I Have A Big Problem!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[yogi bear]

My best friend {let's call him X} who I've kown for 7 years has changed all through elementary school he was cool with everybody he had no problems with no one but when we got to eighth grade he started to change he got stuck up and totally out of character and so far I've maneged to keep a lot of people from beating the crap out him but now im trying to keep myself from doing it I'm supposed to be his best friend what should I do????

[juna]

[QUOTE]
[I]By Yogi[/I]
what should I do????[/QUOTE]
Ermmm, be his best friend...?..
You can try telling him what's going on. Sometimes, if you're really good friends, and you can tell him in a way that not offensive...
Try omitting lines like, "I've managed to keep a lot of people from beating the crap out of you, but now I?m trying to keep myself from doing it."... not that you would say anything like that, just a fore warning...
Maybe like, invite him to play some vid-games and just chill with him for a bit. Ask him how things are going... I dunno, maybe he's going through some stuff, other then puberty... *snicker*.
When you say he is getting stuck up, what do you mean by that? Like does he look down on people and?s just plain rude, or is he just trying to do well in school... sometimes those are hard to decipher between. Shrug..
Mostly, I guess though, the best thing you can do is be honest with him... good luck.. O_o

[Delian]

Confront him regarding his change of attitude. Don't do it in an aggressive way, just ask him why he's being different. There could be a few reasons for his change in attitude. If he considers you as his best friend then i'm sure he'll say something to you if you ask him.

[yogi bear]

Thanks for the advice ^-^

[amibasuki]

[FONT=arial]the next time he's rude to somebody, as soon as the two of you get to where you're by yourselves, in a concerned (but not overly concerned) way, maybe even a little joking, ask him if he thought it was a good idea to have said what he had or done what he had done. it's a subtle way to clue him in that he's being a jerk, and make him stop and think about what he's doing. If he says it's not a big deal, just say something like "you probably shouldn't have said that, it pissed so-and-so off pretty badly." if he says he doesn't care, then at least he knows about it now, and hey, you tried *shrug*.

if he's been doing it to you as well as to others, the next time he does it, if you don't want to make a big show if it, somewhat jokingly tell him to lay off a bit. if he knows he's being rude to you, tell him upfront that you don't like how he's treating you, and if he values your friendship at all he'll quit with what he's doing. sometimes you've gotta be a little blunt to get the point across to some people. anywho, hope this helps a bit.[/FONT]

[Harry]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by yogi bear [/i]
[B]My best friend {let's call him X} who I've kown for 7 years has changed all through elementary school he was cool with everybody he had no problems with no one but when we got to eighth grade he started to change he got stuck up and totally out of character and so far I've maneged to keep a lot of people from beating the crap out him but now im trying to keep myself from doing it I'm supposed to be his best friend what should I do???? [/B][/QUOTE]
Sell him out to get a new best friend. He's causing all of this, now would a friend do that to another friend? Hell no. Just move on.

[Guest Fly-T]

If you aren't worried about the consequencs....i'd say go on and knock him out(but not for real good reason although there's no actual cause for fighting, what am i saying?) But on the real.....just be a mature dude about it and confront ya homeslice about the deal-e-o....Or get a new tree to bark up..

[Fall]

Your friend should know that he's changing. If you dont think he does, talk to him.

He might be deppressed over something. Once you know, you might be able to fix what he's deppressed over.

[Transtic Nerve]

Everyone changes, especially that age. It's called evolution, or well some form of it... If he wants to be like that, let him, it'll just bite him in the arse.

[Guest Fly-T]

Btw, when i said Find a new tree to bark up, i meant find new friends to hang out with.....But I woudln't blow him off....If you real tight with this cat since you've known him for 7 yrs., I would seriously confront him or it will be the beginnin of the end

[SadClown]

I agree with Transtic Nerve. When I entered Junior High, a lot of people changed It's mostly due to the fact that in Elementary school, you are all in the same class, but once you enter a school with a rotating schedule, people meet new people and begin to discover who and what kind of person they are. It's unavoidable.

[Pressure]

[color=silver][size=1]Transtic is right. There is really nothing you can do. Once someone changes, it doesn't really matter how much you talk to them, they probably won't change back. Just accept that he's different now, and he may have changed for the worse. You two are growing apart, it's totally natural. Just let him go and do what he wants to.[/size][/color]

[yogi bear]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Fly-T [/i]
[B]Btw, when i said Find a new tree to bark up, i meant find new friends to hang out with.....But I woudln't blow him off....If you real tight with this cat since you've known him for 7 yrs., I would seriously confront him or it will be the beginnin of the end [/B][/QUOTE] :therock: It took me a while to get that but anyway thanks alot to you and everyone

[Mist]

[color=crimosn][size=1] Sounds like a situation one of my close friend's in. Anyway, I would say you should confront him. Don't hurt him, but just tell him that you feel he's been different for awhile. Make sure that he knows you're coming from an objective point, and that you came to him because he's your friend and you care about him. If you ask him questions, be sure to leave them open-ended so he doesn't feel cornered. If you're telling him he's been rude, making him feel so could damage your relationship.

Even with all the suggestions, he's you're best friend for a reason. He knows you're there for him, and will be truthful with him. If he's a real best friend, he'll listen to everything you say and, hopefully, have a change of heart. (And attitude! ^_~)[/color][/size]

[InuyashaDeamon]

All friends have this kind of problems it happen to me and i got into fist fights with good close friends of mine. After couple of weeks after the fight would look at are selves and try to change what we do that bugs one another. so are friendship last longer then other peoples friendships.