Epitome Posted January 14, 2004 Share Posted January 14, 2004 [b][color=orangered][size=1]And when I say sex, I mean pretty much any physical activities of sex. Not "making out" but like oral sex, intercorse, etc. I am in a similar situation but I feel that I dont think Im ready for oral sex, or any type of sex for that matter. So my question to you is, when do you, the Otakuboarders, feel is a good age to be involved with these types of situations? Now if this thread is not allowed, please feel free to close it, I was just wondering if I could get some advice on what I should do.[/b][/color][/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SadClown Posted January 14, 2004 Share Posted January 14, 2004 There is no "good age". It's whenever you feel comfortable doing it, and, like you've already said, you don't. So then don't do it. =D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
White Mage Posted January 14, 2004 Share Posted January 14, 2004 [size=1]I just had sex yesterday and im only 14 (witch isnt what I call a good thing, but hey). It was my first time ever too. We just knew we were ready and we had talked about it for the longest time. So when the time came up that we were alone and at my house we just looked at each other and said "Lets have sex." You just know when your ready I guess. Stuff just happens, ya know?[/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
satan665 Posted January 14, 2004 Share Posted January 14, 2004 Being only 14, you might later on think that maybe it wasn't such a great idea, but whats done is done. In general I'd say late high school at the earliest, but its pretty common to have sex earlier. I think I went for it a little to early, I was with a more experienced girl. I think that is kinda common too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kanariya Posted January 15, 2004 Share Posted January 15, 2004 [size=1][color=chocolate]I guess it is exactly your choice. When you want to have sex, it's your choice of having it. I do agree with satan665; being at the age of 14 you might regret it later on in life. Personally, I don't want to have sex until I'm going to college or the last year of high school. Ah well that's just me, and I am in no hurry to have sex at all.[/size][/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wrist cutter Posted January 15, 2004 Share Posted January 15, 2004 Wait until you're forty. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heaven's Cloud Posted January 15, 2004 Share Posted January 15, 2004 [color=indigo]Seventeen is the perfect age to have sex for the first time...sure, you can wait longer if you want I guess, but seventeen is the perfect age. Why? Well that is just a mystery of the magical number seventeen...[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest lavalamp Posted January 15, 2004 Share Posted January 15, 2004 When you're horny. People make such a big deal out of sex when it's really nothing more than an exercise for particular organs. Just play it safe and have fun. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frankie Posted January 15, 2004 Share Posted January 15, 2004 After you are married! *dies laughing* Sorry i have always followed that theory and plan to sick with... Go ahead... call me old fashioned... It was how I was raised! Not that I'll ever get married or anything... Its just my opinion on that. You shouldnt have sex till AFTER you are married. Thats my opinion. ~Flora Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AzureWolf Posted January 15, 2004 Share Posted January 15, 2004 [quote]After you are married! *dies laughing* Sorry i have always followed that theory and plan to sick with... Go ahead... call me old fashioned... It was how I was raised! Not that I'll ever get married or anything... Its just my opinion on that. You shouldnt have sex till AFTER you are married. Thats my opinion.[/quote] I'm with old-fashioned Blanko on this one, and might I add, sex only with your wife. Call me slightly more religious than my generation is, but I, like so many others, have come to this conclusion through careful consideration. As for the organ thing, that's pretty disturbing stuff. I thought sex was for reproduction and the ultimate form of affection, but hey, I'm old-fashioned like that. :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest lavalamp Posted January 15, 2004 Share Posted January 15, 2004 Being gay, I can't reproduce. Food for thought. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DeathBug Posted January 15, 2004 Share Posted January 15, 2004 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by lava lamp [/i] [B]Being gay, I can't reproduce. Food for thought. [/B][/QUOTE] [color=indigo][size=1][font=century]Not really. All it means is that you don't have to consider the possibility that your actions might result in the birth of another human being. (Assuming, of course, that you never have sex with a woman) That's a pretty "duh" statment, but, like I said, it's not exactly a lot to think about. The proper age to have sex is when you can deal with all of the possible consequences, and are ready to take the responsibility that comes with said consequences. This includes the obvious: prequenacies, diseases, and emotional complications. [/color][/size][/font] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest lavalamp Posted January 15, 2004 Share Posted January 15, 2004 Re-analyzing who the reply was directed towards, I'd say yes, it is in fact a lot to think about. As for the predictable, "What about sex being a display of the ultimate affection?": It just so happens I enjoy showing the ultimate affection to a lot of people. How considerate of me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChibiHorsewoman Posted January 15, 2004 Share Posted January 15, 2004 [color=violet]Right after he cooks you dinner at his place and then mentions he has condoms and his roommate is out for the night. *glances around* Well, it worked for a friend of mine!:devil: On a more serious note, when you feel good and ready for it and you're hormones aren't in total control of your brain is definately the best time to do the deed. I honestly don't think fourteen is the best age for such a descision, but I did go out with a guy who claimed to have lost his virginity at 14 so who am i to judge? As for me, I'm being perfectly honest. I wanted to sleep with Lincoln the first time he was over, but we weren't ready. I didn't have sex with him until we got engaged-of course, it was teh night we got engaged and it was going to happen that weekend anyway, but some how it was more meaningful that way. But that was me. I know people who have sex just because they can-which is kind of nerve wracking. A friend of mine has a roommate who meets up with people on chat lines, in chat rooms and in their apartment complex. She brings them home and just sleeps with them. She has a kid at home as well. But hey, you're the only one who knows you're really ready for such things. Just don't do it in the middle of a grocery story parking lot-there's no privacy![/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DeathBug Posted January 15, 2004 Share Posted January 15, 2004 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by lava lamp [/i] [B]As for the predictable, "What about sex being a display of the ultimate affection?": It just so happens I enjoy showing the ultimate affection to a lot of people. How considerate of me. [/B][/QUOTE] [color=indigo][font=century][size=1]So do dogs; what's your point? Sex brings the possibility of a great deal of consequences. Consequences create adversity. Adversity tests character. Character is relative to morals. Not everyone shares the same morals, so not everyone shares the same views about sex. I don't see why the whole issue is complicated; if you have to ask if you're ready for sex, you aren't. Simple. [/color][/size][/font] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Flash Posted January 15, 2004 Share Posted January 15, 2004 They have legal ages for a reason--Two years prior to that is the right age. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChibiHorsewoman Posted January 15, 2004 Share Posted January 15, 2004 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Final Flash [/i] [B]They have legal ages for a reason--Two years prior to that is the right age. [/B][/QUOTE] [color=violet]You mean [i]the age of consent[/i]? That law varies from state to state, or atleast it kind of varies from state to state. In hawaii the age of consent is 14, in other states, like West Virginia the age of consent is around 15 and in New York and some others it's 16 and that's the highest it goes. However, this law just states the age an individual is capable of consenting to sex. This has nothing to do with the individual's mind set. For example, a mentally handicap person could never reasonably have consentual sex. and if someone said they did it would never hold up in court. (We had a trial on that in NY a few years ago.) Age may be a factor, but it's not the only factor. A twelve year old could get propositioned by a hooker-does that mean the twelve year old is ready? I sure hope not. (Don't laugh, I know someone who got propositioned when they were 12...okay laugh, I know you want to.) Just realize, when you have sex you should be aware of mental and physical consequences. You get someone pregnant or you get pregnant, you better be able to take care of the kid or give it up for adoption.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Crimson Spider Posted January 15, 2004 Share Posted January 15, 2004 I say, and always will say: after their married. Not really to strenuous on the age requirement. Even though *without prenumptual agreement* you have to be 18, I say that's a good time. But life begins at 54 you know! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChibiHorsewoman Posted January 15, 2004 Share Posted January 15, 2004 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Crimson Spider [/i] [B]IBut life begins at 54 you know! [/B][/QUOTE] [color=violet]With that in mind, so does menopause and the need for Viagra. Either that, or menopause is at it's peek. Of course with menopause comes the end of ovulation, so you don't have to worry about pregnancy! Which could be a bonus. As for the 18 thing-I should probably look into that because most states wave that. Think about it what teenager is really going to go to mom and dad and ask if it's okay to have sex? Would you do that? Waiting untiol marriage is what most people say, but not many people do that any more. It's not the everybody's doing it myth, it's more of a cultural thing. Of course, more power to you for waiting, if you really do wait![/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Japan Posted January 15, 2004 Share Posted January 15, 2004 I also agree with Blanko. Wait till after you are married. I was raised that way and I prefer to keep that idea in mind whenever I am on a date or whatever. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
White Mage Posted January 15, 2004 Share Posted January 15, 2004 [size=1]Why does everyone make a big deal out of "Sex" I didnt think of it all that big... Its just like doing anything else.[/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Epitome Posted January 15, 2004 Author Share Posted January 15, 2004 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by White Mage [/i] [B][size=1]Why does everyone make a big deal out of "Sex" I didnt think of it all that big... Its just like doing anything else.[/size] [/B][/QUOTE] [size=1]Sex is a HUGE thing for a couple or reasons. (1) Sex can cause someone to become a father/mother, and at your age, I wouldnt want to be one, (2) Sex is supposed to be with someone who you really care about and feel like you have a strong relationship, and (3) Im catholic so, you should only have sex after your married to show that you are truly committed to a person and you will take care of them until death.[/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hybrid Theory Posted January 15, 2004 Share Posted January 15, 2004 I don't see how having sex only after you marry can show that you are truly commited to somebody...because you might wait till your married, have sex and then cheat on the person..so waiting to get married is stupid I think...but if that's how you think then fair enough. And having sex at a young age can't do too much damage...because if you feel that you are ready for that then I reakon it's not really a big problem...but you might not be that happy about it when your older...but in a male's case it wouldn't be so bad. I don't think that sex is showing the ultimate affection...it's something that two people do for pleasure....not to show love or affection. Because once you have had sex for the first time you are probably going to want it again...so you will end up having sex with various people....unless you have a girlfriend or boyfriend...but if you break up you will have sex with others...so I don't think sex is showing affection.... But that's just what I think...everyone has their own views on sex:D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DeathBug Posted January 15, 2004 Share Posted January 15, 2004 [color=indigo][size=1][font=century]My views on sex are two-fold. On the one hand, I personally, as a Christian, think that sex is a deeply emotional connection that should be shared between two people, ideally a person and their spouse. However, I recognize that many people aren't of the same set of morals as I. So, for them, I reinterate my responsibility kick I said earlier. ^__^ [/color][/font][/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
White Mage Posted January 15, 2004 Share Posted January 15, 2004 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Hybrid Theory [/i] [B]I don't think that sex is showing the ultimate affection...it's something that two people do for pleasure....not to show love or affection. Because once you have had sex for the first time you are probably going to want it again...so you will end up having sex with various people....unless you have a girlfriend or boyfriend...but if you break up you will have sex with others...so I don't think sex is showing affection.... But that's just what I think...everyone has their own views on sex:D [/B][/QUOTE] [size=1]It's has plain and simple as that ^.~ Relgion, does it really matter to people that much? Well im done with this thread. Phew.[/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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