Divorced Parents??

[GreenEyedDragon]

[color=purple] My parents are not divorced, they've been married for about twnety years or so now, but i heard a percentage that only 56% of teens live with both of their natural parents...

That could apply to being a dopted or something like that, but i assume a lot of it has to do with divorced parents...so i was wondering: Are you parents divorced? Were they divorced recently? (if so i truly very very sorry) How did you cope?

I have some friends with divorced parents, and i think that for most of them it is a very touchy subject, as it may be with some of ya'll...but i know there might be some people out there that are comfortable with it. I think this is kind of for some information though, because i have a lot of friends that come to me for help, and i have no experience in dealing with divorces, so why not ask the 'experts'?...

[Guest Majin Buu]

Yup. my parents got divorced along time ago.. But when they did my dad got married again moved to Virgina (I live in Vermont a long ways from there) Anyways it was really hard on me.. I went through therpy and everything.. This was a long time ago remember.. My dad got divorced *again* and married someone else.. I didnt care who there were I hated all my dads girlfriends I would call them **** and be really mean to them..

Now my dads with someone I like Yay and I dont really care about my folks being divorced anymore..

My dads coming up on the 26! To see me!

[PiroMunkie]

[size=1]My parents divorced about two years ago. At first I was saddened, and I listened to a lot of angry music and such. However, my apathy eventually took over to the point where I could just push it aside and move on. It is not like I can do anything about it, so I see no reason to let it bring me down.

Since then, both my mom and dad have remarried. Both step-parents are okay, I guess. They are just another person to me. So far I have not really received any crap from them, so that is good. I guess they know their place.

And do not be sorry that my parents are divorced; I am not.[/size]

[TarMeg1989]

When my parents were divorced I really didn't care, but they were divorced for a quite while. They split-up in 3rd grade. I really didn't care. Like I said already. They finally got divorced when I was in the 5th grade. The onlt thing that affected me was that I had to move with my mom. I know she was going to make me a slave. That's what she did.. *sighs*

[HoT LaVa 904]

Well I can't say my parents are divorced because they were never married, So I'll just say that they broke up. I saw my dad a couple of years ago for the first time and prolly the last time. It's easy for me to cope with it because I'm so used to living with my mom. The only thing I don't like is my moms boyfriend.

[Dan Rugh]

My parents have been divorced since 1993, when I was in 3rd grade. I didn't much care then and I still don't. I see and talk to my dad all the time, its just that I prefer him not living here. Things are a lot less strict, ya know? My mom never got re-married (actually she hasn't even had a boyfriend), but my dad did. She (step-mom) is not so bad, I guess, but she gets on mine and my brother's nerves sometimes.

[Guest Chris]

[color=green][size=1]i never met my biological father, because when he found out that i was going to be born he wanted my mom to get an abortion(sp?) and my mom is against abortion, so that didn't work out. also, when she left him she found out that he had 5 wives and 16 girlfriends already. my mother left my step father when i was like 4 and moved back in with my grandparents. she just resently got a devorce with him. i'm not upset by this because i know why it happened and it's a pretty good reason. if your parents are devorced i give you my greatest sympathy (or whatever you want to call it) but you'll get over it eventually.[/size][/color]

[Guest Fly-T]

My parents divorced 10 yrs. ago (when i was 6)....As of today my mom still doesn't 'accept' him for how he is handing things...no child support money rolling in, he's barely involved, I might see him several times during the year (last time i saw him as a day after my birthday) and I, I really try not to think about the situation Cuz I think i'm doing fairly good without that adult male role model figure in my life...And I really don't like gettin all into it...
~1~

[Alexa]

[size=1]My parents divorced when I was 10, it was very difficult. I lived and was raised in California, and my parents' divorce resulted me, my mom and brother to live in Texas. I actually had counselling, as I was so distressed, my grades were falling and I was pissed with everyone. That lasted around 8-9 months affter the divorce. After that, I settled in and made friends, and was back to my bubbly self.[/size]

[TarMeg1989]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Chris [/i]
[B][color=green][size=1]i never met my biological father, because when he found out that i was going to be born he wanted my mom to get an abortion(sp?) and my mom is against abortion, so that didn't work out. [/size][/color] [/B][/QUOTE]

Well that is my boyfriends story. He has never met his father because of the same reason. His mom was 16 and she really doesn't like Tarren(my b/f). I can tell, and he can tell too. I guess it was that his father really didn't care. The same thing happened whe she was like 26, she was pregnant again and the father left. Tarren is lucky he has grandparents that care, and me.. Then he'll probaly commit suicide.

[RPGchick]

my parents were divorced when i was about seven, and it was really hard for me because i had to move to a different area and go to a different school. A few years ago my dad moved to kansas city, missouri (which seems such a long ways because i live in chicago). i only get to see him half of the summer(thats where i am now) and sometimes on school breaks.

[Shikaku Kitoku]

My parents have been divorced since I was 2 years old. I only noticed when a couple of days went by and I asked my mom why daddy isn't home. She lied and everything saying he'll come get you soon. I can't say that I don't love my mom, because I do, but I dislike her ways a lot. Especially her new fiance. I was always moved around a lot due to my parents divorce. Then when I was 14 my mom put me into foster care because she didn't want me. I know a lot of the effects, and situations ithat people with divorced parents go through. It's hard sometimes, and you wish it never happened, but it's really for the better. Because in some cases, the parents won't divorce ebcause of the child or children, and it ends up hurting the kids worse, because things can get abusive, etc.

Sometimes I still wish they never did, but I am glad that they did, because they helped their own lives along, as well as mine. I had to do counselling for a couple years because I thought their divorce was my fault. Remember: IT IS NEVER YOUR FAULT THAT YOUR PARENTS DIVORCE. It is their problems with each other. They may disagree over subjects with you involved, but it is never your fault. When your parents don;t get along, they use you, or yuor siblings, as an excuse to try and make a guilt trip. A lot of times it works. At other times, it ends up for the worse. Because then, you have your parents doing a custody battle. That's one of the worst things a kid can go through because the judge askes them which parent they want to live with. Nobody, however old or young, should go through that. That's like asking them which parent they love more, mommy or daddy.

In some cases, the kids are able to chose due to some factor in life that happened to the child. But at others, it's just a total breakdown, and the kid won't be the same.

I just realized I rambled for a long time, so I'm going to finish this up with one thing. Divorce is one of the worst things that can happen in anyones, child or parent alike, lives. And, if anyone on the boards want's to talk about it, or ask me questions about stuff dealing with divorce, just PM me for my email address, or just drop a PM and I'd be more than glad to help.

[Semjaza]

Wow. You live in Chicago, RPGChick? We're the only ones here I think :D

Anyway, there are many, many reasons why someone might not live with both of their natural parents.

Mine are not divorced, but my situation is somwhat similiar, I think. My dad died when in a motorcycle accident when I was about eight or so. My mom wound up remarrying a couple years later. We went through all this court nonsense to get adopted by him, which basically did nothing more but change our last name (my sister and I).

I wound up getting two new brothers out of it heh.

Anyway, I don't truly understand the stuff some of you go through though, as I've not had to deal with divorce. At least some of you actually get to see your other parent, something I don't even have as an option anymore.

[GhostofSalvtore]

Lets see my parents have been divorced for about.....hmm 7 or 8 years(when I was 8). It really didn't affect me all that much. I mean I really can't say where I would be today even if they hadn't been divorced. Mainly it didn't matter because I wasn't really around my dad that much. We weren't close at all, and still to this day I don't think we are or will we ever be. I just se him on occasions when and if he can fit me into his busy schedule.

The worst part was the early years of living with my mom, since she was ready to date, I would pretty much be left at home. So I pretty much had to raise myself. But then I also got to stay at my Ome's house(German for grandma) And she also took care of me very well.

I don't believe that I had ever thought that I caused the divorce. I mean I knew alot at a young age. And knew what was going on, it wasn't my fault, it was my dad's.

[Patronus]

My mom and dad divoriced right after I was born. Like, 4 months or so. My dad is and was a jackass. He stole from her, and even kidnapped me once. I hate all fathers now -.-

[Vegitto4]

Well then. My parents got divorced in.......3rd grade. I would go every weekend to see him and such, we would catch a movie every saturday before I whent home. There was this not to bad theatre called kolls 14 or something like that. They had free matinee's every saturday. It took about a year or so for my mom to find somebody else. I caught her making out with a "family friend" once, and i flipped out, and then she dumped him. I mean, come on, I was in 4th grade by then. Anyway, we moved from pekin IL, so NJ, and then moved on with my step-dad from there. Personally, the guy can seriously tick me off, but he's gotten better over the years. My dad had been dating a couple ppl off and on for awhile, then he settled down, and got another wife. (this was his 3rd). I inherited 2 step brothers, both of which I would kill, at points.

I was to young to understand what was going on, so it didn't really effect me like it does most other ppl. It's just been how I have lived for so long, that I was used to it. I haven't seen my dad in almost a year now, and it will probably be at least 6 months before I see him again.

[Fall]

Never. It's been close, but nothing happened. I was so scared that they'd break up, I was crying every night to myself. I'm glad it's all over.

[Harry]

They aren't divorced, and have shown any signs of getting divorced either.

[BlackDragon465]

My parents are not divorced but I don't always think of divorce being a bad thing. What if one of your parents treated you awfully or something? Although divorce doesn't seem to be good it can be very good at times for the kids when the parents don't get along well or one of the parents is a very bad parent. I always try to talk about divorce calmly and in a helpful way when I talk to someone about the subject if his or her parents are divorced. I actually like hearing peoples opinions most of the time.:)

[Manic Webb]

My parents separated when I was 2 years old and the divorce was finallized when I was 4. It sounds like an ungodly long divorce, but the last two years were mostly a debate over what amount of child support money my dad should send my mom.

However, I'm completely de-sensitized to my parents' divorce. For as long as I can remember, my dad has been married to my step-mother and my mom has been dating. I grew up living with my mom and brother, then splitting my weekends with my dad and step-mom and step-brother.

My step-mom was also recently divorced from a previous marriage. She had a son just a couple years older than me. When she married my father when I was 3, I gained a new brother. So I'm completely used to it. The only things I had to actually deal with was deciding which weekends & holidays to spend with my dad, and my step-mom giving birth to my half-sister a few years ago.

I'm sure my step-brother didn't take his mother's remarriage too badly, but my oldest brother went through pure hell. I was only 3 when my dad remarried. My step-bro was only 5. My oldest brother, on the other hand, was 9 years old. He hates my step-mom to this day (nearly 17 years later), and he refuses to talk to our dad.

I'm alright, though. I don't know why my mom insists on talking to me about the divorce, like I have issues with it or something.

[Guest Chris]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Harry [/i]
[B]They aren't divorced, and have shown any signs of getting divorced either. [/B][/QUOTE]

[color=green][size=1]what a lousy attempt to raise your post count . . .

well, i'm sorry for what happened to you logan, but you shouldn't make such harsh genaralizations. that's like saying all southerners are stupid . . . . ok, bad example, but you get my point. [/size][/color]

[Juu]

[color=ff00cc] [size=1]Well, my parents got divorced last year, though it's not legalized yet. The separation doesn't effect me, because they've been living apart for quite a while. I guess the only thing that does bother me is all the yelling and fighting they used to do over the phone. My mom used to cry alot, and my dad would always pretend nothing happened when I called him. I really miss living with both of them, but I guess it's alot better than watching both of them be unhappy together. [/color] [/size]

[SaiyanPrincessX]

My parents are still together. When I was 12 they seperated though. My mom rented an apartment and we lived with her and visited my dad. They did get back together within a few months though so it turned out good. My mom says that sometimes she thinks she got married to soon. She was only 20 when she did. I really don't understand why my parents were married in the first place though because they don't have much in common really. They both love nature though. If they ever do divorce I probebly won't live in the same house by then.

[Lady Macaiodh]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Chris [/i]
[color=green][size=1] also, when she left him she found out that he had 5 wives and 16 girlfriends already. [/size][/color] [/QUOTE]

[COLOR=darkblue][size=1]Good lord. And I thought [i]my[/i] ex was bad! Jesus. That sucks.

I am in the process of getting divorced right now. I worry about how it is going to affect my son, who is not even born yet. I still haven't decided if or when I'll let Mike see him. But I had to leave Mike, though, otherwise I really believe he would have killed me at some point. And I don't want my son growing up around a maniac like that, he'd probably turn out just like his father! [/size][/COLOR]

[Guest Chris]

[color=green][size=1]it won't be to hard on him. when you've never had a father it's not that big a deal. anyway, good luck raising him.[/size][/color]