Defcon5 Posted June 18, 2003 Share Posted June 18, 2003 Ok so I have this girlfriend, she is a real moral person, no sex of any kind, that old chestnut. Now my problem is there are these two kids that are my frineds and they also happen to be friends with my girlfriends ex. So at one point they decided that they wanted to tell me (I didn't ask) what her ex and my girlfirend did together. Each one told me somthing different, but I didn't believe either of them because it's not like my girlfriend to do these things (Trust me you don't need to know why I know but I know she didn't do the things) and it's in the ex-boyfriends character to lie about somthing like that. The two kids that told me the stuff are pretty reliable, the one is the ex's bestfriend, and the other asked the ex during school and then directly came and told me. My question is since she didn't do them, should I tell her that he is saying this kind of stuff? And if I do tell her how to I protect the kids that told me the information? I didn't really want to know it but I don't want there friend mad at them. Any suggestions would be much appreciated. (Written in a hurry, sorry about spelling and stuff) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Queen Asuka Posted June 18, 2003 Share Posted June 18, 2003 [color=hotpink][size=1]Obviously I would tell her that her ex is saying that stuff, but I wouldn't say who let me know what was going on. She does need to know that he is saying this stuff about her so she can confront him and clear everything up. Otherwise she might end up with a pretty bad rep, and you may be a part of it.[/color][/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NorykoAngelcry Posted June 18, 2003 Share Posted June 18, 2003 [COLOR=darkred][SIZE=1]I agree with Queen Asuka. If you really don't want to get your friends into trouble, simply because they were letting you know what they were told, it might be best not to bring them into it at all. I suppose I echo everything that was already said by Asuka. [/SIZE][/COLOR] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nezzyjean Posted June 18, 2003 Share Posted June 18, 2003 You should tell her...unless she is the kind of person who would tell a councellor or something...Cuz one time...some of my friends were calling my other friend anorexic and I told her...and she got a teacher and stuff involved...and those girls denied it...and i even had evidence of them saying it...a note of apology to the "anorexic" girl from one of the girls...but she just chaged her story...and the teacher ended up getting all pissed off with me, and so did my friend who those girls were talking about...yup..it all just backfired. But if ur girlfriend isnt gonna do anything but confront that b*s*a*d, then by all means...tell her, just dont mention those guys who told u! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sukima Posted June 18, 2003 Share Posted June 18, 2003 I agree with them. You should tell her. She has every right to know. If he's telling your friend s that than she needs to know everything. If you don't want your friends getting dragged into just say you heard him saying all that stuff to other people. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Defcon5 Posted June 18, 2003 Author Share Posted June 18, 2003 The only other thing is the kid was discret about it, like when he told these kids, they weren't supposed to tell anyone else, so it's not like it's a wide spread rumor or anything. Plus her best friend is moving away soon so right now is probably not the best time to mention this. I see nothing good comming out of this... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RPGchick Posted June 18, 2003 Share Posted June 18, 2003 if these kids would tell you, (i am not badmouthing them or anything) who is to say that they wont tell anyone else. if the ex is saying things that are not true to his friends, his friends might tell their friends, and their friends might tell their friends and so on. you have to tell her that he is saying these things. otherwise, she may eventually find out from someone else in a not so nice way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Defcon5 Posted June 18, 2003 Author Share Posted June 18, 2003 Edit Well I told her...she was really pissed off at first, but now she's better. Hopefully nothing bad will happen, for now though it looks ok. Thanks guys. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QueenBee Posted June 19, 2003 Share Posted June 19, 2003 I would tell her, Because I live in a small town and things get around quickly then other people start rumors. So tell her so she can confront him and tell him to shut up and stop saying stuff about her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nezzyjean Posted June 20, 2003 Share Posted June 20, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Defcon5 [/i] [B]Edit Well I told her...she was really pissed off at first, but now she's better. Hopefully nothing bad will happen, for now though it looks ok. Thanks guys. [/B][/QUOTE] glad it all turned out ok! ^_^ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emme888 Posted June 22, 2003 Share Posted June 22, 2003 Of course you should tell her that rumors are going around, if not what kind of boyfriend would you be...She'll appreciate that you told her, and will prolly need your support. Be a good boyfriend and tell her the truth, just don't tell her from who you got your info from, that's all. Good luck.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harry Posted June 23, 2003 Share Posted June 23, 2003 Dump this girlfriend for being unloyal, she's obviously playing you to make her ex jealous. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Defcon5 Posted June 23, 2003 Author Share Posted June 23, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Harry [/i] [B]Dump this girlfriend for being unloyal, she's obviously playing you to make her ex jealous. [/B][/QUOTE] What are you talking about? How in all that is sane did you come to that conclusion? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harry Posted June 23, 2003 Share Posted June 23, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Defcon5 [/i] [B]What are you talking about? How in all that is sane did you come to that conclusion? [/B][/QUOTE] You're right, both your girlfriend and her ex are just doing it to make you angry. Do you think it's just by coincedence that these friends just come by and tell you? No. Do you think it's by coincedence you get the idea she would never have sex? No. They're setting you up big time. I give you about 4 weeks until you post a "OMG she broke up with me" thread Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Defcon5 Posted June 23, 2003 Author Share Posted June 23, 2003 Trust me that won't be happening. If you were me and you knew every last tiny detail you'd understand why I don't think that is going to happen. Like I said if you were me you'd understand. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Corey Posted June 23, 2003 Share Posted June 23, 2003 I'm going to guess that Harry was having a bad day. Either that or he was in the mood to say something offensive. I'm glad it worked out for you Defcon. If I had gotten to this thread sooner I would have posted my advice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Defcon5 Posted June 23, 2003 Author Share Posted June 23, 2003 Thanks KOTR, He was just trying to help I suppose. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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