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[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Solo Tremaine [/i]
[B]There's that side of it, but anything sexual also has the emotional side of it too.[/B][/QUOTE]

You bring up a good point, Solo...in most of the emotional aspects of cybering, I agree with you. Mentally, it is a big step. However, I didn't appreciate Sere getting angry at me for a comment that was not directed as a jab or insult. And clearly her post was meant to be such.

And my apologies, wrist cutter. I suppose I was still a bit frustrated. I just didn't want more tempers flairing.

[wrist cutter]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Solo Tremaine [/i]
[B]There's that side of it, but anything sexual also has the emotional side of it too. Anything that happens online shouldn't be disregarded- it's still 'real', even if it happens to be on the other side of a screen several thousand miles away. So either way, it's still a big jump in a relationship. Even pretending to have sex with someone is a big step, and I'd personally agree with Sere.
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I'd have to disagree. Ever heard of a "one night stand"? Pretty hard to argue that there's a lot of emotion in that.

And the majority of people who cyber are looking for nothing more than that. People who want a relationship with someone aren't going to look on the internet - and if they are, I doubt they're all that interested in cybering with that person.

Really, if you're a good friend with someone online, and have a good relationship, how on earth could you cyber with that person? It'd be embarrassing. You'd feel stupid the whole time you're doing it because you realize nothing is actually happening other then two people masturbating over what is conjured up in their imaginations. You're not getting to know this person more intimately by typing dirty messages to them.

There is no virginity online. You cannot lose your virginity by cybering. To lose virginity there has to be sex - even if you're one of those people who thinks virginity is more than a state of mind than anything else. If you could lose your virginity cybering, you could lose your virginity having a really good conversation apparently. It's not just about being engrossed in the moment - it's having a certain sexual organ be put in another.

Whether or not you like to cyber is irrelevant. If typing sexual messages online really gets you off, good for you. That's none of my business.

But I can't imagine there being any emotion in 99% of cybering that goes on in the internet.

In that 1% case it is two people who think they are advancing their relationship by cybering... well good luck to them. I can't imagine them feeling like they have strengthened their bonds with each other after they were done. They're probably just toweling up the mess and thinking, "wow, did that really accomplish what I wanted?" Of course not. They did nothing but satisfy themselves.

There was nothing emotional about it. It was only a way to satisfy yourself for a night.

[Solo Tremaine]

Well... yes, I suppose so. But even in a one-night stand there has to be an emotion of readiness, or just pure adrenaline/alcohol. No action is entirely physically motivated. But then you get into the debate about whether a physical state arouses emotions or whether emotions cause a physical state.

I'm sure there's a subtle difference between porn and yiff, but maybe I'm being too blanket-headed about it, and I can't think well enough to define it. I personally wouldn't want to cyber with someone I've never met (and not even with someone I knew well).

Most of the people on Furcadia are there because they actually want to experience more than just animal sex. There's more to it than that. Sure, you do get the superficial thrills, and I'm guessing there are a lot of people who like that side of it greatly, but it's not all people do there. I'm not trying to justify cybering, but (if only for me anyway) there would have to be another side to it.