Parents Fighting [ Serious ]

[Assassin]

[size=1][color=SlateGray]Parent's Fighting,

Yeah, mine fights alot. Although, I wish they did not. Right now for instant their in the front room fighting. It tears up my nerves, also I already have a stomach problem. Nerves effect it, and right now it is all tore up. My arm's are shaking and all. Why can they not get along? I mean, they have been fighting. All couples fight, although some of the ones that fight go to far. I do not want my Parent's to do that. What should I do? If I call the authorities it would just make things worse. I pray for them, so I will keep praying.[/size][/color]

[Shwa]

Trust me, callint he police would be the last thing on your list to do. I have the same problem as you do with my parents fight, It's either about who spends what and on what item or someone is cheating on the other. Their always up late at night shouting at eachother luder and lauder...it annyos the hell outta my brothers and me. Usually they dont talk to eachother for a while and do their own thin, but then they get back together and say, "I'm sorry" and stuff like that. I'm sure your parents wil cool off for a while after their shouting fest and go their seperate ways and ignor one another. Hope that helps out a little w/ your problem.

~Laters

[Guest lavalamp]

Put on headphones or something. People fight and that's just that. Don't let it upset you because it's not worth getting upset over. Roll your eyes a few times and go about your business.

[Assassin]

[size=1][color=SlateGray]You see, my Mother has heart problems. When she screams, crys, etc. The pace maker some times have to kick in. Also, she may pass out. Today, it's about the cheating deal. Also, my nerves is called up. My Dad is most likely not like yours. He will not, basically, let anything go. It tears my nerves up along with my sisters. Also, my Dad has hit my Mom before. That is why I try to calm them down and get screamed at. I just do not know what to do.[/size][/color]

[adempton]

Assassin... speaking from experience here: The second your dad does anything that is obviously wrong, such as hitting you or your mother, it is perfectly all right to call the police. That is illegal and wrong. Physical abuse is not right. But if the fight is just verbal, unless you want to get involved, there isn't a lot you can do, bud. The headphones idea might be your best bet.

~adempton

[Assassin]

[size=1][color=SlateGray]Adempton,

I know that I should call the police. It's just that, I do not want my Dad to go to jail. I knew him most of the life. Although, some times he was in jail. He got saved and changed for a little while. Here lately he has been cussing, etc. I am worried about my Mom also. She had breast cancer and she had Kemoe [sp]. So she is weak about that. I just do not know what to do. It's been getting pretty bad here lately.[/size][/color]

[adempton]

I don't know who is to blame for the arguement, your dad or your mom, but from the sounds of things your mom isn't in very good shape. Personally, I don't let anyone take crap from my dad since he almost ruined my life many times. And I've had to call the police multiple times so I wouldn't be hesitant to do so now. (But thankfully I won't have to since I no longer live there.) I really don't want to see you getting yourself involved in the fight, because if your dad is abusive like mine was, it means you're suddenly going to be on the line. Don't get yourself hurt, but if your mom is in [I]real danger[/I] then it [I]doesn't matter[/I] that your dad will end up in jail for a while. If he harms you/her, then he [I]deserves [/I] to be punished. And that's exactly what jail is?punishment. You are a loyal son, you obviously love both of your parents. But regardless, certain things should not be allowed to occur. Abuse is one of them.

But if this cools off, and everyone is calm later on, then perhaps it would be wise for you to sit down with both of them and express how you feel... That you're scared for both of them, and that you're feeling sick because of your nerves, which is largely due to their arguing. And that you don't want anything to happen to them.

But if there is an emergency, that's what the police are there for. To protect you.

~adempton

[Assassin]

[size=1][color=SlateGray]Adempton,

Thank you very kindly. It seems you and multiple other's understand what I am going through. Yes, my dad is some what abusive. Also, I had called the law one time. I understand that if I take up for my Mom or something. My dad would put me on the line. The way I see it, better off me getting hurt than my Mother. Although, my mom would say vice versa. Adempton, your advice is great. I really would like to take it. If I do...They would most likely be another arguement. Right now everything calmed down, their both in bed. Neither talking to the other. Hopefully it will basically stay that way for awhile. The reason why I created this thread, is because it helps me to talk about this. Thank you all so very much.[/size][/color]

[adempton]

You're very welcome! I'm glad we helped you talk it out a little. I wish the best for you and your family. And may there be minimal conflict in the future. ^_^

If you ever feel the need, you may contact me via PM.

~adempton

[Shwa]

I would have to go with Ademption on the calling the police thing, that is what my brothers and I did one time when our mother told us our step-dad touched her in a abusive way. We didn't see it but it was our first instinct to protect her at any cost. My mother and father got devorced when we lived in Germany when we were young, our mom took us to the states and raised us good. It was hard for her and we thank her for doing that 'cause now we are better people. So if she needs us for any reason at all we'll be there. I also did the listening to music thing as ademption suggested, but what I do is meditation....it kida works. Clearning your mind when something is wrong in your life helps you out a lot.

~Laters

P.S Sorry to hear that your mom has heart trouble :(

[ChibiHorsewoman]

[color=darkviolet]Has your mom tried to leave at all? That would probably be the best for her. She could either go to a family member's house a YWCA or some women's shelter. Doing that is for her own good.

You mentioned that your dad is cheating on her. I don't know what your religion says about things like that, but I think that would be grounds for a divorce. It doesn't matter hwo long you've known him or that he 'claims' to be 'born again'. My mother-in-law knew my husband's father for ten years and he beat the crap out of her, does that make a difference? A girl I knew in Texas had been with her husband for a while too, but she didn't hesitate to move back to Germany with some of her family when he got too possesive. Hell, there have been pleanty of killers who claimed to be Christian to, so what about that?

If he lays a hand on her, I would call the police. But I'd make sure they did something like put him in Jail for the night where he belongs or get you and your mom and some siblings to a safe house. You said your father or whatever, had been in jail before, obviously he didn't learn his lesson last time around.

I'm not to sure what else to add to this piece of advice. Except try to convince your mom to leave the guy. She should probably seek some legal advice if she plans on doing that. You know, incase they co-signed on a house, or both of them share payments on other things/ She should also consider opening a private savings account incase he tries to take money out of a joint account they may already have.

That's all I have to say, and don't ask how I came by all that advice.[/color]