GreenEyedDragon Posted June 17, 2003 Share Posted June 17, 2003 Okay, ihave a huge crush on this guy, and i'm so serious--he's perfect...any girl in her right mind would love to date him! We've been friends for awhile, and he's great. He's nice and cute, and he's never ever been mean to anybody that i've seen. We have a lot in common and always have fun together. I have no irks or things that bug me about him at all...even his shyness didn't bother me, until now. See, his friend told me that he wanted to know if i liked him, and so we got out in the open that we like each other and all. So now, we're just kinda like "yeah...." and we talk and still hang out and stuff, and we do stuff together with all our friends, but he's way too shy to ask me out. His friend says that he's just getting up the courage to ask me out, and its been a little over a month now... I don't know if anybody will have any ideas, but i don't know what to do, and i don't want to change him or anything and bee all like "don't be shy!" cuz i like his shyness, its cute! ANYWAYS, i guess if you have anything to say, just tell me what you think...! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Defcon5 Posted June 17, 2003 Share Posted June 17, 2003 You ask him out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snufkin Posted June 17, 2003 Share Posted June 17, 2003 I'm not good at all in giving advice on this topic. Of what I see though there are two solutions: 1)Just keep waiting. It could take forever, but if you really like him it should be worth it. Don't you think? 2)Ask him out. If you really want to go out, you should be willing to ask him too. ...just my two cents. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amibasuki Posted June 17, 2003 Share Posted June 17, 2003 [FONT=arial]well, I think you should at least hint to him that you like him, if you don't want to outright tell him. maybe he's so nervous about it because he doesn't know what you would say; but if you give him a heads up that you do in fact like him (assuming he picks up on it), then it could give him the courage to tell you. if all else fails, just straight up tell him. if he does like you, then you've got nothin' to worry about.[/FONT] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sui Generis Posted June 17, 2003 Share Posted June 17, 2003 [COLOR=indigo]Don't get me around I respect the whole "perfectness and correctness" of the guy asking the girl out. However, I think its not always the guys job to ask the girl out. If the girl likes the guy then the girl should ask him out as well. I honestly think you should ask him out if you think he is the "perfect guy." Thats my opinion. Theres no sense in just waiting around and letting life take control of it, because we know what can happen then...[/COLOR] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GreenEyedDragon Posted June 17, 2003 Author Share Posted June 17, 2003 i guess i should have expected that...but i'm an old-school type girl, i don't even like to ask guys to dances, much less ask them out! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sui Generis Posted June 17, 2003 Share Posted June 17, 2003 [COLOR=indigo]I'm in no way trying to be rude, I think that have people ask questions is the only way you truly find stuff out. Why do you think its proper for the guy to ask the girl out. I mean I could get in this huge debate about it, but thats not the subject and I don't feel like it now anyways lol. But I mean what does it matter? If the feelings are mutual why should you care about having to ask him out? Why should you care anyways? I don't understand. This may be because I am a guy, but oh wells I'm honestly curiouse. And don't just say becuase thats the way it is, because that isn't a good reason. If that was the reason to everything Earth would've already gone to **** worse than it already has ;).[/COLOR] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TarMeg1989 Posted June 17, 2003 Share Posted June 17, 2003 I am probaly going to give you the same advice as everyone else. Either wait a long time, or ask him out. Me, I am not a very patient girl and isnt old fashion. So, If I were you I would ask him out. If you really like him and want to be with him. Just ask him out. If he really liked you he will probaly say yes. I hope I helped some. ~Megan o_O Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
r-studios Posted June 17, 2003 Share Posted June 17, 2003 if u dont ask him out your being just as shy as he is he probably would really like u 2 or a least get a friend to do it for u Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amibasuki Posted June 17, 2003 Share Posted June 17, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Lalaith Ril [/i] [B][COLOR=indigo]I'm in no way trying to be rude, I think that have people ask questions is the only way you truly find stuff out. Why do you think its proper for the guy to ask the girl out. I mean I could get in this huge debate about it, but thats not the subject and I don't feel like it now anyways lol. But I mean what does it matter? If the feelings are mutual why should you care about having to ask him out? Why should you care anyways? I don't understand. This may be because I am a guy, but oh wells I'm honestly curiouse. And don't just say becuase thats the way it is, because that isn't a good reason. If that was the reason to everything Earth would've already gone to **** worse than it already has ;).[/COLOR] [/B][/QUOTE] [FONT=arial]it's just a rule some people have been brought up to go by. like, I go by the rule that my mom enforced that I don't call guys...to an extent, anyways. at first she said no calling guys at all period, but yes, that is kind of stupid, so I got her to be more lenient with it. now if I call a guy, it's because either a.) I have to ask him about something like homework, or a specific time for something, or whatever, or b.) I'm returning a call. also, sometimes it's thought that if a girl calls a guy because she's 'interested', then she comes off looking desperate. I don't agree with it completely, because I know some decent girls who call guys they like and aren't anywhere near desperate, but I can see why some people would think that. for example, say some girl likes this guy, and she's been flirting with him at work/school/wherever. chances are if the guy isn't a dipstick, he might've already thought 'ok, this chick might like me', and if he's interested in talking to her more, he'd call her up. well, if he still hasn't called (even though she [i]did[/i] give him her number), she might figure 'I'd better call him up just in case he forgot about me.' now if she wasn't desperate, she'd probably just say 'oh well, there's other guys than just him,' and just look for someone else. or something like that. anyways, that's just an example. not saying every situation is like that, lol. that's just my take on the whole phone thing. even if my mom didn't enforce that rule now for some reason, I still wouldn't call guys (except for reasons stated above). it's just a quirk I have, I don't go by it for the sake of being stuck-up. I'm not condemning any girl who calls guys up lol, I just don't do it myself is all. it can sort of be related to the whole girls-asking-guys-out thing I guess; except really, if you want to go out with somebody, you can't just assume that he'll pick up on the fact that you like him because he's psychic :drunk:. at least drop some (conspicuous) hints, if he hasn't picked up on it yet. he won't know unless you clue him in, or yeah, tell him. as to why a lot of people think the guy is supposed to take the initiative, I don't really know. I'm guessing it's got to do with the old thought that men are supposed to be more aggressive, while women are supposed to be more demure. so back in the day, it really would've been desperate for a girl to call a guy. but since times have changed quite a bit since then, it's not that big of an issue now. some people still do think that way though, so you could either forget about 'em or just humor them. [/FONT] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GreenEyedDragon Posted June 17, 2003 Author Share Posted June 17, 2003 i couldn't have a friend ask, it always bugs me for some reason...i guess i'm critical in some ways...hmm Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amibasuki Posted June 17, 2003 Share Posted June 17, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by GreenEyedDragon [/i] [B]i couldn't have a friend ask, it always bugs me for some reason...i guess i'm critical in some ways...hmm [/B][/QUOTE] [FONT=arial]nooooo, having friends ask isn't a good thing, especially if he's shy. if anyone's gonna tell him, it should come straight from you; it'd mean a lot more. getting friends to tell is the wuss' way out anyway :p :toothy:.[/FONT] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
r-studios Posted June 17, 2003 Share Posted June 17, 2003 hmm well u just have to gather yur courage i guess Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GreenEyedDragon Posted June 17, 2003 Author Share Posted June 17, 2003 but i don't want to ask him!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amibasuki Posted June 17, 2003 Share Posted June 17, 2003 [FONT=arial]well, here's the choices you've got: you could wait for him to tell you, at the expense that you might be waiting for another month (or two), [i]if[/i] he ever gets the courage to tell you in the first place 0_o; or you could tell him yourself in the next couple of days and have it all out and done with, at the expense that you'd be the one to get the butterflies and be the one who makes an idiot out of yourself ^_^. okay, I was joking about the idiot part. chances are, he might be glad that you said something to him first. so which do you dread more, a few [i]moments[/i] of butterflies, or a few [i]months[/i] of waiting....and waiting....and waiting....and waiting....[/FONT] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Terpischore Posted June 17, 2003 Share Posted June 17, 2003 Why not?? I don't see why it would be harmful to just ask. And...i don't think he'd react in a harmful way..i mean, the guy waited an HOUR and THIRTY minutes just to walk home with you.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Defcon5 Posted June 17, 2003 Share Posted June 17, 2003 I'll give you another perspective from a guy. I am a guy, just incase you hadn't picked up on it. I would like it if a girl had the courage to "break tardition" and ask me out, call me, or whatever. None of this tradition stuff, cause it you say that you like it the old way i'm gonna assume you want to be my slave, just like back in the day where the tradition is from. So just ask him! You'll thank me and everyone else who suggested it. You really have no idea how long it will take him to 'muster up the courage' so you go first! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arkadyz Posted June 17, 2003 Share Posted June 17, 2003 [color=red][font=times new roman]Im sorry I dont get the whole girls not being able to ask guys out...Thats just plain dumb to me... If I was a girl I wouldnt want to have to sit on my butt and hope that the guy would pick up on signals and call or what...Nuts to that you walk up and say hey you wanna go out on **insert day of the week** Its just that flippin simple...Ah I guess just cause im an agressive guy...I see a girl I like Ill step up and make coversation...Being shy and timid is too boring and frustrating :p Well whatever happens I hope it all works out...And ill leave you with one question...Isnt it worth breaking your traditions to get a date with a guy you clearly seem to like? [/font][/color]:cross: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nezzyjean Posted June 17, 2003 Share Posted June 17, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by GreenEyedDragon [/i] [B]i guess i should have expected that...but i'm an old-school type girl, i don't even like to ask guys to dances, much less ask them out! [/B][/QUOTE] I was kinda that way too...but that doesnt mean you can't tell the guy straight up to his face that you like him, and then if he still doesnt ask you out...just try asking him. If you think this guy is perfect, don't miss out...cuz chances are, he may never get up enough courage to ask you out, so there would be another once in a lifetime oppertunity that you missed out on. Not good, just drop the old school for a few moments and ask him...then you can go back to being the same old you. Also...DO NOT have your friends ask cuz... 1) You'll look immature 2) you'll look like a wuss Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Semjaza Posted June 17, 2003 Share Posted June 17, 2003 Hmm. I thought this was about having crushes on Shy. I'm guilty of this, so I founded his fan club. Guess I was wrong. I'd just ask him out if I were you. Most of the girls I've dated have asked me out first, and I've thought nothing of it. Better than standing around like a moron. Keeping things to yourself like this certainly won't get you anywhere. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shy Posted June 17, 2003 Share Posted June 17, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Semjaza Azazel [/i] [B]Hmm. I thought this was about having crushes on Shy. I'm guilty of this, so I founded his fan club. Guess I was wrong.[/B][/QUOTE] [size=1]So did I, actually. I looked at the title and thought, "Ooh, someone has a crush on me." But no, Semjaza seems to be the only one who has a fondness for me. Oh well.. The best way to avoid people is to be shy. It may be cute and endearing to some, but on a romantic level is makes you nonexistant. If you seriously want to start a relationship with someone then you need to make the first move. -Shy[/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GreenEyedDragon Posted June 17, 2003 Author Share Posted June 17, 2003 ya'll, i have told him TO HIS FACE that i like him, and he told me straight up--right back, right then....and that is where we are--and now we sit....that was my original question! What to do now!~...lol thank you for all the advice to tell him though, i would have told him myself already, if i hadn't in the first place...:) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
XeEmO Posted June 17, 2003 Share Posted June 17, 2003 Ok, so if you both like each other just ask him out! Either that or hint to him that you would like to go out with him more. Ask him what he would think of going out with you sometime. You don't have to say when, or ask him to go out right away either. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest XBebop Posted June 18, 2003 Share Posted June 18, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by keyblade [/i] [B]I was kinda that way too...but that doesnt mean you can't tell the guy straight up to his face that you like him, and then if he still doesnt ask you out...just try asking him. If you think this guy is perfect, don't miss out...cuz chances are, he may never get up enough courage to ask you out, so there would be another once in a lifetime oppertunity that you missed out on. Not good, just drop the old school for a few moments and ask him...then you can go back to being the same old you. Also...DO NOT have your friends ask cuz... 1) You'll look immature 2) you'll look like a wuss [/B][/QUOTE] eeerrr.. i had a friend that was also one of my friends ask my current girlfriend out.. lol. she kept on joking about me being a wuss ( she did earlier in the school year too.. lol.. ). but immature, nah. All you realy are if you have a friend ask someone out is shy ( which i'm becoming un-shy now.. YAY ). but a wuss, yes you are. lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
James Posted June 18, 2003 Share Posted June 18, 2003 [color=#335062]Amibasuki is right. It's better to just bite the bullet sometimes and ask directly. I know it's hard. I've done it before myself. But if you're honest...and approachable...you can do it without embarassing yourself (even if he says no). So, good luck. ^_^[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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