MillieFan Posted July 24, 2003 Share Posted July 24, 2003 First of all, I am not blaming anyone who goes to this board for my current situation. Just so you all know -^.^- Anyway, I consider myself a somewhat friendly person, or at least I try to be one. Someone on another board I post on (the Christian Anime Alliance board) asked me for my AIM username, and I did what I do with most people I want to talk to-gave it, asked for his, and put him on my buddy list. So anyway, this person comes online tonight and starts talking as if he has been drinking or something (although I try to assume the best, but this is one of the few explanations I can think of for his actions) and sends me an IM "*hugs.*" I reply with a " :p " (my usual reply) and say that I think he misunderstands. He replies to that with saying that it's not like that, he loves someone else, and he's sorry-but then he posts another IM a few minutes later "I'm here because God loves you" (now how's [i]that[/i] for conceit and utter nerve) and I finally tell him I have to go offline and then come back on a few minutes later with my away message on. Anyway, I am not interested in a relationship, and although I may be innocent, I think I know what's going on here and I want it to end. Yet I don't want to be unfriendly to anyone or hurt anyone's feelings (I SO hate doing that:bawl: , and I have no other way out of this that I can think of.) So if there's any of you here: how do you prevent or deal with unwanted advances and still be a friendly and kind person? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AzureWolf Posted July 24, 2003 Share Posted July 24, 2003 Tell him as soon as possible and as blantantly as possible. It's just that simple. I still have a stalker from a Yugioh card trade I did online. Haha, every freakin' day, "Did you get any new cards? OOOO! Let me get those off of you!" I don't let it bother me because I could care less what he says. Sometimes he begs me, and it's just pathetic. I'll never trade with someone who has no respect for himself. Lately, I've been getting IMs from little kids (well, High School kids). I don't know if it's connected to me beating some "legendary" yugioh players, but I know it's yugioh related. How? I have no clue. Still, I tell those runts flat-out that I'm not giving them any information about myself as I see no reason for them to have it. They still bother me, and I will tell them to leave me alone if they bother me too much, but I just don't like blocking anyone (no blocks on my buddy list at all! :D). Anyway, your situation is different in that he might think there's a relationship building, so you better tell him flat-out that you don't want a relationship and stop it before he builds himself a higher place to fall from. I bet he'll still try by pretending to be your friend, but hey, don't give out any information and be cool about it. That's my suggestion. :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Raiha Posted July 24, 2003 Share Posted July 24, 2003 [color=royalblue]No blocks.......that's kinda sad. If people bother me, I warn them a bit, then it's off to Blockingland. It's not that I'm cruel, I just don't have the patience, or the time, to be harassed. Anyways, you'll get desensitized soon enough. Never fear! Don't be afraid to knock them out of your cyberworld. You'll feel better because: A; your life is so calm now. B; what's that dinging noise I DON'T hear? C; he'll never bother you again.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nezzyjean Posted July 24, 2003 Share Posted July 24, 2003 [size=0] ok, first of all, have you talked to this guy since that night, b/c like you said...it did sound an auful lot like he was drunk! But if you have, and he was still acting like that, tell him that the feelings he has aren't mutual, either that or wait until he asks you out, then just say: I am not really interested in a relationship rite now, with (insert random reason, i put "with it being summer and all) and then be like, i'm really sorry, can we still be friends? yah...that worked on my internet stalker...so it might help you there. Good luck![/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SadClown Posted July 24, 2003 Share Posted July 24, 2003 ^^ If you don't know him in person, I don't see why your worried about a relationship. Some people forget that the internet is not real life. You can't "date" people over the internet. If anything, he's just harrasing you. Tell him to stop and move on, there's nothing mean about that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kwai Posted July 24, 2003 Share Posted July 24, 2003 Just block him/her like Raiha said, or keep ignoring him until he/she finally gets the idea... I had a few people harass me online and I just ignored them... they rarely bother me these days unless its something important. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crazy Ace Posted July 24, 2003 Share Posted July 24, 2003 why dont u report him or just ignore him. I hate sick twisted stalkers from the internet Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Domon Posted July 24, 2003 Share Posted July 24, 2003 Who is she going to report him to on AIM??? I mean honestly Crazy Ace, you can't go to an Admin on AIM and tell him to bann or whatever. You just block and go about your merry life, if she's bothered on AIM and not on the boards then the staff can't do anything. Anyways MillieFan I hope you don't have to deal with anymore of those people again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emme888 Posted July 25, 2003 Share Posted July 25, 2003 At least your stalkers are online, mine are offline....creepy. They follow you around and ahh!!!*ducks* Well what I did was be blunt, don't sugarcoat. Cause if you do then they'll blow it off, and cut off all comminucation with them, the less time with the person the better. Tell them straight on, be blunt not mean, but make sure to get the point across that you don't ever want to see them again, or talk to them. Hope this helps you... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shinji-Kun Posted July 25, 2003 Share Posted July 25, 2003 I will stalk you Emme888 :stalks: MUHAHAHAHAHHAHA :babble: ;) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lady Asphyxia Posted July 25, 2003 Share Posted July 25, 2003 [size=1]Well, he e-hugged you. Tell him that you don't like it, and leave it at that. If he persists in doing things you don't like, block him. It's that simple. That's the beauty about the internet -- nothing has to be face to face.[/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heaven's Cloud Posted July 25, 2003 Share Posted July 25, 2003 [color=indigo]Well, if you were uncomfortable with his "e-hug" then do what everyone else says and block him from your cyber world...no offense, but it seems as though you are making a big deal out of nothing [/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DevilzAdvocate Posted August 16, 2003 Share Posted August 16, 2003 Everyone here has basica;;y said what needs to be said. IF you havnt already, just block him.... Not much too say about that. People who are creepy, you warn. and warn. and block. I have no problem with blocking. Neither should you... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sara Posted August 16, 2003 Share Posted August 16, 2003 [b]Everyone here has basica;;y said what needs to be said. [/b] [size=1]Then why did you bring this topic back? /[/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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