere though. At least that's how it seems to me. :Glares at Ginny: You're never on when I'm on. Either than or you have some secret name. Bleh.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GinnyLyn Posted March 23, 2003 Share Posted March 23, 2003 Heh, silly Mitch. You aren't the one I'm upset about right now. BTW, I'm PM my AIM name to ya, if you [i]promise[/i] not to share. *realizes she just said that in a public forum* DANGIT! Fine, I'll trade it for a pic of ya to draw. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Hikaru Ichijyo Posted March 23, 2003 Share Posted March 23, 2003 Give it some time, all friendships mend themselves in due time. If you try to dwell on trying to mend it half the time you're only going to make the situation worse. Give it time and have paitence. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GhostofSalvtore Posted March 23, 2003 Share Posted March 23, 2003 Well when I have nothing to say I give a bit long pause and look up, like I am thinkin somethin....ok no no that was from "friends" just thought I would put that humor in there. But I am sure there will be somethin to talk about one day. I usually just put in some crazy things when I talk to peope, just to make the coversation funny. You can talk about world events, thats seems to be the big subject now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kevin Posted March 23, 2003 Share Posted March 23, 2003 [COLOR=green]If you feel that your friendship is being shut down, maybe you should talk to the person about it. Sometimes people don't even know that they are doing something like that. If you are really friends with the person, they will understand and talk about it with you.[/COLOR] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rhys Mayiessen Posted March 23, 2003 Author Share Posted March 23, 2003 [color=skyblue]That would be good advice FF7 Vincent if I hadn't already done that. I know that sometimes you can just walk with a person and not talk to them...like in comfortable silence. I dunno maybe it was just me but it didn't feel like comfortable silence. I guess I might be just worrying over nothing but sometimes I feel as though they don't want to have anything to do with me...[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vegitto4 Posted March 23, 2003 Share Posted March 23, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Justin [/i] [B]I usually don't talk much. The best listeners are the best freinds. But that's just me. -Justin [/B][/QUOTE] I agree. I try to be quiet most of the time, or, I used to anyway. Now, depending on the person, i might have to talk the bulk of the time. But if i'm having a problem, and a friend is mad at me, then i wait for them to cool off a bit, then try and see whats up. it all works out in the end. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tommy Vercetti Posted March 23, 2003 Share Posted March 23, 2003 Hmmm talk with things that interest them and that you also are interested in and have enough knowledge about the subject that you can start up a decent conversation. Also as some people have said listening is very good as if you listen to your friends problems and then perhaps try to give advice then they will think your a really nice friend for listening and caring. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Delian Posted March 24, 2003 Share Posted March 24, 2003 I had this problem once with one of my good friends. We just came to an uncomfortable silence, so I just turned to her and told her that I don't really know what to say....she felt the same way and we found the situation rather amusing and ended up chatting for another hour. I guess you should try telling them the truth and see what happens. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vegitto4 Posted March 24, 2003 Share Posted March 24, 2003 Also, saying something very random works perfectly. Something like** in a dead silence** " Tomatoes" ** crickets continue to chirp....** Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigCajones Posted March 24, 2003 Share Posted March 24, 2003 [color=teal]If you know something that interests your friend then just talk about that even if it doesn't interest you. Maybe something on T.V last night or computer games. Also ask alot of questions, about family or love life. Otherwise just tell the truth and see what happens.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DeathKnight Posted March 24, 2003 Share Posted March 24, 2003 [color=crimson]I generally just start a conversation with the general types of questions. "Hows it going"; "How are you"; "How was your day". If they respond negetively about any of the above, IE they had a bad day, then I try to cheer them up somehow. If its an old friend, I generally know what kind of topics they enjoy talking about, so I work on that. But, if all else fails- Random spurts of insane rambleings that cause massive head trauma always work.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rhys Mayiessen Posted March 24, 2003 Author Share Posted March 24, 2003 [color=skyblue]I always try to say something like today I said "what did you do on the weekend?" and all the response I get is "nothing" in a monotone voice like he doesn't want to talk anymore. I guess talking isn't really the only problem...maybe its cause we've been fighting for about two weeks now...I dunno.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vegitto4 Posted March 24, 2003 Share Posted March 24, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Rhys Mayiessen [/i] [B][color=skyblue] I guess talking isn't really the only problem...maybe its cause we've been fighting for about two weeks now...I dunno.[/color] [/B][/QUOTE] Oh, well if thats it, then dont worry about it. J/K!!! If you've been fighting, of course this person will not want to talk to you for awhile. You first have to work out the situation at hand, i.e. the fight. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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