stardust Posted August 22, 2003 Share Posted August 22, 2003 I noticed somebody said the way to go is to become friends w/ the person,but I have to tell ya from experience, BE CAREFUL. I liked a lot of guys that were close friends of mine,and it always turned out bad.Not to say that it will be this way for you,but if you are interested in something romantic,you should take care of it up front. Otherwise you could get hurt. Peace out,just had to share. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Burori Posted August 22, 2003 Share Posted August 22, 2003 Yes that is true I beilieve I said that O.o soory but that is a guttsy move to do. The best thing to do though is to get the girl to know you more. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charlie Levoy Posted August 23, 2003 Share Posted August 23, 2003 Brolli is right. The best way to go with a girl you just or haven't even met yet just noticed is to talk with them and to get to know them better. It may be hard to start a conversation at first, but once you find something to talk about and get going it's a lot easier to keep to do. You never know what will happen. You might discover that you two have alot in common or you might find out that really you don't like her that much after all. it's a bummer to think about, but it could happen and i don't think you want to be in a serious relationship with a person you don't even like. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Burori Posted August 23, 2003 Share Posted August 23, 2003 See I told you all I'm good at giving advice ^_^. The other best thing for you to do is give it time. time is a precious think to use in a good way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Original Posted August 23, 2003 Share Posted August 23, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Shadow Wolf [/i] [B][SIZE=1][COLOR=darkblue]I have a somewhat complicated issue. There's this girl who I've liked for over a year. I asked her out to the Valentine's Day dance at school, but she laughed and thought it was a joke. I told her it wasn't and then she decided to avoid me for nearly a month. She didn't even try to talk to me until she got a boyfriend. I ended up going to the end-of-the-year dance thingy with a girl who liked me, but I had no idea of it at the time because of my one-track mind. I still like the one girl, but her boyfriend is also my friend. I can't think of anything to do that would result in everything being ok between the three of us. I've tried to tell her how I really feel before, but our mutual friends always seem to get to her first (stupid nosy gossipper people) and misquote what I said way back in February. The worst part is, When I found out the other girl liked me, I realized I sorta had feelings for her too, but by then, it was too late. She got mad at me because I apparently wasn't picking up her 'signals' and so now I all alone, confused and helpless. Can you think of anything I should do? Thanx anyway[/COLOR][/SIZE] [/B][/QUOTE] Yo, you guys forget about Wolfie here? Unfortunately Wolfie, I'm not sure there's much you can do. Unless you start getting love vibes from you'r friend's girl, you really should leave her alone. If you say that you like the girl you went to the dance with, you should work on that. Tell her that you made a mistake, and that you regret what you did (but don't say it in a bitchy way). You'll have to take it slow, but if she genuinely likes you, and vice versa, I think you could have a shot with her. If you can't get her, don't stress yourself. You have your whole life ahead of you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Burori Posted August 23, 2003 Share Posted August 23, 2003 EEk your right. I'm soo sorry well shadow wolf you have had the same problem i actually had in my valentiens i had a girl i really liked and she too laughed in my face. If a girl does that to you, you do only one thing forget about her. its her loss. as for the girl you had and got mad to you do exactly like original said. apologies (hope i spelt that right) buy her flowers or send her a poem. tell her the truth of what happened between you and that ice queen( not the girl who liked you the one who laughed at you) she'll understand. Do you have strong feelings towards this girl that likes you. if you do tell her. make her feel special and loved. girls love it when you talk to them. Sorry again for missing your post. I was a little tired. wont happen again people i promise. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nezzyjean Posted August 23, 2003 Share Posted August 23, 2003 [size=0] [color=silver] Ok..well one of my friends just admitted that he has had a HUGE crush on me for a little over a year now. At first i was cool with it...but now everytime i am gettin off of aim and I say bye to him..he's all like "I love u" and its kindof getting annoying...but I had seen it coming since the beginning of the year...but when he said he liked me last year too..i was actually shocked...Well i've heard from our mutual friends that he's planning on asking me out...so i just want to know how to let him down easy...or atleast how to get him off my back...b/c frankly, i feel that he is definitely not my type... [/color] [/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stardust Posted August 24, 2003 Share Posted August 24, 2003 alright nezzy,there's no easy way to reject somebody,but sometimes it must be done..... Just explain that you just want to be friends,and say your sorry,and that he'll find somebody else. You could also say for the time being that him saying he loves you makes you feel uncomfortable and you don't like it. Maybe he'll get the hint and back off. Best of luck to ya,and be nice,I've been in that situation and it hurts like heck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest sageofdeath1 Posted August 24, 2003 Share Posted August 24, 2003 hey like im in luv with this girl, and she knows, so like wha would be a good way to ask her out Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stardust Posted August 24, 2003 Share Posted August 24, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by sageofdeath1 [/i] [B]hey like im in luv with this girl, and she knows, so like wha would be a good way to ask her out [/B][/QUOTE] Just go up to her and ask her out,that's now I usually do it. Maybe a flower or something too? Just don't do it in a note or anything because it never works,trust me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Burori Posted August 24, 2003 Share Posted August 24, 2003 AHHHH I'm so sorry people I was out up in the north and i could respond. just like stardust said and i completly agree with Him/Her. nezzyjean like stardust said, there is no good way of letting the guy down nicely but the best thing to do to a guy is say that you like him more as a friend than anything else and you dont want to break that kind of friendship. As for you sageofdeath1 just like stardust said (thanks so much for helping out these people while i couldn't you are a lifesaver) give her flowers just like stardust said but dont ask her out right away. get her to know you a little more. and know this DO NOT KEEP YOUR HOPES UP! it's the worst thing you could do to yourself. By the way stardust your advice is really good if you could join me and valen in this thread we'd apreciate it. I'm sorry again for not being here to help you guys/gals out when you needed me. I'm SSOOOOO SORRY! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stardust Posted August 24, 2003 Share Posted August 24, 2003 Yea,I was a peer mediator so I learned to give good advice in the area of relationships,lol. I've experienced a lot (ok,just about ALL of this stuff) before so I know what to do and what not to do.i just hope it all works out great for everybody. Also,anybody could IM or PM me anytime with a problem,I live to help,lol. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Burori Posted August 24, 2003 Share Posted August 24, 2003 well if its okay with you we'd really appreciate it if you'll be part of this thread. cause to tell you the truth its hard to run with only me and valen. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valen Posted August 24, 2003 Author Share Posted August 24, 2003 So sorry guys! Stardust, thanks a bunch for helping out. I'm trying to get on as much as possible right now. hopefully by Saturday everything will be calm again around here. Sorry again! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Burori Posted August 24, 2003 Share Posted August 24, 2003 Well it's offical people I am Single again in real life. I broke up with my girlfriend today and were going to be good friends instead. Even though I'm single people I'm still going to do best to give you good advice. Well lets keep this thread up. If you need advice on love we are here to give it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charlie Levoy Posted August 27, 2003 Share Posted August 27, 2003 I'm sorry Brolli about your relationship. I remember that you asked for help in another thread and I think I tried to give you advice. If so then I'm also sorry that I wasn't much help after all. It's actually funny how a guy like you can give out good advice, but yet have relationship problems your self. That ,I must say, is amazing. ;) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Burori Posted August 27, 2003 Share Posted August 27, 2003 no problem. i saw it coming. anyways its in the past and gone. now im going to help you people cause thats what i want to do. so does anyone else needs help. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smilesgirl Posted August 27, 2003 Share Posted August 27, 2003 how can i get a boyfriend??? all mi friends have had one at least once and not me...im ok looking, im not overweight, and i have a good attitude, i just dont get it, and now im starting to feel lonely and a little out-of-place when everyone talks about their boyfriends/girlfriends... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Burori Posted August 27, 2003 Share Posted August 27, 2003 Okay listen to me my child. (oops sorry starting to sound like an old gramps o.o) anyways. Patience is the key even more so if you are a girl. Let me give you strong advice though on guys (being one myself) almost and I mean ALMOST are all pigs and perverts. Just giving you a heads up. Although even if they are perverts again most of them are gentle and kind. My advice is to wait for the guys to come to you. By the way how old are you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smilesgirl Posted August 28, 2003 Share Posted August 28, 2003 im fourteen... [COLOR=orangered][size=1]...and new to OtakuBoards. Please read our rules; they will help you get along here. Avoid painfully short posts such as this one. ^_~ -Sara[/size][/COLOR] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Burori Posted August 28, 2003 Share Posted August 28, 2003 Okay thats good. Umm Well do you have a guy on your sights? if so tell me a little about him or his connection to him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smilesgirl Posted August 28, 2003 Share Posted August 28, 2003 well...there's this one guy that i've liked for a year or two now and i sat next to him in advisement for a year. we'd talk a little... mostly about drawing, and we'd talk with our friends, but i gess i wasn't realli that close to him because i'd never see him anywhere else... and i dont realli know why i like him... just something about him... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Burori Posted August 28, 2003 Share Posted August 28, 2003 Humm maybe you should ask him what he thinks of you. tell him that you like him and you would like to try a date with him. But be warned that you should never put any hopes up. You'll just end up hurt in the end if he doesnt feel the same way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pbfrontmanvdp Posted August 28, 2003 Share Posted August 28, 2003 Ok ill try to help out a little. To make sure this is the guy for you, get to know what he likes and what his characteristics are. You must get to know these first because if you basically dont have that much in common, then it will never work out. As i can tell you both like drawing so thats a start and expand on that. Give compliments to his drawings...its always good to do stuff like that. Ask him questions like "Whats your favorite band" or "Whats your favorite sport". Pretty much get to know him a little bit before you try anything else. If things seem to be going well, then ask him if he likes to go to the movies or what not...tell him your going to see some movie and if he would want to go with you. Just remeber to always act yourself and never act differently around a person you like. Eventually he/she (in your case he) will found out who you are really like which may or may not be a bad thing but it always leaves them with questions, trust me ive seen it happen to a lot of my friends. So far it seems like your doing the right thing all you got to do is build up a little bit of confidence and you'll be on your way. If things dont work out that way then you both should just try to stay good friends, theres never anything wrong with that. Hope this helps Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smilesgirl Posted August 28, 2003 Share Posted August 28, 2003 ....well.... im a little afraid of his friends...they're always around him and they don't realli like anyone except themselvs... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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