relationships?

[Emme888]

I know there are alot of relationship threads. But I have a problem too. I also want to know what happened to the relationship advice thread? Where did it go? I tired lookin for it, but i couldn't find it on any of the past pages.

Alright here's my problem to deal with.

I have a major crush on this guy who is goregously hot, and he is super nice, and way interesting. Anyways, he's just an awesome person. But the downfall is that he is a major flirt. He use to flirt with me alot, ( also alot of other people too) and I told he that I liked him.

He told me that He didn't like me and that I was too young for him, or something along those lines. Even though im only a year younger than him, and he's dated people my age and younger.

And were still way good friends and all but after i told him how i was feelin, I stopped flirting with him and stuff. And he also stopped, this lasted a whole 1 week and 1/2 than I started liking him again.

I tried to tell myself to get over him, but he's just a great person.
And the thing is that he always mentions that he once fell in love, but the girl crushed him, and how he now has a new crush, but doesn't know what it could be...and stuff.

And I know for sure that he doesn't like me. But I can't help but wanting to like him. I know I'm setting myself up for a heavy heart, but I can't help it. And I dunno what to do. I would just like to find someone that I can want more than him. And whenever I do, they just never match up to him. So by comparing him to them, I totally am obvious to any flirting or anything like that.

I can't help but to think that these stupid emotions are getting in the way, and it hurts.... help me, save me, I just want to end the heart ache.

[Zanarkand Abes]

Well, I don't mean to sound harsh or anything, but the only advice I can think of is to just get over him. There really isn't anything you can do to force him to like you, but you might be able to wait and he might come around to liking you, bu t in the meantime, you will have to find a way to get over him and all.

[Artemis]

First, Emme888, I love your banner and avi!!
Ok, now that I've gotten that out of my system, let me tell ya that I know what you're going through. I'm battling w/ myself right now b/c I like a guy(Matt) who I've been friends with for a long time. We're seniors now, and we almost got together sophomore year, but I got burned instead (and ended up w/ a different guy(Adam) for nearly a year). Matt is an outrageous flirt, but, all-in-all, a good guy. However, he's gotten a big head b/c so many girls like him. I've realized that he's honestly a shallow person. He's actually said that girls are only beautiful when they wear make-up and have their hair down. I've found that it's never safe to place your feelings in a "ladies' man". (Unfortunately, those are the type I'm immediately attracted to.) :rolleyes:
The best thing I can say is try to move on. (I know, easier said than done. Sometimes I wonder if I'm really over a break-up--my very first--which happened nearly a year ago.) Trying to develop a crush on another guy will NOT help. (believe me, I've tried...) Instead, try to focus on enjoying your singlehood. Hang out with friends and try not to let yourself get caught up in the mentality that you must have a boyfriend. It's not really healthy. (I have a friend like that.) There will be bad days when you can't help the feelings that come over you. Just keep reminding yourself that it wasn't meant to be.
I don't think I can advise you much more. PM if you have any questions or concerns.
Trying to Help "Dear Artemis" lol
BTW, has anyone noticed how pathetic "Dear Abbey" is these days? It's her daughter now. She chooses the most obvious letters and gives two to three sentence answers. :rolleyes:

[Charlie Levoy]

Well Emme to answer your question about the Relationship Advice Thread. It got closed unfortunately so if you ever need to talk to someone or ask advice you can ask either me, Burori (Brolli), Stardust, Animangademon, or Valen.

Anyway to help you with your problem. The only thing I you really can do is to get over the guy. I know not much help, but unless he starts likeing you all of a sudden then you really have no choice.

Try hanging out with your friends like Artemis said. I find that just talking to my friends always helps. I even talk to my mom and hang out with her.

She helps me out with alot of things so that's something you can try too. The best thing you can do is forget about the guy as best as you can.

I hope this post is helpful cause if it isn't then you can just ignore it.

Oh by the way. I like your Avi and Banner. Sorry for getting off topic.

Charlie Levoy :cool:

[Guest .h4ck]

pick up a hobby like guitar or something and you will soon forget about him, helped me (with a girl that is) and it shold be able to help you

[Fyxe]

[SIZE=1][COLOR=darkblue]I know how it feels Emme, it truly does hurt. But, gah, I tried to drop it but couldn't... doesn't really help. >.< But I kept good friends with him and I am letting life go the way it wants. It didn't really help that he liked me too... but I'm sure he likes another girl, but at the current point she is going out with someone. After awhile though, I started always playing video games when it was on my mind, so I would forget about it while I played. That was my method, just keeep your mind on other things. I'm still waiting for things to unravel, but if we arn't meant to be, then we arn't meant to be... and I can't do much about that. So I hope that helps a bit, if you want to talk about it more, than you can always PM me about it. ^_^[/COLOR][/SIZE]

[Rememberence]

It's hard i know but get over it!(not sounding harsh)
it does hurt alot but forget about it. it's not worth putting you head in the clouds and then digging it in the ground again. The boy is not worth it.
I used to fancy a guy alot and for sure i knew he didn't like me because he only hung out with blonde and pretty girls. it took me alone to figure and get over him. He was hot too. *sigh*

[Amity]

I know how you feel. I couldn't get over him. But now I have. And I've also met somebody too! He's a sweet-heart and I really think he's cool. He has a great sense of humor and I think I'm going to go visit him sometime! I think you know who you are! He's on this board...somewhere, and I just hope he will accept me for me and not just flirt with me...my advise to you is, there are more people out there, get over the one right now if he ignores your feelings. That's what I did. Take it from someone like myself, love is harsh, but there comes better things when you move on...

[Burori]

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Now that the ladies have said there thoughts I believe more males should have their say in this.

My advice is well first of al I find the guy to be nothing more than a player and he is more than interested to only use the girls he goes out with .A guy like him you should do like all the others have said. Forget about this creep. There are so much better guys out there waiting for a girl like you. Remember there is a girl for every guy. And a girl for every girl and A guy for every guy. You know what I mean. Anyways dont care about this guy cause by the looks of it he doesn't care about you. I know exactly what it feels like. You'll get through it I garanty it. ^_^

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[destro53]

Excellently put Burori. This guy is a moron. If guys are flirting with you I'd guess your good looking, and probably a good person. You'll find someone who isn't a total (insert favorite explicitive(s)).

[Valen]

From what I see, you have two choices:

(1) Sit there and dwell on the fact that he's a [beep]ing player and didn't care about any of the people he flirted with just because he could, and probably knew he was hot and that girls like to have hot guys flirting with them, leaving you to be depressed and dwelling on it.

Or, (2) Get over him and move on with life. The sooner you can do this, the sooner you will realize what you had gotten yourself into. With that realization comes new possibilities, new guys. As one of my favorite songs states: "Love will find a way."

With that said, I don't know which you would rather, but I'd choose #2. So you like him, he doesn't like you, big deal. Move on and get over it.

[Amity]

Exactly. By the way Burori, I agree. You shouldn't feel something for him when he feels nothing for you. I think I'm lucky to have found someone. There is a person for a person. You just have to trust that your heart will know when the time is right. When that time comes, you'll know for sure that there is the one you've been waiting for. That will be when you really like the person. There's something else too. Someone told me that, you shouldn't really like a person for their looks, it's their personality. Right Burori?