Hard to tell..

[Transtic Nerve]

[QUOTE=wrist cutter]Hmmmm...

Maybe I should've added this to my response:

"Try being un-gay. [i]Worked for me.[/i]"

I'm gay too, I know about these things.[/QUOTE]

Have I ever told you how much I love you?

lol

Um, I went through all of highschool never telling my parents I was gay. I didn't tell them till I got into college. I didn't go to prom either. Or any dance for that matter, it just wasn't my thing, and my parents never presured me about it. I wasn't about to pay $60 a ticket for some crappy dance that most people go to to get laid.

Anyway, judging from her type of question and the way you make it seem she asked it, I would say she wouldn't care too much if you were gay. She may be in shock... denial, whatever.... that wears off. My boyfriend's mom went through the same thing, but now she's really cool with it and her and I get along great actually.

As far as telling your step-dad, thats entirely up to you and your mom if you tell her. You could ask her to keep it to herself for the time being, thats what I asked my mom to do. Then i just told my dad and brother the next day.

ANyway, point is, its your life, you do what you want. Youhave to realize, no mater what your parents think it's not their life to control who you like or don't like. It's just too bad for them that they aren't God I guess, maybe they forgot that. I know lots of gay guys that went to prom with girls as friends... or not at all. Just tell her you don't want to go, period. Whats she gonna do, force you to dress up and force you to go? I don't think so. Till then, just go with the flow, thats life.

[quote name='Undefeated']If I was a parent and my son told me he was gay, I would be fine with it. But he sure as hell wouldn't get another penny from me. I'd invite him to move out on his 18th birthday, and ask that he never contact me again. I'd never stop loving my son, but I could not in any way justify to myself supporting a bad choice (or even, if you think it isn't a choice, bad genes).[/quote]

Because essentially kicking him out of your house and telling him you never want to speak to him again is being totally fine with it isn't it? You're what we in the real world like to call an idiot.

Science lesson: Homosexuality is neither choice nor heriditary, therefor the option of choice and genes do not exist, it simply is. Just as the sky is blue and you are an idiot, it just is.

You can also get off your high horse, because the way you explain yourself is as if you believe that you are better than others. You're not, and it's quite obvious you're not through your arrogance and ignorance.

[Guest Hobbit Goddess]

Hello, all. I'm a brand-spakin' new member here - be gentle, please. :D Of course, I am rather opinionated and can well take constructive comments/suggestions. I do love a good, intelligent debate. Not a trash session but an actual debate. Please keep that in mind.

A friend told me of this site and the current thread and asked my opinion. Couldn't resist as I read post after post, becoming more engrossed - and sometimes appalled, honestly - with each opinion/advice.

Where to begin? I'll keep to the realtively positive.

ChibiHorsewoman - I applaud you. You voiced, extremely well I must say, many of my own opinions and some confusion at certain comments. (Having your feet bound from infancy, being sacraficed as a virgin, and playing Russian Roulette compare exactly how to discovering you are gay and trying to cope with that? I suppose that the first two are also beyond a persons choice to a degree, at least when one is young and under the influence of their culture and parents. But what fool would actually play Russian Roulette who did not have a death wish, I wonder? And at some point, children leave the nest and can decide to continue following ((except the already sacraficed virgins and most Russian Roulette players ;) )) - wished for although not always in reality - archaic social customs). There is no choice at all in being homosexual. As someone stated so well - who would choose to be part of such an openly oppressed group, if not a glutton for abuse?

And side note - homosexuality has been around as long as Earthly culture. I know existed in Egypt, Greece and Mesopotamia (sp?) - Mesopotamia being one of the oldest know organized cultures, to my understanding.

As a parent, I find it totally repugnant that a person who apparently considers having children could state the things that Undefeated did. Please, Undefeated, given your hostility toward those different from you, consider seriously the very grave reasonsibility of parenthood. I can only hope you are very young and many, many years away from actually starting a family. I do not mean to be cruel or condescending, but parenthood is a life long job, whether you may want it to be or not. Trust me, I know! You have no guarantees or "do-overs" or choices. You get the child you get and you make the best of it. But then again, you get a child that is largely a part of you and if you find a "flaw" you cannot tolerate - then you only have yourself as a sigficant part to "blame" for being the "problem". Each child is to be loved and appreciated as an individual, a special part of you and someone else and of themselves combined. Your, in [B]only[/B] my opinion, immature attitude that you cut all ties once your legal obligations were fulfilled shows an extremely narrow-minded view-point and one that is obviously not ready for parenthood.

As a parent, you have no right to be "close-minded" in any way in regards to your offspring - they did not ask about being born. The total responsibility is yours as the parent. End of story. You are completely responsible. If you can't handle that thought - don't be a parent. Children are not little dolls or disposable. They are formulating people who depend upon us and whom we have a responsilbility toward, irregardless.

Parenthood is not for everyone. I have many friends who wisely realized this many years ago. They are great people and most are wonderful with children - specifically my child - but have decided not to have their own childern. As I do wirh ChibiHorsewoman - I totally appluad them. Culturally, deciding not to have children is nearly as tough as announcing that you are gay, from my understanding. People think the worst. Too bad as these people have been instrumental in helpng me raise such a fabulous son.

End of "lecture" for tonight. I look forward to hearing news.



As for [B]Transtic Nerve [/B] - isn't it against the rules to be so blatantly hostile toward another member as you are in your sig line? What the hell did Unborn Lord Xion do to you to cause such hostility? Do you feel threatened by him/her? I really am surprised the moderator hasn't repremanded you. After all, ULX actually, I happen to know, has an IQ close to 140. What's yours?