advice

[ladyscorp2006]

I was wondering if you could help me out with something. Here's the sit.
Yesterday my grandparents foster child came home. So as it turns out he knew more about me than I new about him. So, I act like I usually do around people I don't know. And come to find out he thinks I'm mean. Usually I don't care what other people think of me but this time it's been bugging me. What do I do?

[Guess?]

you should just get over it. and if you can't... prove to him your not mean.

[Wintermute]

Act nicely. Simple as.

[Baron Samedi]

If it bothers you so much, which it shouldn't, confront him. Say that until he knows you, from being with you, then he should try and give you a chance to prove yourself without outside influence. Then storm off, and sulk in your room. When you come out, say half an hour later, things should get better started. Apologise for your outburst, and prgress from there. Guilt always works a charm *shines badge*lol.

[Charlie Levoy]

I think that you should forget about it but, if it bothers you that much then you should confront him on the subject and ask him why he thinks your mean. Once he tells you what it is ask him about what you can do to not seem mean. However keep in mind that he could be one of those kids that thinks the whole world hates him and that no one understands him. If that is the case then you are not to blame and he just has an issue that he needs to deal with one way or another. I'm not saying that he could be a little brat or any thing because of the fact that I don't know him. I just telling you to keep your mind open to different explanations on the subject.

[Guest Tical]

Just grab a kitana and go to town... no dead kids gunna bug you, but seriously keep ignoring him, I know how it feels and eventually they get board... just play video games constantly and he'll forget about you

[DevilzAdvocate]

I say act really nice around him and ignore any more bad comments from him, try finding out why he thinks your mean and do the oppisite.

[pbfrontmanvdp]

Tell him/her what others say is completely different than first impressions. Tell your cousin that your not like that at all and your seriously a nice person. I wouldnt let it bother you that much since, what can your cousin possibly do. If he avoids you the whole time that is more his/her problem than yours. Good luck hope things work out.

[Mitch]

[size=1] It shouldn't matter what other people think of you, unless you want them to think a certain way about you. So obviously that is so.

If you ask me, I think this is a small matter to bring up. Your relationship with him hasn't even grown enough for someone to say certain things about one another.

He's either saying it for effect, because you did something that hurt him, or because you are as he says.

But yeah. It's really a small matter. My brother often thinks I'm mean, my parents often think I'm mean. You just get over it and go on.[/size]

[amibasuki]

[FONT=arial]how do you act around people you don't know?

it used to be when I didn't know someone, I'd just go on doing whatever I was doing (staring out in space, usually) and act like (s)he wasn't there, since I was shy and didn't really know what to say. if (s)he tried talking to me, I'd give a quick answer and go back to what I was doing (more staring out into space), while trying to 'keep my cool', so to speak.

I've just barely started getting out of that, and I notice when I come across people who act like I did, I think to some degree I did come across as not quite mean, but snubby (as opposed to snobby). reverse positions. if you were trying to be nice to someone who was, say, new at school, and you tried making conversation, wouldn't you feel a little discouraged if all you got was a '*grunt* yeah' every so often?

course, I don't know the whole story, or how you or the other kid act, and I'm just coming up with some possible scenarios. but if you get the chance to see him again, prove to him that you're not a mean person, and.....I don't know, make with the friendly-ness, lol. or who knows, maybe he's the one with the issues :cross:. if that's the case, not much you can do about what he thinks of you.
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[AutoKill]

In desperate times like these i like to bring up this [color=yellow]The Golden Rule[/color] (treat others as you would like to be treated). Remember, your the one that thinks he thinks that your mean. if he hasent made it clear. or hasent said bluntly "your mean". then you could be going off the wrong info. So i would say forget anything ever happend. And act normal. By the golden rule, you should be nice. Say if your watching tv. and he wants to watch some. let him have the controler. Stuff like that. ;)

[Heaven's Cloud]

[color=indigo]I think that you should beat the crap out of him until he admits that you aren't the mean, sadistic person he believes you to be...[/color]

[lea]

....why does he think your mean? 0.o

[ladyscorp2006]

See the thing is he said I was mean and maybe it was because I was a little rude to him when we first met (but he was the same way). And he thinks I'm the mean one. We were going to football practice and he said he would LETme sit up front. Just cuz I'm a girl. And all I said was I was gonna sit up front regardless of what he had to say. I know it sounds stupid but I don't want people treating me any diffrent than they would others Just cuz I'm a girl. Am I at Fault here?

[Charlie Levoy]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by ladyscorp2006 [/i]
[B]See the thing is he said I was mean and maybe it was because I was a little rude to him when we first met (but he was the same way). And he thinks I'm the mean one. We were going to football practice and he said he would LETme sit up front. Just cuz I'm a girl. And all I said was I was gonna sit up front regardless of what he had to say. I know it sounds stupid but I don't want people treating me any diffrent than they would others Just cuz I'm a girl. Am I at Fault here? [/B][/QUOTE]

Yes and no. He was rude to you which would make him at fault. The fact that you reacted on it makes you at fault. Then he lets you sit up front because your a girl seriously makes him at fault. Now if he heard you say that you were going to sit up front any way may have made him angry which would partially make you at fault. But if he didn't then it doesn't. So if I was to make a chart of who was at fault out of these occasions then it would be him 3 and you 1 or 2. In other words he has some reason to say your rude but, here's the joy for you. He's even ruder. :D Of coarse to make it acurate I would have to listen to both sides of the story and every single encounter you 2 had but, out of what you said he's mainly at fault.:lecture:

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[Kitty]

[color=blue][size=1]Well, the only advice I can give is the advice I follow. Either act like the way he calls you, or just ignore it. If that DOESN'T work, try talking to him 'bout why he thinks you're mean. If that STILL doesn't work, do what Tical suggested. Play video games, listen to music, read, watch TV, or do something to take your mind off of him. If ALL of those things FAIL, I have NO clue how to help you. That's it... Laterzez!!

~Meow... o_O;~[/color][/size]