Jubei Yagyou Posted August 17, 2003 Share Posted August 17, 2003 Well here it is, Since September my mom got a boyfriend. She rarely meets someone she liked in awhile. So I said go for it, at first it was cool, but once he started like living here, which I resent, it has been hell for me. I dont think he is bad but, he acts like he owns the house, comes over, eats what he wants, uses our house as a storage, uses my COMPUTER without asking. It sucks, my mom acts different because of him. She acts like a kid, which I also resent. But there much, much, more, lots of times he makes fun of me, and when I make fun of him back my mom is all touchy. And he makes fun of asians! And mom acts like its no big deal! Sheesh, he has a son that complains when Im on my own computer, saying I should share. I told mom if she gets married to him Im staying at my dads. Do you guys have any advice? I dont know what to do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Baron Samedi Posted August 17, 2003 Share Posted August 17, 2003 Well. That is a bugger. Im not sure what kind of relationship you have with your mother, but i would approach her, and say about some of the problems you have with her new boyfriend. Put a password on your computer- Or make him his own account. And tell him, that seeing as it is your computer, he can go on when you are finished. Or alternativley you could just let him have a go soemetimes.... It is kind of difficult for anyone to help you, as we do not know all the nuances in your life. But maybe try my advice, if you think it suitable. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest yalborap Posted August 17, 2003 Share Posted August 17, 2003 Talk to your mom. If that doesn't work, I hope your dad has enough room for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harry Posted August 17, 2003 Share Posted August 17, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Jubei Yagyou [/i] [B]Well here it is, Since September my mom got a boyfriend. She rarely meets someone she liked in awhile. So I said go for it, at first it was cool, but once he started like living here, which I resent, it has been hell for me. I dont think he is bad but, he acts like he owns the house, comes over, eats what he wants, uses our house as a storage, uses my COMPUTER without asking. It sucks, my mom acts different because of him. She acts like a kid, which I also resent. But there much, much, more, lots of times he makes fun of me, and when I make fun of him back my mom is all touchy. And he makes fun of asians! And mom acts like its no big deal! Sheesh, he has a son that complains when Im on my own computer, saying I should share. I told mom if she gets married to him Im staying at my dads. Do you guys have any advice? I dont know what to do. [/B][/QUOTE] He's probably just joking around. If he doesn't make a big deal about it when you say something back he probably is. As for the computer, just share. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RicoTranzrig Posted August 17, 2003 Share Posted August 17, 2003 [COLOR=darkblue]It might be good to talk to her one-on-one about how you feel. If you're needs aren't being met, be heard so it doesn't get out of control later.[/COLOR] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guess? Posted August 17, 2003 Share Posted August 17, 2003 Tell your mom that you don't like the guy, as for the comp. make a password for it. And if your mom gets on your case about the password tell her its yours and yours alone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nezzyjean Posted August 17, 2003 Share Posted August 17, 2003 [size=0] [color=silver] Talk to your mom...if that doesnt work then there's nothing that you can do...Grownups control the world...so basically you have no rights at all until you are 18...yea...anyways...she can see whoever she wants...but if you want, you can just decide to stay at your dad's..and that is all that you can do..oh yea...take your computer with u...so that little brat can't use it. Also...you should put a password on the screen saver..my friend's parents do that so they can control the time they spend on the computer, and then put a password on your account...make it go to a screensaver every time that u get off...so that ur mom's bf and his son can't get on without ur permission. Well that is just about all u can do...[/color] [/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Corey Posted August 17, 2003 Share Posted August 17, 2003 I think you should go on a murdering rampage and end all their worries with a nice little AK. But of course I just got out of spending almost six hours with someone that I absolutely dispise. Don't take my prior advice. Instead confront your mom about it. Tell her the problems that he causes and that you would like something done. Do not threaten. Threatening makes it sound like your way is the only way and that you are pissed enough to do my prior advice. Work something out privately with your mom. As for the computer problem, hide the power cord so only you know where it is. When you want to use it, take it out, plug it in and do whatever the hell you want to do. Then shutdown, unplug, and all technological problems are over. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest yalborap Posted August 17, 2003 Share Posted August 17, 2003 Or, password EVERYTHING. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DevilzAdvocate Posted August 17, 2003 Share Posted August 17, 2003 I have to agree with everyone else, tell your mum that you dont like him, if she doesnt aknowledge? you opion then tell her that you no longer want to live there and move out, maybe try talking to him?. Thats what i would try anyway. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Semjaza Posted August 17, 2003 Share Posted August 17, 2003 Welcome to the wonderful world of guys who will date your mom. I went through it after my dad died. I hated it at first, but I think it was mostly that I resented the guys. Once I realized they weren't really doing anything horrible, I laid back a lot more. Honestly, who doesn't keep some things at the house of people they date? I know many people who think that it's perfectly normal to just take whatever they want to eat too. Unless it's about 10 times worse than you're describing, I say you should step back and think about how bad any of this really is. It doesn't sound like he treats you badly. The whole computer aspect isn't really a big deal in the scheme of things either. As for how your mom acts like a kid around him... I don't know lol. All people act differently when dating someone. Some girls like being the kiddy, ditzy type in those situations for some reason. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ladyscorp2006 Posted August 17, 2003 Share Posted August 17, 2003 As for the computer lock it up. Make sure nobody knows the password but you. And every time you get off log out so nobody else can get on. As for his child all I have to say is if your bigger all you have to do is intimidate. Tell your mom how you feel about her boyfriend and make sure she knows where your coming from. Don't just assume it, make sure she does. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charlie Levoy Posted August 17, 2003 Share Posted August 17, 2003 Here's the best advice I have for you. Tell you mom about how you feel. Tell about the changes that have happened since he came along. Remind her of what she was like before he came along and tell her how she has changed since he has. If she is reasonable and understanding then she should understand. However if she is so madly in love with this guy then you may not be able to get through to her. Which in that case you are screwed considering the fact that you really can't make any major decisions until your at least 18. You might be able to convince your father to let you live with him but, since I don't know him I'm not exactly sure. If any case you can move out when your 18. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Tical Posted August 17, 2003 Share Posted August 17, 2003 KILL THE ASIAN HATER!!!! I WANNA SEE SOME BLOOD!!!! BRING ME HIS HEAAD ON A POST!!!!! Anyway... if your embarassed about talking to your mom... do wierd stuff and shell come at you... its best if you do it while te idio... i mean guy is around so he hears you. But maybe you sholdnt listen to me... I am a psycho... in fack Im planning on killing myself soetime in tyese next couple of weeks... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Corey Posted August 17, 2003 Share Posted August 17, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Tical Spelling corrected by KnightOfTheRose[/i] [B]In fact, I'm planning on killing myself sometime in these next couple of weeks...[/B][/QUOTE] Crys for help usually go in a thread of their own. And if you're this open about it, I severely doubt you will actually go through with anything. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mitch Posted August 17, 2003 Share Posted August 17, 2003 [size=1] Welcome to the wonderful world of life's love for you. It beings slowly as you grow up, and progesses into a much bigger little friend to shoulder on. Heh. Basically, just live with it. It doesn't seem like it's [i]that[/i] big of a deal. Seriously, this is a relatively small thing in comparision to a lot of other problems you could have. So be happy about that. I'd say just move out to your Dad's if it's getting so bad rather than complain about it. It doesn't appear that you're being shackled into chains and left to die. You can move out if you want.[/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emme888 Posted August 17, 2003 Share Posted August 17, 2003 [SIZE=3][COLOR=sienna]Don't worry about it! I'm Asian, too; and when you're the only minority in a city or school people are bound to give you crap about being different. I just think to myself: "They're ignorant bigots, and that's all they have to offer. It's not my fault that they are uncultured and rude hicks. One day they'll get their punishment for their stupidity." Harsh I know, but that's what they are. I'm very sensitive to any discrimination against [B]Anyone[/B], Cause I know what it feels like. Even my friends know it's not a line to cross with me, cause I can be very mean, tough, and take it to heart. [B] Maybe you should tell your mom b-friend that it hurts and offends you. And it lessen your overall value of him.[/B] And sit your mom down and tell her how it affects you, and how he treats you badly. Ask her to realize that her future is also affecting you. To think of "her realtionships" as a "family relationships" cause it affects all. Whether in mental way or physical way. I hope this helps, and remember:[B] In the end all will recieve their punishment from their maker for their wrong doings[/B]Please forgive the typos or spelling, GOOD LUCK! [/COLOR][/SIZE] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lea Posted August 18, 2003 Share Posted August 18, 2003 well, is what you say about him that annoys you is what is really whats bothers you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kitty Posted August 18, 2003 Share Posted August 18, 2003 I know what you're going through. It's happened to me. My mother dated him for a while, then she went ahead and MARRIED him when I told her that I hated him!! Now she ignores MY feelings about this freak and I have to visit her over the summer!! It sucks right now... But on the bright side, I'm goin' back home to my dad's place in a week. I can't wait. This place is hell... ~Meow... o_O;~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest dayday Posted August 18, 2003 Share Posted August 18, 2003 Tell your mom. Because I know my cousin had dated someone for 2 years and they decided to get married. Now it hasn't even been 2 months and she's kicking him out. That's his fault for not keeping his pants zipped. Anyways, talk to your mom and tell her everything you told us. If she won't listen to you then just go live with your dad. Either that or hide the food and t.v. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest yalborap Posted August 18, 2003 Share Posted August 18, 2003 Or use a metal bat lined with pointy things. It's more fun. :devil: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
the The Boy Posted August 19, 2003 Share Posted August 19, 2003 Like most people are saying, talk to your mom and password the computer.Or you can always say these handy latin phrases, "Utinam barbari spatioum proprium tuum inadant."("May barbarians invade your personal space"), "Utinam coniurati te in foro interficiant."("May conspirators assasinate you in the hall"), "Re vera, cara mea, mea nil refert"("Frankly my dear, I don't give a dam"), and "Te capiam, cunicule sceleste".("I'll get you, you wascally wabbit!) Don't know when you'd say the last one though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demonic Angel Posted August 19, 2003 Share Posted August 19, 2003 Jubei Yagyou, Geez, i don't like ppl who make fun of asians, bcuz im asian. -.- I agree on what Emme888 said. Wow, i guess i learned something from her today. e.e Anyways, u can talk to you mom alone, and i mean privately, about this problem of yours. Or talk to the guy nicely about ur problem. And if he doesn't agree with you then go stay with ur dad's or any family relative. If ur mom knows how u feel then thats great. I hope this works. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Razzamataz Posted August 19, 2003 Share Posted August 19, 2003 I whole heartedly agree with yalborap I wift trauma to the testicles the something sharp WILL get your "point" across. and if that doesn't work you can do one of two other things. Confront your mom: tell her about it, and then tell her that if something doesn't happen something terrible WILL happen (be sure to put alot of emphasis on the will) don't tell her what will happen, not knowing is often times worse than knowing. Confront you mooom's Boyfriend: bring up the issues, and if your asian, tell him that if he doesn't completely STOP with the asian cracks you'll press harassment charges. but I'd go with using a heavy object (such as a hammer or baseball bat) and swing away whilst aiming low, make hurt so bad he vomits. hope my advice helps. [insert cheery face after a pretty violent post] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Epid3mic Posted August 19, 2003 Share Posted August 19, 2003 Most of the people here have already given good advice, there's not much more than I can say. No offense, but your mother sounds like one of those needy women who need a man around. Any man. I seriously don't think acting like child around him or letting him get away with racist remarks are good signs. I mean, it's okay for her to feel relaxed in his company, but if he's going to be a future life partner, she needs to be serious. Confront her. Oh yeah, and the bat thing sounds good too :p Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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