KKC Posted October 4, 2003 Share Posted October 4, 2003 Well, believe it or not... I never thought I would be asking for help at OB, but I really need it. There is this 8th grader who I have known since July. I met him in Marching band and we both became pretty good friends. He helped me alot and always talked to me. Around when school started a rumor went around that he liked me/ I liked him and it got out of hand. He hasn't made much contact with me in about 1 and a half months. So, I'v been trying to get him to talk to me again and get some answers from him, but he's really hard to figure out. On a Marching message board I asked him why he never talked to me and why he acted as if he hated me. This was his responce (yeah, i know, he's a lowsy typest and would never make it here at OB): I DON'T KNOW HMMM.. REALLY HAS NOT CAUGHT ME WETHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT NOT MY FAULT DON'T KNOW WHY MAYBE WHEN I AM BORED AND WANT TO TALK TO SOMEBODY YOU ARE NEVER THERE I DON'T KNOW I SORRY THAT I AM NOT PERFECT LIKE SOME PEOPLE OW WELL EVERY BODY TELLS ME I DON'T TALK TO THEM ANY MORE AND WHEN I SAY THINGS I AM JUST JOKING TO HAVE FUN I HAVEN'T TALKED TO ANY BODY LATLY I HAVE MAJOR MENTAL PROBLEMS RIGHT KNOW CAUSING ME TO HAVE BREAK DOWN AND MAKE WANT TO KILL MY SELF I HATE THE WORLD IT'S AGAIST ME EVERYDAY AND I CAN'T TAKE MUCH MORE CRAP SORRY BUT SOME DAYS I FEAR MY SELF AND FEEL I WANT TO DIE NOTHING GOES MY WAY ANY MORE AND MY BROTHERS MAKE IT WORTH EVERY ONE TAKES EVERY THING PERSONAL NO MORE JOKES TO PEOPLE ANY MORE IT'S ALL SEROIUS STUFF LIFE SUCKS FOR ME RIGHT NOW YOU CAN ASK KEVIN I HAVE LOTS OF PROBLEMS SORRY I AM NOT PERFECT MAYBE I WILL NOT TALK ON THIS WEBSITE ANYMORE GOOD BYE! SORRY I MAKE YOU AND PERCILLA HATE ME I JUST WILL BE QUIET SORRY TO Make evryone in the pit feel bad i know you all hate me tish and everyone maybe i should just quit GOOD BYE! When I saw this it scared the **** out of me. (For those of you who have heard me talk of him in chat rooms, this is Adam L.) It just so happens that he posted it this morning and I never saw it. This afternoon our instructor, him, myself, and my other friend all had a talk about how we get along. I asked him again why he never talked to me and he asked if I saw the post. I hadn't and he said he had alot of things happening to him. Our instructor asked if he wanted to talk about, but he didn't. Now that i'v seen what he's wrote im really worried. I printed it out and im going to show the director tomarrow, but im afraid if he found out i showed the director then he would get mad at me. I really want to help him, but I have no idea how I could help him. If anyone has any advice what so ever on this... PLEASE tell me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Corey Posted October 4, 2003 Share Posted October 4, 2003 Well first off, I couldn't make much sence of that capitalized atrocity. Second, I'd confront him. It really won't make complete sence untill you two sit down and talk about it. Get back to me after that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ryoko T.D.C. Posted October 4, 2003 Share Posted October 4, 2003 Thats nothing. I told a guy once that I liked him, and he didn't talkto me forrrrrrr...........lets see............9 months.But he JUST NOW started talking to me. But back to you. Grab him by the arm one day and take him somewhere no one can hear you and ask him why he dosn't talk to you. If he doesn't say, FORCE IT OUT! No, take it easy with him and just say he can trust you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KKC Posted October 4, 2003 Author Share Posted October 4, 2003 well, im not really asking how to get him to talk to me, I just don't really know what to do about what he posted.... about killing himself and everything... And like I said about the caps and no periods, ect. He would never make it on OB. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ares Posted October 4, 2003 Share Posted October 4, 2003 Yeah, I couldn't make much sense of it either. Just go up to him and tell him something he'd like to hear and act as if you like him. Just don't act bossy! Have fun! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vash's girl Posted October 4, 2003 Share Posted October 4, 2003 I think the best thing you could do right now is show him you care about him. If you print out the paper, then you'de make the decision -his life (maybe if he gets help) or his friendship. Because in the long run, if you can get him help and save his life, he should be gratefull. But if you don't want to tell anyone, just make sure he knows you're there for him and be very kind, I would act as if nothing happened. Or he could be just a jerk who wants to pretend they have problems when in reality there's nothing wrong. You may wanna check up with his friends to find out how serious this is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gentle Posted October 4, 2003 Share Posted October 4, 2003 Go up to him and ask him if what he said is true. If it is then ask him if he wants to talk about it and try to help him out a little bit. If he really values you as a friend, he wouldn't be scared to tell you what's going on with him and if he wants your help with it or not. And while your at it maybe give him a few lessons on grammar and typing. Anyway, just sit down and talk to him for a few minutes and try to help him straighten everything out. Nothing should be so complicated that one person can not handle. With the help of a friend, everything is possible. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
craig8429 Posted October 4, 2003 Share Posted October 4, 2003 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by K.K.C. [/i] [B]Well, believe it or not... I never thought I would be asking for help at OB, but I really need it. There is this 8th grader who I have known since July. I met him in Marching band and we both became pretty good friends. He helped me alot and always talked to me. Around when school started a rumor went around that he liked me/ I liked him and it got out of hand. He hasn't made much contact with me in about 1 and a half months. So, I'v been trying to get him to talk to me again and get some answers from him, but he's really hard to figure out. On a Marching message board I asked him why he never talked to me and why he acted as if he hated me. This was his responce (yeah, i know, he's a lowsy typest and would never make it here at OB): I DON'T KNOW HMMM.. REALLY HAS NOT CAUGHT ME WETHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT NOT MY FAULT DON'T KNOW WHY MAYBE WHEN I AM BORED AND WANT TO TALK TO SOMEBODY YOU ARE NEVER THERE I DON'T KNOW I SORRY THAT I AM NOT PERFECT LIKE SOME PEOPLE OW WELL EVERY BODY TELLS ME I DON'T TALK TO THEM ANY MORE AND WHEN I SAY THINGS I AM JUST JOKING TO HAVE FUN I HAVEN'T TALKED TO ANY BODY LATLY I HAVE MAJOR MENTAL PROBLEMS RIGHT KNOW CAUSING ME TO HAVE BREAK DOWN AND MAKE WANT TO KILL MY SELF I HATE THE WORLD IT'S AGAIST ME EVERYDAY AND I CAN'T TAKE MUCH MORE CRAP SORRY BUT SOME DAYS I FEAR MY SELF AND FEEL I WANT TO DIE NOTHING GOES MY WAY ANY MORE AND MY BROTHERS MAKE IT WORTH EVERY ONE TAKES EVERY THING PERSONAL NO MORE JOKES TO PEOPLE ANY MORE IT'S ALL SEROIUS STUFF LIFE SUCKS FOR ME RIGHT NOW YOU CAN ASK KEVIN I HAVE LOTS OF PROBLEMS SORRY I AM NOT PERFECT MAYBE I WILL NOT TALK ON THIS WEBSITE ANYMORE GOOD BYE! SORRY I MAKE YOU AND PERCILLA HATE ME I JUST WILL BE QUIET SORRY TO Make evryone in the pit feel bad i know you all hate me tish and everyone maybe i should just quit GOOD BYE! When I saw this it scared the **** out of me. (For those of you who have heard me talk of him in chat rooms, this is Adam L.) It just so happens that he posted it this morning and I never saw it. This afternoon our instructor, him, myself, and my other friend all had a talk about how we get along. I asked him again why he never talked to me and he asked if I saw the post. I hadn't and he said he had alot of things happening to him. Our instructor asked if he wanted to talk about, but he didn't. Now that i'v seen what he's wrote im really worried. I printed it out and im going to show the director tomarrow, but im afraid if he found out i showed the director then he would get mad at me. I really want to help him, but I have no idea how I could help him. If anyone has any advice what so ever on this... PLEASE tell me. [/B][/QUOTE] personally after reading what he wrote I think he is being a drama queen. If he was actually going to commite suicide I think he wouldn't have told you it's more a plea of attention in my view. I bet he likes you and wants to talk to you but, he is acting immature thinking you don't feel the same way. Suggestion Call his house talk to him. Talking to a person is a two way system 1 can't hold the conversation with out another. and if he really does have problems talk to him about them make him feel better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dagger Posted October 5, 2003 Share Posted October 5, 2003 His life is more important than anything else. I think you should definitely tell an adult, and ask him/her not to say who informed him/her. If he's serious about killing himself, then you may end up saving his life. If he's not, he clearly has other problems that need to be addressed. Even if he does find out that you told someone, and becomes angry at you.... well, at least he wouldn't have the chance to hurt himself. If he does injure himself--or, heaven forbid--commits suicide, you don't want to have to feel guilty about that. ~Dagger~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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