White Mage Posted January 15, 2004 Share Posted January 15, 2004 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Charles [/i] [B]White Mage is a perfect example of this attitude. I won't be hypocritical. I realize, just moments ago, I said there's no definitive age for sexual readiness--but there is a general ballpark estimate. A fourteen year old--a child himself who can't possibly seem to fathom why sex is "a big deal" and couldn't be a successful provider for offspring probably shouldn't be having sex. The maturity level just isn't there yet. I'm not saying that to be insulting, but it's true. People should take the time to grow up before they make grown-up decisions that could have grown-up consequences.[/B][/QUOTE] [size=1]Thank you Charles, your right about that.[/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lea Posted January 15, 2004 Share Posted January 15, 2004 [COLOR=blue]In my local newspaper, there was an article about a guy (17) and his girlfriend (16) who were having sex. When the guy turned 18, they were still going out and doing stuff. The girl had gotten pregnant, the hospital told the authorities about them, and now the boyfriend is arrested for sexual assult. Just something to think about...[/COLOR] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Syk3 Posted January 15, 2004 Share Posted January 15, 2004 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by lea2385 [/i] [B][COLOR=blue]In my local newspaper, there was an article about a guy (17) and his girlfriend (16) who were having sex. When the guy turned 18, they were still going out and doing stuff. The girl had gotten pregnant, the hospital told the authorities about them, and now the boyfriend is arrested for sexual assult. Just something to think about...[/COLOR] [/B][/QUOTE] [color=teal]I really don't have anything further to add to this topic, since I completely agree with everything Charles has said, but once you turn 18, isn't there a two year age difference limit if your partner is younger than you? That would mean that it wouldn't be against the law if the 18 and 16 year old had sex, but correct me if I'm wrong, lol.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Queen Asuka Posted January 15, 2004 Share Posted January 15, 2004 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Sephiroth [/i] [B]Well whatever happens, remember one very important thing.... Always wear a condom! Otherwise you will end up with a kid like I did :wigout: [/B][/QUOTE] [color=hotpink][size=1]So does that mean you didn't intend to get your wife pregnant and you got married only AFTER you found out the news? Or what? Just curious. It happens a lot in my family. It's really weird that I stumble upon this thread because it was actually something that I was pondering today. I recall that my first sexual experience was when I was 14. I didn't have sex, but it seems as though my boyfriend at the time was pushing me to that level. The relationship only lasted for about eight months, but I'm glad I got out of it when I did. It wasn't pleasant and it seriously didn't give me pleasure. The next guy I dated after that was the same way and it was horrible. For me personally, I'd say wait until you are at least 17. That number seems to click rather well for me. 14 is just so young...[/color][/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Semjaza Posted January 15, 2004 Share Posted January 15, 2004 I can't say I care. When you're ready, you're ready. Obviously there are certain ages that just shouldn't be doing these things, but if both involved are mature about the situation -- it's usually enough. I'd have to say that most people here should worry about getting a serious partner before they concern themselves over sexual actions. One thing at a time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oukan05 Posted January 16, 2004 Share Posted January 16, 2004 My belief for this topic is this: "Wait until you're married." I'm not being mean or anything, but I think that in a young age for a person having sex is wrong. Think about it. If there was (which could be already) a 13 year old boy and a 12 or 11 year old girl having sex, think of the possibilities of what will happen. In science, generally girls that are either 16 or younger who are pregnant can die in labor. It's too soon for a young girl to have a child at that age. Also, ever heard of AIDS? Out there, there are millions of people with sexual transmitted diseases out there. The problem is, no one knows who's infected and who's not. I'm a religious person; and I believe that sex comes after you're married. I know there are those who've already made their decision in this situation. What they do is their choice; I have no problem with that. I'm just saying that I should what until I'm married; that's my choice. And yes, protect yourself; wear a condom. I definitly agree to that. So, everyone has a choice in life when it comes to going through the next level in relationships. To those, play it safe and protect yourself.:angel: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChibiHorsewoman Posted January 16, 2004 Share Posted January 16, 2004 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by lea2385 [/i] [B][COLOR=blue]In my local newspaper, there was an article about a guy (17) and his girlfriend (16) who were having sex. When the guy turned 18, they were still going out and doing stuff. The girl had gotten pregnant, the hospital told the authorities about them, and now the boyfriend is arrested for sexual assult. Just something to think about...[/COLOR] [/B][/QUOTE] [color=violet]There's this thing called statutory rape which states that if a person 18 or older has sex with a person who's 17 or younger can legally be put in jail. This can happen even if the youger person consented to having sex. Of course, you also have to go and tell someone that the person was 18 or older which is probably why my friend's husband never got arrested. But I think that it can get a bit out of hand like in this case-unless there was more to the story than what you heard. Of course, I also heard that the age is lower for women than it is for men, so maybe there was more to this story. Back to the sex thing tho: Yes, I had sex before marriage, but it was with Lincoln, so technically, I had a ring on my left finger.:love: As for the religious side of pre-marital sex, I'm a religious person too. I belive that sex in the correct mind set can be a good source of positive energy. I don't believe that you have to be married or likewise commited to the person. However, that said I do believe that if you do have sex with another person, you should be willing to accept all the responsibilities that come with having sex. You can't just go around screwing people and expect nothing else to come of it unless it was agreed that you two were just ******* buddies and nothing more. I'm not naming names or pointing fingures, but I know a guy who didn't explain to this woman he was sleeping with that all it was with her was sex. She found out he was going out with some girl and she flipped out, took five hits of acid and started yelling outside his bedroom window. This was in a small arpartment building and he still livied with his mom so this was NOT a good thing. This was something you realy don't want to happen to you. Also, you have to think of all the lovely STDs you can get from unprotected and [i][b]EVEN[/b][/i] protected sex. Yes folks, condoms aren't 100% fool proof. And some of these diseases can leave you infertile if not treated. And we all know that AIDS isn't cureable, so there's some more food for thought. Oh, and Black Syphillus! This is one of those STDs that if you catch it over seas, you can never go back to the states. So for all you enlisted men just stay away from teh drinking girls. Also there's that enchanting stigma you get if you're a woman who sleeps around. Yeah, this is the 21st century, but people are still narrowminded and stupid. My advice, don't listen to the stupid people, but keep your bed buddy list to a minimum. Yeah, it's nobody's business who you showered with that morning, but it's a lot less nervewracking. Final note: Sex is fun, but it's also sticky, messy and a bit smelly. There's responsibilty involved, but if you really want to go thru with the whole ordeal, go ahaead.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheEsca Posted January 16, 2004 Share Posted January 16, 2004 i can anwser this question! Wait until your married, save it for the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. YAY! har har! BTW, sex (when you're married) drugs (whe you're sick) and rock'n'roll (ALL the time) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sephiroth Posted January 16, 2004 Share Posted January 16, 2004 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Queen Asuka [/i] [B][color=hotpink][size=1]So does that mean you didn't intend to get your wife pregnant and you got married only AFTER you found out the news? Or what? Just curious. It happens a lot in my family. It's really weird that I stumble upon this thread because it was actually something that I was pondering today. I recall that my first sexual experience was when I was 14. I didn't have sex, but it seems as though my boyfriend at the time was pushing me to that level. The relationship only lasted for about eight months, but I'm glad I got out of it when I did. It wasn't pleasant and it seriously didn't give me pleasure. The next guy I dated after that was the same way and it was horrible. For me personally, I'd say wait until you are at least 17. That number seems to click rather well for me. 14 is just so young...[/color][/size] [/B][/QUOTE] Yeah, I thought I made a thread on this? (Maybe it was in the staff forum) but I do remember making a thread about it Back when she was my girlfriend we went on a vacation with friends to Malta, drunkeness ensued, and well you know the rest It may not have been our intention to have a child so early (Hey I was 20 when it happened) but now we have the most beautiful girl in the world and were both happy :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
satan665 Posted January 16, 2004 Share Posted January 16, 2004 Yeah this is a little crude, but If you only have sex after marriage, how are you going to be any good at it? Sex and marriage are only tied together because christianity veiws sex as a sin. Its fun, we have lots of different contraceptives and you should be able to experiment a little. I still think sex is very meaningful, but it should be fun and not too serious. Especially after the first time with a person. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zanarkand Abes Posted January 16, 2004 Share Posted January 16, 2004 I know my response is a little late into the topic, but I am in agreement with Blanko. It is not just a recreation for fun, but an intimate thing shared between a husband and his wife. Those who have sex before marriage end up regretting it in the long run. But not only is it a sign of love between a couple, it is also a maturity thing. One must be mature enough to wait for marriage and not rn around and keeping score. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JC Goodwin Posted January 16, 2004 Share Posted January 16, 2004 I would like to raise this to everybody that there is to much presure to have sex. I just did when the time was right . And i did it with some one who i loved very much and we still togher no. But really just dont sweet it to much. Just sit back and wait for it to happen. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
White Mage Posted January 16, 2004 Share Posted January 16, 2004 [size=1]I dont even know why this thread was started if your a catholic and you say that you should wait till your married. Then why are you asking people when do you think the right time to have sex is, if you already have that figured out. But since your talking about oral sex, All I have to say is when you and your partner have talked about it and are both comfortable with doing it. Clean and simple[/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheEsca Posted January 16, 2004 Share Posted January 16, 2004 man, you can have sex any time...go ahead, but then you have to remember you are just a hooker. no offense to any one, but sex is a very mature thing. and christians dont see sex as a sin...pffft, shows how much you know. ANY WAYS, i believe that sex should be an act between man and wife, not something for you to toy with or "experiment" with because its a large life change. You look at relationships completely different after you've had sex, and you could also screw up and have a kid! now, dont take me the wrong way, some people do things on accident and have children, but that doesnt justify it. they could love their children but it was still unplanned and it completely changed their life. sex is ment to be between a man and a women in the bonds of matramony (SP) and thats that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
satan665 Posted January 16, 2004 Share Posted January 16, 2004 Catholics seem to think that it is a sin to have sex without trying to have a baby. Thats why they tend to be against birth control. They're just really outdated though, thinking that the "rhythm" method of contraception will really work. Besides, not all cultures even get married, so should they not have sex? Or maybe wait for someone to convert them? So yeah I do know some stuff, being old has to come with some perks! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Myth Posted January 17, 2004 Share Posted January 17, 2004 [b][size=1]I dont know what you all have said in the past four pages, Im not going to bother reading it. I read the question and my answer is pure and simple. You are ready to have sex when your ready to take the pain and the risk. That was for the women. For the men, your ready for sex when you can handle intentionally hurting your partner and being able to comfort her when shes hurting. If your not mature enough for either of these things, then dont **** up your life.[/b][/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patronus Posted January 17, 2004 Share Posted January 17, 2004 [size=1]Bweh, I hate this question. There's no [i]specific[/i] age for sex. There's no age that is the 'right' time. You do it when you're ready - 13 or 30. Yes, they [i]do[/i] have to take responsiblity when having sexual intercourse, but if they're ready, let 'em do it. It's not the end of the world, even if they do get pregnant.[/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RioLaskand Posted January 17, 2004 Share Posted January 17, 2004 I think that when you are ready you will know what you want, know that you could potentially screw up, and nobody else can tell you when you are ready. If you have religious issues with the whole thing, then that is your thing, and if you aren't then that is cool too. If you have morals about the whole issue, then you won't do it. If you see it as a form of intimacy, morals or not, then you will wait until a very special person comes along. If you just wanna have sex for fun, and you know what you are doing, then that is fine too. That's your thing. Those are just my thoughts after reading all of these arguments and suggestions. Everyone is right. Right? I'll stay Swiss on this and leave neutral, just agreeing with everyone. Hope that makes any sense. Ja ne! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OlgaTheDwarf Posted January 17, 2004 Share Posted January 17, 2004 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by satan665 [/i] [B] Sex and marriage are only tied together because christianity veiws sex as a sin. Its fun, we have lots of different contraceptives and you should be able to experiment a little. I still think sex is very meaningful, but it should be fun and not too serious. Especially after the first time with a person. [/B][/QUOTE] Well see... That seems to be the popular thought on this issue. The funny thing about that is, when that's the popular thought, and you see how screwed up the world is on sex, it should get you to wonder, if the popular thought is a few screws loose. [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by satan665 [/i] [B] Yeah this is a little crude, but If you only have sex after marriage, how are you going to be any good at it? [/B][/QUOTE] Yeah... because you can only have sex [b]once[/b] when your married? They're going to be with each other for the rest of their lives, I'm sure there's time for improvement, that is, if you truely do suck at it. Another thing to think about, if both people waited than, how would they be able to compare what's "good" or not. So, in a way, ignorance isn't always a bad thing, at least on this subject. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChibiHorsewoman Posted January 17, 2004 Share Posted January 17, 2004 [color=violet]You know what, forget what I said in all my previous replies to this topic and everyone else's as well. The best time to have sex is right after breakfast and you've both brushed your teeth! That way you both have pleanty of energy, but no bad breath. Rest assured, I'm [i]not[/i] going to tell my kids that, but I [i]did[/i] think it sounded good.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Inuyasha7575 Posted January 17, 2004 Share Posted January 17, 2004 You should have sex when your ready and when you can be respeonsible with the outcome of ur actions. What am I saying I have no right to say that I havent even had a first kiss yet nor a first date so im probably gonnna be like the only person not doing anything i mean anything on Valentines Day at our Highschool or at night since I have no gf sheesh I started of this year in a bad way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Genkai Posted January 17, 2004 Share Posted January 17, 2004 Alright, I don't fell llike replying to anyone in particular, but it's all about the person in my opinion. When you're ready, you're ready. Just buy come condos. I've been doing it to see cashiers' face expressions since I was 9. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Queen Asuka Posted January 18, 2004 Share Posted January 18, 2004 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Sephiroth [/i] [B]Yeah, I thought I made a thread on this? (Maybe it was in the staff forum) but I do remember making a thread about it Back when she was my girlfriend we went on a vacation with friends to Malta, drunkeness ensued, and well you know the rest It may not have been our intention to have a child so early (Hey I was 20 when it happened) but now we have the most beautiful girl in the world and were both happy :) [/B][/QUOTE] [color=hotpink][size=1]I've been staff for a good while now...maybe it was before my time? You are so OLD and ANCIENT, you know....^_~ The same thing happened to my sisters. In the passion of their relationships, they both found themselves pregnant. Now they are both married and I have two nephews, but they are too darling. My cousin, younger than me, just had a little girl the other day. I'm actually the chainbreaker. First kid in my family in who knows how many generations to not have her first kid by the time I'm 18. Heh.[/color][/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest lavalamp Posted January 18, 2004 Share Posted January 18, 2004 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Genkai [/i] [B]Just buy come condos.[/B][/QUOTE] Buy me some [i]condos[/i] and you and I can have plenty of sex. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie Posted January 19, 2004 Share Posted January 19, 2004 [color=indigo][i][size=1] The right time to have [b]S[/b]ex really d[b]E[/b]pends on the person; their beliefs, their morale, how they feel about se[b]X[/b]ual intercourse. I, per[b]S[/b]onally, beli[b]E[/b]ve you should wait to have se[b]X[/b] when you have found a partner that respects your body, your personality, your life, your beliefs. Sexual intercourse is an act that deserves intimacy, privacy, and passion. It's an act shared between two people who respect one another for who eachother are as a person, not just some piece of ***. Once you have established a sense of intimacy and passion with your partner, non-[b]SEX[/b]ually, then I feel that's when you know you are ready to have sex. [/color][/size][/i] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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