amibasuki Posted September 14, 2003 Share Posted September 14, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by SailorStar [/i] [B]Actually, yes, there is. I am. I mean. I dont go all giggly when i hear the word kiss. i mean, really. some boy who is my best firned ever, told me he likes me. guess what i said. cool. adn i like him back. he desnt want to go out, becuase he's afraid to get his feelings hurt. the last girl he went out with, he was with for a while, then she moved, and they broke up. i mean. im giggly when it comes to boys, but when its otehrs that need help, im probably the clamest person you will find. im dofferent from a lot of teens. i eat maybe, maybe one meal a day, then im not hungry for the rest of the day. [color=red]?![/color] [/B][/QUOTE] [FONT=arial].......and, how does any of this make you mature? [/FONT] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Original Posted September 15, 2003 Share Posted September 15, 2003 I suppose I consider myself mature. I won't blabber about it though. There's a really annoying kid at my school, and one of his favorite replys to any argument is "Well, you're not as mature as me, so you would'nt understand". To me, bragging about how mature you are is in itself immaturity. I believe that I have a more adult view on important topics ( religion, politics, ect.) than most kids my age; however, I do let my emotions get the better of me in certain situations. For instance, my friend claimed that I owed him $5 once, and I had no recollection of it. We let five measly dollars keep us at each others throats for a month. In reflection, almost destroying an eight-year friendship over a few dollars was [U]very[/U] immature, almost like a toddler yelling at a companion for taking a favored toy away. Anyway, to get back on topic, I suppose I'm mature, but, like Baron Samedi stated, only my friends and family can decide that. - The Original Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
terra Posted September 15, 2003 Share Posted September 15, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Adahn [/i] [B]I believe it's becoming clear. A large part of maturity is simply parental instinct.[/B][/QUOTE] I don't think that's necessarily true. I'm not sure why, I suppose it just feels to me that you can be mature without feeling a parental instinct towards anybody. Of course, having that parental instinct might contribute a lot towards your maturity, but I don't think it's a requirement. [quote][i]Originally posted by maladjusted[/i] [b]I don't like talking about boys or anything to do with my friends' 'crushes' or whatever.[/b][/quote] I don't think that not wanting to talk about friends' "crushes" or anything necessarily points towards maturity, either. I'm not saying you're [i]not[/i] mature, I'm just saying that that may not be the indicative factor. I know that I talk with my friends about their "crushes" on occasion. And while we may not always have the most "mature" conversations about it, that doesn't necessarily mean we're not mature. [quote][i]Originally posted by amibasuki[/i] [b]I don't get why people think you have to be the calm and collected, never-crack-a-smile-type person to be considered mature.[/b][/quote] I agree. Continuing from my above paragraph, I think you can have spouts of acting what might be defined by some as "immature," but still be a mature person overall. I'd hate to think that maturity means I won't be able to just completely let loose and do something semi-crazy like dancing around my living room to no music, or something else that might be deemed "immature." Those are all the thoughts I've had reading other people's posts ... Trying to define maturity myself, though, I'm a little at a loss. I would say part of it is coming to know yourself rather well, and part of that is figuring out your opinions about things like DeathKnight said, without worrying what other people will think of you because of them. It seems to me maturity has a lot to do with letting yourself be yourself, while also letting other people be other people -- not forcing your opinions on them, but respecting their opinions as as valid as your own. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Baron Samedi Posted September 15, 2003 Share Posted September 15, 2003 I can't imagine only eating one meal a day.. but what the hell does that have to do with maturity anyway? SHowing off about it probably makes you less mature, actually. And who cares if you don't go giggly at the word kiss? Most people don't, unless all the people you know are immature brats. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Semjaza Posted September 15, 2003 Share Posted September 15, 2003 I don't know how mature I am on average, or who here would think I'm mature or immature. All I know is that I act mature when I need to or should. I think part of maturity is knowing the difference between situations where you can act immature or situations where you can act mature (whatever it is you feel fits into these categories is up to you, I guess). I find a lot of people just cannot differentiate between the two. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Queen Asuka Posted September 15, 2003 Share Posted September 15, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by lea2385 [/i] [B]well, i am not to sure of that... i know somone who has been taking care of their younger (5 of them) since they were 10. they only have one parent, and i think they are pretty mature (they are mellow when people argue with them, stuff like that) but, from what i get, they dont like themselves....they have really low self esteem so, that means they are immature? [/B][/QUOTE] [color=hotpink][size=1]It means there are different levels of maturity. And just because someone can handle responsibility doesn't exactly make them mature or no. It just depends on how you look at it. And just because she is MELLOW doesn't make her mature. Which leads me to another point....:[/color][/size] [quote][i]Originally posted by SailorStar[/i] [b]Actually, yes, there is. I am. I mean. I dont go all giggly when i hear the word kiss. i mean, really. some boy who is my best firned ever, told me he likes me. guess what i said. cool. adn i like him back. he desnt want to go out, becuase he's afraid to get his feelings hurt. the last girl he went out with, he was with for a while, then she moved, and they broke up. i mean. im giggly when it comes to boys, but when its otehrs that need help, im probably the clamest person you will find. im dofferent from a lot of teens. i eat maybe, maybe one meal a day, then im not hungry for the rest of the day.[/b][/quote] [color=hotpink][size=1]Just because someone gets giggly or happy over something, they are automatically immature?! Let me tell you something, I love to call my mother MOMMY, I have thing for fluffy stuffed animals, and hey, I get giggly when I think about kissing my boyfriend. I'm 18 freaking years old. Does that mean I'm immature? Seriously... Yes, you can be there for someone, and maybe you are mature for your age, but I think you still have a lot of growing up to do. And eat. For Christ's sake, that is not healthy.[/color][/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adahn Posted September 15, 2003 Author Share Posted September 15, 2003 I've had a little more time to think, and perhaps maturity has more to do with distinguishing between what is important, and what is not, rather than parental instincts showing their face. I believe if someone could put things into perspective in their daily lives, and act accordingly, then they are mature. Everyone makes mistakes, even the oldest in any society, but they have learned, from experience, what truly matters. I was wondering if he have anyone rather aged on these boards, and it would be interesting to know their opinions on the matter. So far it's been people in their teens (including me), and the words of someone perhaps in their late 20's or early 30's would be able to draw from their life experiences and enlighten us. *Note*-If you are of such an age, and you have posted, I'm sorry for not noticing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heaven's Cloud Posted September 15, 2003 Share Posted September 15, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Semjaza Azazel [/i] [B] All I know is that I act mature when I need to or should. I think part of maturity is knowing the difference between situations where you can act immature or situations where you can act mature (whatever it is you feel fits into these categories is up to you, I guess). I find a lot of people just cannot differentiate between the two. [/B][/QUOTE] [color=indigo]Bingo. I think that too many people feel that they are mature because they don't find burp and fart jokes funny anymore. Maturity comes with experience and time, and there are different branches of maturity that you have to deal with throughout life. There are levels of maturity when it comes to raising children, dealing with relationships, dealing with money ect...I think that you can definatly be mature in one aspect but not another...[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Osmosis Posted September 15, 2003 Share Posted September 15, 2003 In my experience and observation, a large part of emotional maturity is the acceptance of situations and circumstances even when they're not going "your" way. For instance, some people I know just MUST have everything around them exactly according to their own desires and will- if anything isn't going their way, they make a big racket and fuss over it. On the other hand, other people I know don't get so worked up just because they don't get what they want- sometimes it's impossible to get what you want, or other times your own desires need to be subordinate to the greater need or good. I think maturity comes hand-in-hand with the realization and acceptance that there's more to life and the world than just the [I]I[/I] ; I want, or I need, or I should get whatever. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Magnum Apex Posted September 16, 2003 Share Posted September 16, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Semjaza Azazel [/i] [B]All I know is that I act mature when I need to or should. I think part of maturity is knowing the difference between situations where you can act immature or situations where you can act mature (whatever it is you feel fits into these categories is up to you, I guess).[/B][/QUOTE] [font=trebuchet ms][color=darkblue]Heh, I was about to slam that comment to the wall, but the parenthesis bit fixed it for you. [img]http://www.rajahwwf.com/forum/images/smilies/smile.gif[/img] Though, would you consider a person immature if they act in a way that doesn't fit [I]your[/I] idea of mature under a specific situation?[/color][/font] [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Adahn [/i] [B]I've had a little more time to think, and perhaps maturity has more to do with distinguishing between what is important, and what is not, rather than parental instincts showing their face. I believe if someone could put things into perspective in their daily lives, and act accordingly, then they are mature. Everyone makes mistakes, even the oldest in any society, but they have learned, from experience, what truly matters. I was wondering if he have anyone rather aged on these boards, and it would be interesting to know their opinions on the matter. So far it's been people in their teens (including me), and the words of someone perhaps in their late 20's or early 30's would be able to draw from their life experiences and enlighten us. *Note*-If you are of such an age, and you have posted, I'm sorry for not noticing. [/B][/QUOTE] [font=trebuchet ms][color=darkblue]Believe me, there are 60-year-old people who are as immature as a baby. Seriously, there are as many immature gown ups as there are young ones. We have adults that commit murder, steal, and lie for their personal gains... those show no signs of maturity. We have women who're constantly abused by their husbands, or kids by their parents. I've found out age is a very minor factor in figuring out someone's emotional maturity when said person is unable to learn from experience, or unable to even accept them and admit they were wrong. Then again, right and wrong are very subjective terms, though there's a limit to everything.[/color][/font] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emme888 Posted September 16, 2003 Share Posted September 16, 2003 Im 15 and I often hang out with people who are in their 20's and 30's and beyond. Many of them say, that they do not refer as a teen but more as a peer. I find it odd, I am only said to look my age due to the braces; without them many people say I look 17 or 18. So I guess I don't look my age or act it. I figure it a good thing, I suppose.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Skyechild91 Posted September 16, 2003 Share Posted September 16, 2003 Emotional maturity is different for different people. Some dont mature emotionally till their 18, and some do early (like me). If you can stay calm in any situation, i guess you can be considered mature. It all depends on the person. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Magnum Apex Posted September 16, 2003 Share Posted September 16, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by SailorStar [/i] [B]If you can stay calm in any situation, i guess you can be considered mature.[/B][/QUOTE] [font=trebuchet ms][color=darkblue]I still don't get that. How come acting calm in any situation is a sign of maturity? People who don't care about their lives and want to die would act calm under any situation, like being under a falling chunk of debris or inside a burning house. Are those people mature? o_O[/color][/font] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DeathKnight Posted September 16, 2003 Share Posted September 16, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Cyke [/i] [B][font=trebuchet ms][color=darkblue]I still don't get that. How come acting calm in any situation is a sign of maturity? People who don't care about their lives and want to die would act calm under any situation, like being under a falling chunk of debris or inside a burning house. Are those people mature? o_O[/color][/font] [/B][/QUOTE] [color=crimson]Maybe not to that degree. I think that if you can remain calm when it is in reason- in the midst of family difficulties, or arguements with close friends. But there is a difference between lack of emotion and maturity, heh. If you are trapped under a chunk of debries in a burning house, you might want to remain somewhat clear of mind so you can think- but still remember that there is an urgent situation that could go critical around you in a moment. So there is certain ranges that you have to stay in to remain being "mature", which makes it all the more debateable.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BabyGirl Posted September 16, 2003 Share Posted September 16, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Heaven's Cloud [/i] [B][color=indigo]There are levels of maturity when it comes to raising children, dealing with relationships, dealing with money...[/color] [/B][/QUOTE] [color=deeppink]...being involved in a serious relationship. I've totally grown up over the past year with my boyfriend because I've noticed stupid, immature things that I do around him [like overreacting and whining] that he really hates. And it's been good for me, I've come to notice a lot of things I did before really DO affect people that I love. Erik just had the balls to point all of those flaws out to me, and I love it ^_^ [/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest BoneBladed Falx Posted September 16, 2003 Share Posted September 16, 2003 A short rant from my perspective, hardly exhaustive though. I believe emotional maturity has much to do with relationships. By this I mean a persons various interactions with others-- not necessarily romantic relationships though. Emotional maturity also does not necessarily pertain to property, nor any other such issues (there are exceptions of course). An emotionally mature person accepts responsibility for his/her actions; that person doesn't blame others for past shortcomings. If you get a bad grade, it is likely you failed to study, or something else along those lines. Blaming the teacher exemplifies immaturity. That person puts forth his own time for your good; his/her own time. (Yes there are bad teachers, but most are trying to help.) You should show this person your respect. Also in such circumstances, the mature person [I] learns[/I] from those mistakes and moves on. Instead of lingering in the past event, they move on and improve. Therefore maturity is an ongoing manifest. In this instance you are accepting that you were wrong, and by moving on, plan to rectify the problem. Another mark of maturity is realizing that treating others with respect is important. Making fun of people and hurting them emotionally is wrong. In doing so, you imply that you are better than the person you attacked. Also, if you are the reciever of this (has happened to me in the past), understanding that returning the act is no better, is vital. Respect for others is as crucial as respect for self. You can not truthfully have one without the other. Supressing emotion and desire is not maturity. Ignoring emotion and desire leads to envy, spite and anger. Anger leads to terrible things... namely violence -- against both people and property. Responsibilty (accountibilty) and respect are what maturity is based on. Relationships, romantic or otherwise do not occur without respect. And without responsibility, we fall into circular arguments of circumstance. But it is paramount that one thing be made clear, all people make mistakes. Yet if you learn from them and try to prevent a second occurence, you are learning and *gasp* maturing. :babble: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Delaz Posted September 18, 2003 Share Posted September 18, 2003 im 16 and emotionally mature and people run to me to, but im not your average person. people say im crazy and shoud seriously think about going to an institution Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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