E-Dates

[Shy]

[size=1]It seems like OB is starting to become a place where people can find close friends, and possibly even some relationships. Still, some people are completely opposed to the idea of dating someone they have neevr actually met before in real life.

What are your views about using the internet as a dating tool? Also, feel free to post any experiences you might have had (you don't have to post names or anything) in the past.

-Shy[/size]

[JJ]

Well I find it a place of deseption. I mean the internet in general. I mean some one could say they look like someone but look entierly different. In the case of certain T.V shows they show pen pals or "lovers" but they end haveing bad intentions.

[Guest Fiasco]

Eh, I don't like it. Its quite stupid, I mean, if you can't find anyone in real life then if you can on the internet, there's no point unless they are like right next door to you. Also, sick people go out there and pose as children and they are really molester..>_< ::wants to shoot them::

I guess I just have this to say...Whatever floats your boat. Meaning, if it works for you, GREAT.

[MarkM]

i have had and 'E-Girlfriend' but i slightly know her because we have meet in real life. But i consiter otakuboards kinda a third home...were my friends are (well the ones i have never really meet).

[KittyLynn]

[COLOR=deeppink]I think if they are good friends and they are open, go ahead. But you can't always be sure. ^^ But I have a close friendship with some people here, and I want to trust them. I think they are good people.

Other people have different opinions, but I'm going with mine.

Kitty[/COLOR]

[Schrat]

I think its terrible, whenever I see "married to 'whoever' since 00/00/00" I just begin to laugh, its the stupidest thing...Meet someone in real life, just so you know, its right....Lies and deception, thats all people do over the internet, tell lies and decede others, dont you love it?

[Sara]

[B]I think its terrible, whenever I see "married to 'whoever' since 00/00/00" I just begin to laugh, its the stupidest thing...[/b]

[size=1]Perhaps it's meant to be funny?[/size]

[b]Lies and deception, thats all people do over the internet, tell lies and decede others, dont you love it? [/B]

[size=1]That's not true. Take a glance around this forum, people. Do you think every single experience you see posted here is a lie? The very idea is ridiculous. Simply the sheer [i]number[/i] makes it impossible.

Would I go out with someone I met online? Given the right circumstances and opportunity, I believe I would. Why [i]not?[/i] Not every person you meet online is a psychopath killer....and if my date were, it would make for an interesting obituary.

In all probability, would it happen? Not right now. ^_~ While my parents are fairly lenient about my 'net friends, I do believe they would draw the line at my "going out" with someone they've never met who lives on the other side of the country.

I mean, my goodness....I get enough jeers at school because I'm penpals with a few "internet people." Never mind dating, heh. [/size]

[amibasuki]

[FONT=arial]I myself probably wouldn't do it. as for what I think about others doing it, it seems kinda silly to do so unless you actually plan on meeting the other person in real life. if so, I say good for you. one of my cousins met her husband over the internet, and they're still happily married. and neither of them are psychotic killers. as far as I know, anyway lol.[/FONT]

[Roxie Faye]

[color=#9933ff]For me? I'm a bit wary about meeting someone online. I'm always the cautious one. You know, better safe than sorry. ^_^ Though, I know there's a lot of people ot there who met through he internet and are very happy with each other, so that's great for them. I just don't think it's for me.

But this isn't to say that I'm totally paranoid. Or, in coparison to my mum? I'm a rebel. ^_~ Not supposed ot be talking to the people I do. She doesn't even like me IMing people I don't know, so if I ever went out on a date from someone I met over the internet, I'd be dead before I got the chance to go out on the date.


*sigh* Did this post make any sense? Sorry if it didn't. I need a little more practice in writing my posts. Haven't written too many lately. >_<[/color]

[Charles]

Well, Schratn9, you shouldn't give much thought to "married tags." They're usually just harmless fun. To my knowledge, very few people who include something like that in their signatures [i]actually[/i] intend to marry someone online.

That being said, online dating isn't the best option. It lacks the personal intimacy that only a real relationship can deliver--and that's a big deal.

So, I find the concept of someone having a "romantic" relationship with another individual, online, to be silly and dorkish. It's understandable if two people actually know one another and have to live apart for business or personal reasons for a period of time, and need the Internet to keep in touch, but people who've never met one another won't find a worthwhile, lasting relationship over the net.

As for E-Dating services, well I've never used one, but I'd say it ranks somewhere near the method of finding a date in the newspaper. It may be a nice way to find others who live nearby with similar interests, but I believe that actually getting out there and meeting people in a social environment is the most healthy thing to do. It's too easy to unwittingly stumble upon weirds, otherwise, I'd imagine.

[Juu]

[color=ff00cc] [size=1]I don't mind e-dating. In fact, I used to be e-enganged to someone for a while. ^_^;

I don't know, though. I don't feel very safe e-dating anyone outside of OB. Even in the chats I attend often, I don't feel very comfortable.

Anyway, I'm not 'looking' for a b/f or anything anyway, sooo... ^^;

Alot of my friends think it's kinda weird how I have friends online. They keep saying I shouldn't trust 'those people', but most of the people I've met here at OB have been very nice. And I actually feel really safe in this community. :whoops:[/color] [/size]

[Frankie]

*sees juu's sig and thwaps her* Change that right now.. you are not the ugliest-er....so hush and erase that!

Now.. as for on topic

my friends at school say internet dates or boyfriends/girlfriends dont count....they are pointless and ...also seem... like i just say.... dont count. I can sort of agree... msot internet realtionships end horribly... or... just never go anywhere...

although i know of someone who knows about 3 people who met their long life wives/ husbands on the net... the met on the net and been happily married for quite soem time...

I have to say.....it depends on the person i guess

[Change]

I dunno about online romantic relationships, they really don't have much going for them. I feel it is truly better to build conections in person (an at least it gives you more to talk about). I'm not for or against it...
The issue of online integrety is an interesting one. In the TFC community, I have a bit more trust because I have known many people (well, their assumed names/alises) for about four years now. One of my clanmates is even a NYU professor of medicien. It all depends on the community. I belive that on an open bored like this credibility decresses slightly-however, the people I have talked too seem genuin ehough-.

[Heaven's Cloud]

[color=indigo]I don't know about e-dating, but I have definatly made some good friends on the Otaku Boards. I would love to hang out with Del, every time I talk with her I get the feeling that she is a cool, down to earth girl. I have every desire to go present Lady M's child with his/hers first guitar when he/she is born. And, though I have only conversed with him a few times, I think it would be cool to hang with Charles...I mean think of the possibilities, A Crazy White Boy and an Odd White guy with the same name, shoot we could have our own sitcom.

As for e-dating, if two people are honest with each other (that is a big IF) then it is probably the truest form of dating, because your relationship is not based on physical attraction.[/color]

[Transtic Nerve]

I dunno about e-dating, but I deffinantly think the net is an awesome place to meet people who may live close to you. Especially in my case, being gay does limit my resources for finding a partner. It's not stamped on anyone's head so it's a bit hard to determin who is and who isn't gay, so you just can't ask random people (unless of course you like to be rude) So the net is a place where people are most often out and can express what they feel and where you can meet people easily. The only options are the net, clubs, and like groups... thats about it.

[Guest Hikaru Ichijyo]

Well you heard my stance on this earlier Josh, just remember my advice that I gave you, and be careful. As for the online dating thing...it may not be for everyone...and probably conventional ways are better.

However studies recently taken have proven that online dating..O.o as weird as that sounds has proven successful and more popular in our times.

It really just depends on what type of person, you are and how much trust and faith you have in people.

--end rant

[Semjaza]

It depends.

I find a lot of people (mostly those younger) think that basically two people being attracted to eachother on the internet and taking it beyond something you'd expect makes them "boyfriend and girlfriend" and this just bothers me.

I have no problem with friends online, or attractions and such online... But to claim that anything you have with someone online is anything close to the real thing really bothers me. Especially those who gush about it claiming they are basically in love. I almost find this insulting to those of us who have actually gone through loving relationships in the real world.

That's strictly for online stuff though, with basically no chance of ever meeting. I've met people through the internet in real life, and if that goes somewhere cool. I don't mind attractions and heavy interest... but the comparisons between that and something somewhat tangible get to me.

I should add that I've met some amazing people online. Some of which are better than most anyone I've met in real life. So perhaps this sort of thing isn't as "wrong" or impossible as I'd like to believe it is... so hopefully no one will jump on me for that opinion

[Red]

[quote]I think its terrible, whenever I see "married to 'whoever' since 00/00/00" I just begin to laugh, its the stupidest thing...Meet someone in real life, just so you know, its right....Lies and deception, thats all people do over the internet, tell lies and decede others, dont you love it?[/quote]

[b][size=1]As others have said, I think those marriage 'tags' are a bit of harmless fun, not really an intention to actually marry someone.

Sometimes you have to take a chance and trust someone without actually meeting them. And, should I treat everything you say as a lie? Since, you are using the internet as a tool for communication, and it's all 'lies and decete' on the internet.

I'm going out with someone online. My feelings for her are as real as they can get...which I'm not going to go into right now. To be perfectly honest; I couldn't give two monkeys if someone thought it was fake or whatever. [i]I[/i] know it's real, that's what matters to me.[/b][/size]

[Kei]

[color=royalblue]I've had an e-relationship in the past. It ended horribly. And I've never tried anything else like that. I've joked around about it a few times, but that's about as close as I've come. I personally like the internet for finding people I can really click with, and that's what's happened here with OB. I've made some really great friends (You know who you are. ^_~) and met a lot of people who have the same interests I do, which wouldn't have happened, had I not registered. I have other friends from other sites I visit, and that's all I really care about online right now. Well, that, and finding quick research for term papers... Oo;[/color]

[Mitch]

[color=black][size=1][font=rockwell] To be honest, actually physically seeing someone and [i]actually[/i] being in a physical relationship is, in so many ways, better than E-dating, or whatever.

I've met some wonderful wonderful people here on OB. That I do have to say. That's sort of beside the point, but I needed to throw it in there. Because it's true. I have.

Now, you cannot love someone until you actually really get to know them. The internet can somewhat do this; but only to a certain level, only to one step. Plus the internet is like a veil. Although I'm a really honest person, I know, [i]I know[/i] for a fact that people online don't actually act like themselves in some cases. It's all about how the internet makes them feel sheltered, so it's easier for them to not be what they really are and just hang free.

So no, E-Dating probably doesn't work, in my opinion. Just talking to someone and getting to know them isn't enough in the long run. You'll get someplace with E-Dating, but in all eventuality, it won't work.

Really, I'm unsure about what actually E-Dating is to you. Is it actually meeting someone you've never even known, or is it just simply communicating over an instant messenger? *shrug*

And the married thing. At least to me, it does mean something. Shy's one of the best people I've met here, with every time we talk it's getting easier and easier to talk, in some cases. I don't find it funny at all. It isn't necessarily meaning we're married, of course not. But, more or less, it's basically a showing of our friendship in some manners. I don't know how else to say it.

When it first happened I had about five minutes left online. So Shy just decided that we would get married in five minutes. Spur of the moment, heh. Yeah, I can't really exactly describe what the marriage things in sigs mean; but they do mean something more, at least to me.[/color][/size][/font]

[Delian]

There's nothing wrong with developing online friendships. I've met some really great people here. I consider Heaven's Cloud to be one of my closest online friends who I'd love to meet in person, because I believe our conversations have always been honest.

As far as online dating goes, disregarding the whole "marriage" thing that some members have going here, I think it kinda develops from an online friendship with someone. I can't say that it's unreasonable for someone to develop feelings for a person whom they've been conversing with online for a while.

HOWEVER...you can never really know if a person is being completely or even partially honest about themselves, so it's always best not to divulge too much personal/sensitive information, on the chance that it turn out wrong or dangerous.... Especially if you've revealed too much info on yourself to someone you've only been conversing with for a week, just because they sent you a hot pic of themselves...that pic could be anybody!!!!

[ChibiV]

At first, I think everyone online are liar, never tell the truth. They only make up beautiful stories and tell you what you like to hear. However, now I realize that there're nice people on the net. The one that I can trust and share my secret with that I don't have to worry about that person will tell someone I knew.:D I find that it's easier to talk to someone you don't know how they look like or who they really are then to the one you know.

For the E-date stuff, it's just too complicated. I've tried once, it doesn't work well, it's better to be friend and have fun then get to the serious stuff. The feeling of distrust and doubt, which drive me crazy. :D

[Dragon Fou Lu]

i don't really have a problem with E-dating , mainly because 2 of my friends are E-dating. so i just live with it. :)

it's not something i would do however :)

[DeathKnight]

[color=crimson]I've been in an online relationship for over a year.

That proves my stance.[/color]

[Shy]

[size=1]I have never been in an online realtionship (unless you count my marriage to Mitch, heh) but the idea of dating someone you have never met in real life seems odd. Of course, some of my best friends are people who I have never met in real life, but the idea of trying an intimate relationship with a total stranger would seem odd.

As TN said earlier, it isn't very easy for gay people to meet other gay people in real life. I have no gay friends, so it's difficult for me to find a date (not that I have started dating yet.) But it seems like a good way to meet people who live nearby, so I might pursue that sometime. But it just depends on the person and the situation I guess.

-Shy[/size]