"What do you do when your reason for breathing isn't there anymore?"-Amanda

[Justin]

A very close friend of mine asked me this question today. She was having trouble breathing and I asked her what was wrong and was she out of breathe. She replied by saying "No, I just can't breathe." So in turn I said "Then that would make you out of breathe." She said "Shut up." After a few minutes of her holding her chest she moved closer to me and motioned for me to move closer to her. I did and she whispered the quote in the subject to me. I immediately knew the problem and all the variables involved but, I had no answer for her. She looked at me as though she knew I wouldn't be able to answer her but was still disapointed as though she wanted me to know. Her boyfriend who she loved dearly left her, again, a couple of days ago. I had known something was very wrong with her for the entire time and I assumed, since they had been having problems for some time, that it was him. But, she had never posed a question like that to me. I answered as best I could, telling her to either find another reason or, if she was religious, to pray. But, I knew as well as she did that the first of the two answers was impossible and the second had been done to death. I was wondering if anyone could succeed where I had failed, and answer her question...

-Justin

[Guest Zeh]

Whoa, Thats deep.... I wonder, everyone has a reason to live. even if it is only a small one. Tell her to find something else to do. Gettin' Dumped by your Girlfriend or Boyfriend isn't the end of the world. She'll have to get over it. Tell her to find something else to do. I dunno.

[Treble]

I'd probaly say you can even find a better guy than the one you just broked up with thats the way life is.

[Guest]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Treble [/i]
[B]I'd probaly say you can even find a better guy than the one you just broked up with thats the way life is. [/B][/QUOTE]

Yea go with the flow and go on with your life.....You need to put your troubles to your past and continue your life.....

[Sui Generis]

Hm..Well does she have children?? If so you can say they are the reason for living. Or you could bring up her hopes dreams and goals.

[Avalon]

[COLOR=blue]First of all, tell your friend that she doesn't need a man to validate her. instead of crying and hoping, she should go on with her life. i understand what she is going through though. i went on with my life and i'm very happier now[/COLOR]

[piccolo]

Tell her that even if she died, her boyfriend won't care about her. May be he feel pity for her, but he won't come back again. Tell her that, she only have one life, and that it is, if she lost it, it's gone. If she want to died, then die with meaning. Join the army, or do some charity work. In the mean, take her to the movies or somewhere for her to relax her mind.

[Sephiroth]

I personally would have turned to religion, being religious means having faith, having faith gives you a reason to carry on breathing....

[Justin]

Clearly she should move on. But, I'm not going to tell her that becuase all of you who said that know as well as I do that, that wouldn't by any means ease her pain. And also: Don't make it out to where her X is the bad guy. They were having problems. It was her fault as much as his it is just she has trouble dealing with it...

-Justin

[RicoTranzrig]

I think she needs comfort and support right now...you could put it that you may be her life saver that she holds on to, to keep her from drowning...I'm treading my own deep waters right now so I know how she might feel. It hasn't happened to me yet and I hope it doesn't...but if it does, I think I'd want to be with someone close just to cry and let my emotions out without feeling ashamed...

[mornigndew]

I'm in this situation before. I'm not the one who want to die, it's my friend. She broke up with her boyfriend, and it's like the end of the world. I'm not much of a comfort. I bring her to the movies, and spend a lot of time talking to her, so she won't feel bore. For awhile, she'll feel better. Right now, she really need your support. Just talke to her, bring her to the movie, dinner, or find something to do to get her mind off all the sad thing. As the time pass, she'll be better.

[Fish]

tell her..

that she should find a better boyfriend and if he really loved her he wouldn't of broke up...

[mornigndew]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Fish [/i]
[B]tell her..

that she should find a better boyfriend and if he really loved her he wouldn't of broke up... [/B][/QUOTE]

hmmm. she's feeling down right now, you don't want to say something like that.

[Fish]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by mornigndew [/i]
[B]

hmmm. she's feeling down right now, you don't want to say something like that. [/B][/QUOTE]

well its the truth

[Guest Mr. Shiny Happy]

hmmmmmm. Yall give such great advise like "put the past behind you" and "move on" I'd like to see how you all wolud cope in the same situation.

[Yoda]

Tell her that the only reason to breathe is to experience life, and your life does not revolve around the life of another. This will be only one let down of many, and each one she will have to face head on.

[mornigndew]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Fish [/i]
[B]

well its the truth [/B][/QUOTE]

The true is cruel. You don't want to do anything to hurt her feeling now.