Nats Posted July 2, 2003 Share Posted July 2, 2003 I need a bit of advice for for a friend who's slightly younger than me, she's 11, and her boyfriend has recently moved abroad to live there forever. We all said good-bye to him but as soon as he left my friend said she realized she loved and she sent him a letter telling him that straight away. But she's afraid that he will 2-time her. I'm sure he won't, he's got a big rep for being the dumpee instead of the dumper. But he is cute, (my friends' words not mine) I've all ready told her that "if you trust him then you'll nothing to worry about." Is there anything else that you can think of? Ps: I need feedback quickly becauase Friday's her last day at school and we're both moving to different schools. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Randleman Posted July 2, 2003 Share Posted July 2, 2003 11 year olds should not have boyfriends. too young to have any sort of commitment what-so-ever. he moved, so she has to move on. there will be better guys, she's only 11, she has many more years to look. I doubt she can comprehend what "love" really is, at that young of an age. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Transtic Nerve Posted July 2, 2003 Share Posted July 2, 2003 They're kids... it won't work...thats being as blunt as you can be. I'm not gonna make it all happy and hopeful. Quite frankly, it doesn't work that way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Epitome Posted July 2, 2003 Share Posted July 2, 2003 Well put TN, I am 14 and I ahve had to move away from a g/f one time and I forgot about her, I realized I was too young and still am too young to really understand what love is. She has to move on, there is no hope and she thinks she "loves" him but she really doesnt. She just doesnt know it yet. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nats Posted July 2, 2003 Author Share Posted July 2, 2003 I just need to make her feel better until she gets another crush (believe me that won't take long) I just hate to see any of my friends in tears for any kind of reason. I guess I should have put that at the begginning ^_^; Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Randleman Posted July 2, 2003 Share Posted July 2, 2003 the sooner she gets him out of her system and moves on the better. she might need to cry and realize he is never coming back to accomplish that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heaven's Cloud Posted July 2, 2003 Share Posted July 2, 2003 [color=indigo]Your friend is eleven...tell her to go back to playing Barbie or hide and go seek for three or four years before she tries to start a relationship...by the way, he is only eleven, it is doubtful that he even has the reproductive organs to two time her...[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Epitome Posted July 2, 2003 Share Posted July 2, 2003 Good point HC, ^_~. That is true though. Just tell her to move on, shes eleven. Its not like she was going to be spending the rest of her life with this [b][i]kid[/i][/b]. I emphasize kid for a reason, BECAUSE YOU STILL ARE KIDS!! Just tell her to move on... Thats all she can do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nats Posted July 2, 2003 Author Share Posted July 2, 2003 By 2-timming I meant dating other girls even though they agreed to an exclusive relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harry Posted July 2, 2003 Share Posted July 2, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Nats [/i] [B] But she's afraid that he will 2-time her. [/B][/QUOTE] Slap her for being in a relationship already. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The One Posted July 2, 2003 Share Posted July 2, 2003 [color=darkred]Yeah, well, 11 is really too young to have any sort of relationship, well, serious relationship. I figure 13 is the [i]absolute[/i] youngest one should start relationships. But, yeah, to be on topic, advise your friend to move one, it's not somewhere she wants to be, doting over someone who she probably won't see again. If it works, God praise them. If they get married at 25, God praise them, but I doubt it sincerely....[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Juu Posted July 3, 2003 Share Posted July 3, 2003 [color=ff00cc] [size=1]*raises hand* I'm twelve. I've had boyfriends. But yeah, I'd have to agree. I think 'love' might be a little too strong a word to use about her boyfriend. Alot of people don't fall in love until like, collage+. Though, I have to admit, long-distance relationships are alot harder to keep. And I actually had to break up with my past-past boyfriend, because I was moving. We're still just as good friends, and we don't have to mope around talking about how much we miss each other or something. >>;[/color] [/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Corey Posted July 3, 2003 Share Posted July 3, 2003 Most of us probably won't find 'love' untill much later in life. I am in a relationship right now, that I feel has the potential for love but even now I'm not sure. 11 is far to young to belive you love anyone but movie stars and pop singers. And he is a guy. Hormones will eventually take a firm grip on his, *ahem* mind, and lead him to cheat. It's crossed my mind a few times and probably every guy on the planet. What separartes people that do and don't is usually pure will. But a different country can change the mindset of any guy. *exhales* Be blunt. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlackDragon465 Posted July 3, 2003 Share Posted July 3, 2003 I doubt it will work. Unless they have been friends since they were toddlers I doubt that relationship can stay. I recommend like the rest that you tell her to move on. Seriously it is young and is long distance so the chances of that working out are about 1 in a million. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OtakuSennen Posted July 3, 2003 Share Posted July 3, 2003 Well, on the contrary to the age issue... I'm 12. I know tons of people my who are in relationships... In fact, I'm in a great one myself... 'Course, if you're 11 that's MUCH different if you're 12... kidding.. Really, it depends on the two people's maturity level... Mentally I mean.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nkid99 Posted July 3, 2003 Share Posted July 3, 2003 but really I'm 12 and I believe you can have relationships at this age but not like LOVE. No, it's just pretty much impossible for someone at an age like that to love another person..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest XBebop Posted July 3, 2003 Share Posted July 3, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Heaven's Cloud [/i] [B][color=indigo]Your friend is eleven...tell her to go back to playing Barbie or hide and go seek for three or four years before she tries to start a relationship...by the way, he is only eleven, it is doubtful that he even has the reproductive organs to two time her...[/color] [/B][/QUOTE] LOL!!!! that was kinda mean but hillarious! Well, yeah. Your friend is 11 years old. She can't HANDLE THE TRUTH! errr.. can't comprehend what love is yet. As Heaven's Cloud said, he doesn't even have the reproductive organs to two time her =P Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harry Posted July 3, 2003 Share Posted July 3, 2003 Damn why don't you kids try to enjoy life before you go through a bunch of crappy relationships? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boba Fett Posted July 3, 2003 Share Posted July 3, 2003 [COLOR=green]When you're 11, you shouldn?t have a boyfriend or girlfriend. I'm sorry, but [I][B]you're just too young[/B][/I]. It seems like in the world today, kids seem to have ideas about love that aren?t true, and have "boyfriends" or "girlfriends" long before they comprehend what this relationship entails. Friends are as far as you should get at that age. This relationship wont work.[/COLOR] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Transtic Nerve Posted July 3, 2003 Share Posted July 3, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by OtakuSennen [/i] [B]Well, on the contrary to the age issue... I'm 12. I know tons of people my who are in relationships... In fact, I'm in a great one myself... 'Course, if you're 11 that's MUCH different if you're 12... kidding.. Really, it depends on the two people's maturity level... Mentally I mean.. [/B][/QUOTE] Come back in a year and tell me how long it took for you to break up... Relationships at that age RARELY work... and I mean rarely. You have a better chance winning the lotto than you do staying in a relationship since the age of 12 or 11. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sui Generis Posted July 3, 2003 Share Posted July 3, 2003 [COLOR=indigo]Sadly even with my own romantic views I have to say that the chances of an 11 or even 12 year old sustaining a healthy romantic reltionship with their partner is HIGHLY un-likely. The level of maturity, mental and physical, is just too low to completely comprehend everything that goes on in a relationship. Of course it truly takes a lifetime to understand the real essance of a relationship. Heh oh wells. Sorry about your friend.[/COLOR] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nats Posted July 3, 2003 Author Share Posted July 3, 2003 Problem sorted, I told you it wouldn't take long, she's got a new crush, oh by the way the only reason why I put this thread up because 1 of my friends said she called them in tears about it, how gullable was I? by the way I'm 13. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Transtic Nerve Posted July 4, 2003 Share Posted July 4, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Nats [/i] [B]Problem sorted, I told you it wouldn't take long, she's got a new crush, oh by the way the only reason why I put this thread up because 1 of my friends said she called them in tears about it, how gullable was I? by the way I'm 13. [/B][/QUOTE] lol how quickly children change their minds. This is why young love never works ladies and gentlemen. The defense rests your honor. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlackDragon465 Posted July 4, 2003 Share Posted July 4, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Transtic Nerve [/i] [B]lol how quickly children change their minds. This is why young love never works ladies and gentlemen. The defense rests your honor. [/B][/QUOTE] True is not a relationship. They are with them 85% of the time because of looks. Not because they really give a damn about each other. Trust me I am turning 14 and I know what I mean. I see that everday.:cool: :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OtakuSennen Posted July 4, 2003 Share Posted July 4, 2003 Heh, Blackdragon465.. I'm in the other 15%.. Where I live, there is one girl who is into video games, manga and anime.. I'm fortunate to be with her. She is very attractive.. But that is not the main reason I feel this way about her.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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