NeoNabishen Posted November 5, 2003 Share Posted November 5, 2003 I?m in a relationship with this really hot extremely talented girl that I think I?m falling in love with "but don?t tell her that" Anyway Were FB?s "Friends with benefits" I?m going to ask her to be my girlfriend next week. Don?t see the problem well hear it is She had to leave school because something happened to a family friend and since I?m not really her Boyfriend I don?t know what to do. So far we have both just been using each other for our own physical needs. So what do I do know that something emotional has come up. "Help" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heaven's Cloud Posted November 5, 2003 Share Posted November 5, 2003 [color=indigo]Well, if she is the same age as you are (17) then she probably already has some sort of an emotional attachment to you. I actually wouldn?t be surprised if she considers you her boyfriend, but that is just my guess with you two being the age you are. As far as relationships go, I am not the best person to be giving advice. I would think that you should probably try asking her if she would consider dating you seriously/exclusively?even if she says no, at least you will never have to regret not asking.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Kurayami Karasu Posted November 5, 2003 Share Posted November 5, 2003 If it's a temporary leave, here's what you do when she comes back. First, ask her about the friend and if he/she is okay. (be careful that it doesn't seem like you're prying...) If the friend's okay, act happy (even if you're not) and spit it out while she's in a good mood. If the friend isn't okay, act sorry (even if you're not) and wait 'till a better time. If she's leavin' for good, just make up some romantic crap for her and hope you meet her again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PiroMunkie Posted November 5, 2003 Share Posted November 5, 2003 [size=1]First off, I shall start by stating that, in my opinion, "friends with benefits" is crap. It is one thing to be in a relationship-like state with someone but not technically be dating for whatever [i]valid[/i] reason (as in, he/she is still trying to get over another guy/girl, or something), but the whole "So far we have both just been [b]using[/b] each other for our own physical needs." ... I cannot tell you how much that disgusts me. It is like being an exclusive whore without any cash payment. *shakes an angry fist* However, these are just my own ethics, but I felt the need to state that anyway. Secondly, I am inclined to agree with HC. It seems as though you two are already fairly into each other, and there seems to be no reasoning as to why you should not try and take it a step further. The worst she can do is say "No". A kick in the face now is better than a thousand kicks later for not trying at all. Go for it, and good luck to you.[/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChibiHorsewoman Posted November 5, 2003 Share Posted November 5, 2003 Well, I've never especially been fond of the friends with benifits policy myself, but hey who am I to judge? As for the whole asking her to be your girlfriend, I don't know if that's such a good idea now since she's getting ready to leave do to a family crisis. Trust me, it's NOT the best time to ask something like that. She's More than likely under a lot of stress right now, I bet so what she probably needs right now is just for you to be there for her. You should try that before asking her to be your girlfriend. Of course, in my humble opinion, you should've asked that prior to becoming FWB. Final thought, let your head and your heart have a little discussion and try to feel her out before making the not so big step towards esclusiveness. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
noodleboy Posted November 5, 2003 Share Posted November 5, 2003 hmmmm... I say you should ask her out, for she may need that personal lover to be their in which a friend with benefits can never be. though these types of relashionships are always screwed. It's a good thingyou asking her out. I bet she already has feelings for you. So either way you will be fine, i just hope she will. But that's just a guys opinion:D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Isus Posted November 6, 2003 Share Posted November 6, 2003 take a girls opinion, if you really like her, and you believe she really likes you then go for it, if you dont think she really likes you, try and you just may succeed, but thats just my opinion.....*******why cant i take my own advice*******..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest .h4ck Posted November 7, 2003 Share Posted November 7, 2003 the wisest of people dont take their own recommendation or advice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Morpheus Posted November 11, 2003 Share Posted November 11, 2003 I wouldn't ask her unless you are sure she will say yes. As mentioned before, added stress won't help. You may want to go the "I'll be here if you need anything" route. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Azure_Skies Posted November 12, 2003 Share Posted November 12, 2003 Well if I were her, I would want someone to ask me about things and confort me while I was down. I needed support when one of my best buddies and A boy I liked in my class helped me with it. I suggest you talk to her about it and eventually just hug her and I bet she'll just fall for you and huggle back, unless she is to suprised or hates you. make sure she's confortable. Note: Don't do it in front of classmates! A gift from the clouds /\Azure_Skies/\ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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