wiccansamurai Posted November 10, 2003 Author Share Posted November 10, 2003 :) thanx anyway. I'll probably end up doing something stupid at jazz band... Anyway, I even think I have a teacher on my side. She overheard me and Justin talking (and laughing) about it. I hope this all sorts itself out so I never really have to talk to him. I was so close to slapping him in the hallway today, nevermind that my archnemesis (I've always wanted to use that word) Rachel was walking down the hall. Or maybe because she was there, to show here how much stronger I had gotten since I stopped being held onto friendship with her. Her mom made me... don't ask, its a long, unrelated story. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mitch Posted November 11, 2003 Share Posted November 11, 2003 [size=1] Slapping him isn't really going to help lol. Then he'll get physical on you as well. Ah well. At least you've told someone.[/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wiccansamurai Posted November 11, 2003 Author Share Posted November 11, 2003 Yeah. Anyway, at jazz band, I was walking down the auditorium and the hallway was empty. The I saw him heading towards the band room. I was so scared, I didn't want to be anywhere near him alone, so I turned around and bolted. He didn't really seem confused so maybe he knows why I was scared, but neither did he seem to care all that much. I just darted into the instrument locker room and waited until he was on the other side of the room to run back to the auditorium. Even though I laughed about it with my friends, I guess I still really am really scared. Maybe I'm just weak like that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dagger Posted November 11, 2003 Share Posted November 11, 2003 I cannot emphasize enough how normal your actions and behavior have been thus far. You're no weaker than the next person. This proves nothing negative about your character, and you have the right to be frightened of him. Feeling scared is neither fun nor enjoyable, but by encouraging you to go out of your way to avoid him, it [i]has[/i] had at least one good result. ~Dagger~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wiccansamurai Posted November 12, 2003 Author Share Posted November 12, 2003 It just really stinks that I sit all through jazz band with an adrenaline buzz because I really like jazz band. The music is fun and I'd rather want to concentrate on it more than the fact Sean is sitting directly behind me. At least this time he knew I would of slapped him if so much as his trombone came anywhere near me. He's only lucky his senior section leader, my older brother hasn't heard about this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rockstar Haruko Posted November 13, 2003 Share Posted November 13, 2003 No, you're not making a big deal out of it. Something similar to your situation happened to me. He was supposed to be my friend and going out with my best friend (that was the way it was for along time until he changed), but he proved false. He was always trying to touch me (itchy fingers!). I found it very annoying and I just tried to avoid being around him too much. He really messed up our friendship and since he and my friend had broken up, I never told her. I'm not telling you to stop being friends with him, but tell him how you feel. Tell him straight out what the deal is. He has to respect you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wiccansamurai Posted November 13, 2003 Author Share Posted November 13, 2003 I'm not going to be friends with him anymore. There's just too many creepy cases of things he's done to me and others. In the end, its just too much to deal with. I'm fine with guys with lewd jokes and all, but if they take it any farther than joking around, I'm tired of putting up with it. Guys can be stupid, I know, but I don't care, if they do anything I don't want them to, I'm going to be viscous (as soon as I gather the couage to tell someone about it, that is, lol) I'm going to ignore him at jazz band tomorrow.... no running away this time, walk straight by. Yeah right. I never have any confidence. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChibiHorsewoman Posted November 13, 2003 Share Posted November 13, 2003 *High fives Wiccan Samurai* I'm glad you told someone and got if off your chest in an IRL POV. Also, I;'m glad that it seemed we could all help in anyway possible. I wouldn't go after the dude tho, he still seems like someone who has Pez for brains. Also, I'm sad to say Crimson Spider is right. My mother-in-law went thru 3 abusive relationships. 1 with my brother-in-law's father 1 with my husband's father and one with my husband's step-dad. None of them are in the picture anymore, but its kinda crappy to know that women are more likely to get assulted by an acquintance then a stranger so you should definately learn to defend yourself. Sincerly, Chibi Horsewoman Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wiccansamurai Posted November 17, 2003 Author Share Posted November 17, 2003 I plan to employ bodygaurds (a.k.a., my brothers or friends) at tomorrow nights football game the band has to go to. I wish they would just lose and get this over with, I'm tired of spending every Friday night at school. Oh well. He sent his girlfriend a note saying he never did any of this to me, blah, blah, blah, but no one believes him. He did creepy stuff to a lot of girls, and when I told his ex about what happened, all she said was "You're lucky, I had to spend all of U of I with him." and shuddered. Update: *drools in confusion* His now-ex-girlfriend s depressed because he's made at her for breaking up with him, I don't understand why this makes her sad, and I don't have any body gaurds for tonight. I guess it doesn't matter, he hates me now and doesn't talk to me! :) update2: *drools* can I go crazy now? So anyway, I get to band... And there I was! (sorry, couldnt resist the inside joke.... youd have to be in my band to understand) So I'm putting my uniform on over my normal clothes and Sean was talking to all my friends. He looks at me and asks "Are you mad at me?" And I just look at him in disbelief. "Yeah." Was all I said and turned away. I don't even want to talk to him, but I know i should. And all these different emotions keep washing over me. My anger at him, how much fun we had joking around, my fear on the bus, us playing michigan state walking back to the bus all the time. I miss him but I don't want anything to do with him, either. Not that anyone is even reading this anymore! :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rockstar Haruko Posted November 17, 2003 Share Posted November 17, 2003 I'm reading this. He must have been a really close friend. Was he? I don't know what else to say except that he has to understand all the problems that he's caused (not that any boy would understand in this situation). He probably thinks it was a little thing, that you were just another girl to mess with. That's why you've got to tell him how you feel and maybe then he'll get the picture and you guys can become friends again. Or maybe you don't want to because he's messed with all these other girls (I just remembered you said that. Didn't you?). Either way, if you tell him the problem you're having with him then maybe he'll try to change his ways or something. This coming from the biggest chicken...:sweat: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wiccansamurai Posted November 17, 2003 Author Share Posted November 17, 2003 You can't be the biggest chicken, I am! I gave him a note containing my feelings about what he did, with minimal swearing. (In other words, only about three bad words per sentence :)) I should of given it to him at some point when I didn't have to see him later that day. I have jazz band tonight.... and tomorrow, and the day after that. Band sure is a commitment. Oh well, if things go wrong, the next two away things are optional. I don't like the bus rides anymore. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ryu_Sakura Posted November 18, 2003 Share Posted November 18, 2003 i understand your situation. i was sleeping on the bus when (sopposadly (SP?)) i fell onto a friend of mine (a guy). then i woke up and he i have to admit is pervey, so he started touching me *nudge* up near my neck, but i didnt move because he he was soft, (big soft sweat shirt) and i was teird. then i relized what he was doing and panicked. i fell asleep agian, and i dont remember the rest, exept my other friend (a girl) told me he was playing with my hair the rest of the ride. so ever since then i've avoded him, but hes wrote me letters and made calls asking why, i dont know why, he just makes me feel akward. but i miss him! he was the ONLY guy i could talk to, and i have to admit, when hes wasnt being pervey, has was nice. you see, my least fav emotion is uncertenty, so if i'm confused and unconforable. and i personaly think he was fingering my silver and glass necklace. but i dont know... and my opion if you like him, be his friend if he pulls a move on you and you dont like it, tell him to stop, and if after a couple stops he doesnt stop consider him about being your friend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wiccansamurai Posted November 18, 2003 Author Share Posted November 18, 2003 I don't like him anymore. Did I mention he came to school today drunk? I don't want friends like that. I'm sure some of you drink, but I've never started the habit and I don't plan to. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rockstar Haruko Posted November 18, 2003 Share Posted November 18, 2003 He drinks too???!!!! Oh, no. I wouldn't be friends with him either. That just makes the problem worse. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wiccansamurai Posted November 22, 2003 Author Share Posted November 22, 2003 The really stupid thing about how I feel, is that I want to know his story. I know he's probably just a stupid pervert, but I want to hear his side. But he's not going to tell me. I just want to understand why he did this.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
immortALdeath Posted November 22, 2003 Share Posted November 22, 2003 I think you're overreacting. I mean he only put his hands on your breasts, if it made you uncomfortable then remove his hands, but don't hate him for it. Maybe it's just different with me and my friends...you just pretend you're hugging them and put your hands to your/their chest the the last moment (I was a tromboner can't ya tell?), but i get away with it because chix either think, I'm really cute, or gay. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wiccansamurai Posted November 23, 2003 Author Share Posted November 23, 2003 I'm not like that. I don't want attention from guys like that. He knew that, I don't know what he was thinking. He didn't think I'd tell anyone though. And it was more than that... he was just being all around creepy. Playing around, like him slapping my arse, was fine in moderation, though it still made me mad and I told him multiple times to stop, he kept doing stuff like that. I didn't think he'd try to do anything farther. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
immortALdeath Posted November 23, 2003 Share Posted November 23, 2003 Hmm, fair enough, it obviously offends you, I hope he gets whats coming to him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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