Nim Posted March 29, 2003 Share Posted March 29, 2003 ok, right, lets see, i can't say that much because there is someone who might see this who goes to my school and i am afraid she will get a little carried away and ruin my life forever. right so i am just going to ask this plainly... what do you do if you are one of those people that solves all their guy problems by being mean to their crush? and, not addmitting that they like the person.... and, yes there is more, what do you do when you now that the guy you like knows you like him and comes up to you and asks you if you like him and you say no, in a very NON-convincing way which gives the whole thing away. help, i am lost. *Sobs sarcasticly and continues picking at nails.*----->:confused: and:naughty: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vegitto4 Posted March 29, 2003 Share Posted March 29, 2003 you laugh, and go out with him.......... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phoenixflames Posted March 29, 2003 Share Posted March 29, 2003 Sheesh, you kind of dug yourself into a hole there, dear. But what you can do in that situation is to ask one of your girlfriends who knows this guy to ask him if he likes you. Then, she can tell you and you can ask him out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LostProphet Posted March 29, 2003 Share Posted March 29, 2003 I follow Vegitto4 on this one...but I'm not one to ask about problems of the sort. If your friend would see this and ruin your life, are they really your friend? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
silentdeath Posted March 30, 2003 Share Posted March 30, 2003 wow you guys are confusing me... ok just do what comes naturally? (i'm horrible with advice) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Corey Posted March 30, 2003 Share Posted March 30, 2003 Having personally experianced this, with the sexes switched, in eighth grade I will definitly say that if you keep it up you will lose him. People that know you like them tend to try and act on it. But if you shut them out at every turn then sooner or later they will simply stop trying. I'm assuming that the person also likes you. Correct me if I'm wrong. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Transtic Nerve Posted March 30, 2003 Share Posted March 30, 2003 I never understood why you would be mean to a crush.... however, it seems to be the easy way to tell someone likes you, besides them rubbin all over you or something.... I think the question here is not "what do you do" but "why you do what you do?" What makes you say no? What makes you be mean to him? There's some reason, figure that out and you'll have your answer. The answer to the way you act always comes back to you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lady Macaiodh Posted March 30, 2003 Share Posted March 30, 2003 [color=darkblue]Be sure to pull his hair next time you see him, lol. Sheesh.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Juu Posted March 30, 2003 Share Posted March 30, 2003 [color=ff00cc] [size=1]Hmm... I've never been mean to my crush before, but... Just tell him you like him when he asks you directly. If anyone makes a big fuss out of it, and keeps teasing you about likeing him or something, just casually ignore them. But being mean to your crush isn't going to make him like you more, though. You should try to talk to him more, and get to be friends instead. I know it's not the easiest thing to do. ^_^;[/color] [/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rhys Mayiessen Posted March 30, 2003 Share Posted March 30, 2003 [color=skyblue]I just resently told my crush/best friend that I liked him....he had known before but he said he just wanted me to say it so it would be out in the 'open'. He doesn't want to date cause he's strictly here for education and we were...uh are fighting. I just hope you don't have my situation. Well why don't you just discuse it with him...ask him how he feels about it...are you friends with him? It would be easier if you were...[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Manslayer Posted March 30, 2003 Share Posted March 30, 2003 tell the dude that ealier you lied.and then hold his hand tell him that you like him.man im good Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anubis_zoe2003 Posted April 3, 2003 Share Posted April 3, 2003 for some reason i dont understand why somone put uhh more guy problems as the topic of this forum because as i can see there are no guys with problems! i hope somone can see that! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Transtic Nerve Posted April 3, 2003 Share Posted April 3, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by anubis_zoe2003 [/i] [B]for some reason i dont understand why somone put uhh more guy problems as the topic of this forum because as i can see there are no guys with problems! i hope somone can see that! [/B][/QUOTE] I believe it's refering to the problem she is having with guys... just as any straight male would put "ahh, more girl problems" Many guys have problems, you just fail to acknowledge them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nim Posted April 4, 2003 Author Share Posted April 4, 2003 well, i guess i could try all your sugestions, but i am not one for talking. I like to stay shy, silent and compleatly innocent! i guess i will try to stop saying no. And i could tell him i lied, but ahhhhh its all to scary. The only problem is, i keep thinking to myself, jeeze would this guy even go out with me in the first place.I dont know if he even likes me. Oh and by the way do you think being silly, like sorta mad with your friends puts guys off? i am the mad and a lil wierd type. Ahh, *sighs* y couldnt this world only have one type of sex? well thankx for your suggestions, keep them coming. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cornucopia Posted April 4, 2003 Share Posted April 4, 2003 *enters ?psychobabble? mode* I think you?ve reached the core of the problem here. The reason you act so mean to your crush is because of fear. You?re scared of being rejected, so you?re hurting him before he can hurt you. But don?t worry, this is quite common human behaviour (says a lot about humans, though, doesn?t it). IMO, you have four options: 1. Make a leap of faith and be nicer to the guy. You don?t have to declare undying love for him right away. You could gradually try to befriend him (just be yourself ? don?t worry about what kind of girl he likes. You want him to like you, not you acting like someone else), then see if he likes you (or if you still like him). 2. Carry on doing what you?re doing. Then in a couple of months realise the mistake you made. Learn from this, try to change, and become a happier person. 3. Carry on doing what you?re doing. Never acknowledge the mistake, and become an evil sadist. 4. Let your fear take over, become a hermit and see how long your fingernails can grow in 50 years. *comes out of trance* Good God, I?ve got to stop watching daytime TV. :cross: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nim Posted April 4, 2003 Author Share Posted April 4, 2003 WEll,I Think i have decided on that one, i think i will pick number 1! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Raquel Posted April 4, 2003 Share Posted April 4, 2003 ACK!!! TOSHI!!! You know I'd never make your life [U]that[/U] miserable! Besides. I'm worse than you. My crush and I go home with lumps the size of eagle eggs and more bruises than I can count. *sweatdrops* Eh. If you had asked me and told me not to tease, I would have helped you. -.-" I'll ask him in my own devious ways if you'd like. God, I'm gonna feel like such an *** if your refering to school in england. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest dr.septagon Posted April 6, 2003 Share Posted April 6, 2003 you kill him and make it look like an accident, I'm just joking, you should flirt with him to get him ebarrassed just like he did when confronting you! or just wave frantically when u see him to make him feel ebarrassed in front of his mates! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nim Posted April 6, 2003 Author Share Posted April 6, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Raquel [/i] [B] My crush and I go home with lumps the size of eagle eggs and more bruises than I can count. *sweatdrops* Eh.[/B][/QUOTE] *cough* very descriptive language i really do like the part when you say lumps the size of eagles eggs. but ahh, HOW DO I KNOW U WONT LAUGH AND TELL HIM. in my mind, life is a disastor area. well, maybe i will tell you, OR MAYBE NOT. well, see you at school tomorow. chow Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wintermute Posted April 14, 2003 Share Posted April 14, 2003 I have to say I'm impressed. I like this forum much more than some of my old haunts, where anyone posting someting like that would basically be painting 'Sarcasm Target' on their forehead. Some of those replies are actually serious and helpful! I realise this post hasn't been posted to in 10 days, but if your anything like I used to be, you may not have acted on it! If you haven't, you don't have to actively do anything, just try not to panic, and don't deny it next time he asks you, or something like that happens. Also, can someone please explain to me why the female definition of 'friend' extends to people who could or would make your life torment? I've never got that. Anyone I could confidently call my friend I trust absolutely, and I know they wouldn't tell anyone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nim Posted April 15, 2003 Author Share Posted April 15, 2003 what i am tyring to say by "friend" is that they have the compeat power to screw your life up if somthing may come up. of course you trust your friend, but what if your friend didnt know it would hurt you so, so much to tell your secret. that they did tell it.:beer: sure, you should tell your friend your secret, which, um, i did tell in the end to her. but all i was trying to do was not give her the advantige to screw my life up. get it? hope that helped.:flaming: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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